I read this thread yesterday and wondered how I could justify my hypocrisy.
When he was sent off, I accepted it as a straight red and I think my disappointment was more levelled at our desperate situation that at O'Neill.
As a purist, I like to see a fair game - no deliberate fouls, no diving, no influencing the officials etc. I realise this is an ideology and doesn't really exist in practise. That said, I still think the laws of the game are there to be adhered to. Mistimed tackles and accidents are one thing but every flouting of the rules to get an edge is another. It wasn't an accidental foul, he had no chance of getting the ball and so broke the rules (although the level of punishment for each offence is a different debate).
For that tackle, he may not have had the time to contemplate the decision to drag the player down but he did so instinctively. Instinct is based on all our thinking and mindset prior to the crucial moment (ie he already had it in his psyche to do a professional foul for the sake of a competitive edge). Personally, I couldn't ever do that, although my football has never been played with millions at stake and thousands of fans hopes resting on my shoulders. If I ran through scenarios like that with that pressure, I might be less righteous.
While my purism, condemns such actions, my pragmatism realises that, for example, the Derby fans and players revelled in the sending off almost as much as a goal - thinking that it was a near-decisive advantage. That, in my mind, reduces the impact of the action because the affected party willingly accepted it (or the punishment of it) readily.
He is a sinner but did I care when that goal went in? No. Am I a hypocrite? Partially, yes.