I've heard the robin thing as well, it's not something I believe in but somehow I've learnt that there's some things that you can't really explain turns out to be relevant. It's better to find something that works for you
The it’s ok to not be ok thread
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I've heard the robin thing as well, it's not something I believe in but somehow I've learnt that there's some things that you can't really explain turns out to be relevant. It's better to find something that works for you
No need to be sorry. That's what the thread is for!
He'd have bloody well loved this season wouldn't he? I keep thinking that about my Dad. He'll be proud that I'm still going and supporting the lads and I guess yours will probably be thinking the same about you.
He would have loved it, i reckon Alderete would have been his Player of the year, he loved a strong centre half with some skill.
If we make europe, dad will be there with me
The weirdest thing happened just before Dan Ballard scored in the Coventry match. I honestly felt like he was there beside me.
He always had stubble. He would shave on a morning and by dinnertime, he looked like he needed a shave! He used to rub his scratchy cheek on mine and call it a whiskers kiss! Even though he wasn't there, I had the sensation of a whiskers kiss on my cheek in the seconds between Enzo putting the ball down and Dan Ballard scoring. I don't usually believe in stuff like that but that felt real.
Someone asks how you are, you say "Fine"....how can that be harsh? Thats how you felt today, or at that particular time they messaged you.
As you say, you may feel different tomorrow....or even an hour after they messaged.
Take things at your own pace mate, there will be highs and lows, happy times and sad times. You cant choose when they happen, they just do....you've just got go with it I guess.
Dont ever apologise for posting your thoughts on this thread, if it helps to say it, then say it.
You're never alone on here, we're all here for you mate.
I love the way you have described that...a "whiskers kiss".
That made me smile.
God that brings back a few memories...my dad used to do that with me mam when he was messing about and called them his whiskery kisses, theyre both gone now and have been more than 50 years so that has really brought a treasured reminder of them both...Thanks Becs.
Really resonates that Becs. Thanks for sharing.
I’ve mentioned earlier on this thread that my lads and I feel as though my Dad has been with us in the stadium since the Coventry playoff game last season. It’s strange as none of us have experienced that with other family members who have passed away in our adult lives. We also didn’t experience it before the Coventry game.
I can’t explain how or why but it just is and it’s a massive comfort. I gave it a lot of thought over last summer and was a bit nervous ahead of the West Ham game on the opening day in case it wasn’t the same and it was a relief when it was.
Chunk, you’ve got to do what works for you and your family and as others have said, factor in time for you as well.
Hope tomorrow goes as smoothly as possible.
Also hope we get the result and European football everyone is hoping for on Sunday.
The stadium and all those now upstairs will be right behind the lads.
Can’t wait.
Hi mate,Hope you've been ok today mate, you've been in my thoughts today.
Been a tough day, but we got through it.
Helped knowing people where here for me and the family
Just thought I'd bump this up to the first page again.
Everyone ok?
Everyone ok?
Still unwell with symptoms that have been ongoing since about autumn 2024.
After many repeat visits to my GP, I was referred to rheumatology in September 2025 for possible Sjogren's syndrome.
The symptoms are getting worse. I've been back to the GP twice. There's a new male GP who has seen me both times and dismissed it all as "just menopause related so deal with it."
I spoke to the hospital last week to chase up the referral and they said I'm still on the list as a routine appointment but their waiting list is so long, it'll probably be about another six months before I'm seen. I explained the symptoms are getting worse. He said if went back to the GP, they might be able to expediate it as a more urgent appointment which would bump me up the list.
I filled in an e-consult and explained what is going on and asked to be expediated. The surgery rang me back and said the male GP wants to speak to me. I've got an appointment with him on Thursday. I'm not hopeful of getting help from to be honest.
Main problems are excessively dry eyes. I have to use eye drops several times a day, I keep getting twitching under my eyes, my eyes feel gritty and sore all the time and I keep seeing things in my peripheral vision that are not there.
