Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

[DJBlackandamberarmy(No4)]

Been reading a bit lately about OCD and how it is often mistaken for people been overly tidy , etc and I think I may have it . Some of the most common things are checking doors are locked over and over when you know they are, checking the gas hob is turned off when you haven’t even used it, and checking light switches are pressed all the way down when you turn them off, I do all them and just thought I was a little weird in all honesty ( probably am ) . Not really sure how I feel about it really , not sure it affects my life overly much but wonder if it causes other stuff I’m not aware of ..

 

[AlRawdah]

Been reading a bit lately about OCD and how it is often mistaken for people been overly tidy , etc and I think I may have it . Some of the most common things are checking doors are locked over and over when you know they are, checking the gas hob is turned off when you haven’t even used it, and checking light switches are pressed all the way down when you turn them off, I do all them and just thought I was a little weird in all honesty ( probably am ) . Not really sure how I feel about it really , not sure it affects my life overly much but wonder if it causes other stuff I’m not aware of ..

Checking your keys and wallet every two minutes, another common tell. I’m riddled with ‘em!!

 

[Ron Burguvdy]

Often mistaken for each other apparently

Overview - Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)

Find out about obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), what causes it, where to get help, and what the main treatments are.

www.nhs.uk

Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD)

Find out about generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) including the symptoms, causes, how it's diagnosed and the treatment and support available.

www.nhs.uk

 

[Steven Toast]

Yes it can be treated but sometimes the reason behind it can’t be.

Like cancer, depression has many forms and some are deadly and some aren’t.

Let’s just hope none of us suffer too badly with either.

I've struggled with depression from the age of 12 up to today, my 38th birthday. In short, it ****ing sucks.

It isn't something that can be pinned down to just one factor and annoyingly, it manifests differently across every sufferer of it so getting advice from others can be a nightmare. Some days I feel like I can do anything, other days I feel useless, pointless and alone. When you're the father of two of the most wonderful young girls on the planet, that shouldn't be a thing. When you spend your days teaching young people and enjoying your job, there shouldn't be dark thoughts. When you're sat watching your favourite football team, you shouldn't think about hurting yourself or subconsciously driving your fingernails into your wrists and arms because you enjoy the pain. But those are burdens I've had to live with and endure because I love so dearly the people that depend on me.

Some days it's more than a struggle, it's a battle, a full on ****ing war where if I don't win, the consequences are ****ing huge. So I have to win, every time. Other days, I don't have to fight anything and it's great. Some days I can write poetry, I can fire off 6000 words of a story that sprang to mind, I could tell you the best striker currently playing in the Bhutanese top flight or sing Frank Sinatra so damn well it brings my grandmother to tears. My problem is I have no control over when those good days can happen, or when I have to mentally duel the part of me that doesn't want me to exist. Everyday is a lottery, I guess. But like other depression sufferers, I have techniques and methods which I can use along with a decent support network and inspirations to get me through the tougher times.

I am diagnosed ADHD, severely OCD and bisexual (not a mental illness, but relevant to my earlier mental health struggles), so there's a lot of stuff my brain tries to process all at once and there are days when I just... can't. You can treat ADHD with medication, you can treat OCD with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and you can scratch the itch of bisexuality by enjoying both Tom Hardy and Karen Gillian at the same time. But you can't treat what you can't understand or explain, you can't fix a problem if you don't know the cause and you certainly can't just pop a pill and guarantee that everything will suddenly become a Woodstock style love in. There are steps some people can take to help move past depression, cure probably isn't the right word but certainly get to a point where they feel like they're much healthier - in Lenihan's case he was sectioned and underwent electroconvulsive therapy.

Footballers struggle with all sorts of mental health issues because the pressure on them to succeed in their chosen career is massive; having made it through the gruelling academy process and getting that professional contract, there's still a dozen ways you can fail and unfortunately for Lenihan, through no fault of his own, he struggled with a bad injury just as he was breaking into first team football and during that period fell into depression and tried to take his own life. They're paid good money