Excessively dry mouth. My mouth feels claggy and I feel thirsty all the time. I keep coughing due to the dryness. I have a mouth spray I use frequently and I suck mints to get relief. It's affecting speaking as my mouth just dries up and my voice goes if I have to speak for a long time. Noticed it more at the footy when I'm yelling and my voice gives up mid-chant.
Swollen feet and lower legs. Feels like I'm walking on bubble wrap and sometimes it's hard to get my shoes on.
Swollen glands in my neck with pain going up into my jaw and ears.
Muscle and joint aches and pains all over that come and go.
Fatigue that feels like I'm really overworked, even though I'm just doing normal everyday stuff.
Then this last week, I noticed my resting heart rate has dropped. I wear a fitness tracker and my overnight heart rate has dropped to 45-49 bpm which seems a bit low.
So yes, not feeling my best at the moment!
After many repeat visits to my GP, I was referred to rheumatology in September 2025 for possible Sjogren's syndrome.
The symptoms are getting worse. I've been back to the GP twice. There's a new male GP who has seen me both times and dismissed it all as "just menopause related so deal with it."
I spoke to the hospital last week to chase up the referral and they said I'm still on the list as a routine appointment but their waiting list is so long, it'll probably be about another six months before I'm seen. I explained the symptoms are getting worse. He said if went back to the GP, they might be able to expediate it as a more urgent appointment which would bump me up the list.
I filled in an e-consult and explained what is going on and asked to be expediated. The surgery rang me back and said the male GP wants to speak to me. I've got an appointment with him on Thursday. I'm not hopeful of getting help from to be honest.
Main problems are excessively dry eyes. I have to use eye drops several times a day, I keep getting twitching under my eyes, my eyes feel gritty and sore all the time and I keep seeing things in my peripheral vision that are not there.
Excessively dry mouth. My mouth feels claggy and I feel thirsty all the time. I keep coughing due to the dryness. I have a mouth spray I use frequently and I suck mints to get relief. It's affecting speaking as my mouth just dries up and my voice goes if I have to speak for a long time. Noticed it more at the footy when I'm yelling and my voice gives up mid-chant.
Swollen feet and lower legs. Feels like I'm walking on bubble wrap and sometimes it's hard to get my shoes on.
Swollen glands in my neck with pain going up into my jaw and ears.
Muscle and joint aches and pains all over that come and go.
Fatigue that feels like I'm really overworked, even though I'm just doing normal everyday stuff.
Then this last week, I noticed my resting heart rate has dropped. I wear a fitness tracker and my overnight heart rate has dropped to 45-49 bpm which seems a bit low.
So yes, not feeling my best at the moment!
That doesn't sound good at all. Hopefully you get sorted soon
Becs is it worth trying the eye clinic at the RVI. They normally have a walk in appointment and if they could see what is causing the eye issue it may help
That sounds awful, I hope you do get sorted soon. Hopefully you get expedited on Thursday.
On a completely different subject...do you like the theatre, as in Sunderland Empire?
If you do, I have 2 tickets for Moulin Rouge and would like to offer them to you if you would like them, free.
Maybe a day out might give a bit relief from how you are feeling.
I couldn't think of anything worse tbh, so they would go to waste otherwise.
Sorry to hear that Becs, hope things pick up for you soon. The menopause thing from your doctor sounds familiar, my wife got that for years every time she had something wrong. That said, we probably don't understand enough about the menopause to know what effect it can have. Our lass developed an intolerance to gluten while she was menopausal and there's no other explanation as to why that suddenly happened.
That's really kind of you, thank you so much. If it's a date we can make, I'd enjoy that.
That's a nightmare being intolerant to gluten. It's so difficult and expensive to buy food.
I was advised to go gluten free for a couple of weeks to see if it helped with my Crohn's disease. I discovered that bizarrely one of the gums used in gluten free flour is a trigger for me so I can't eat gluten free bread etc.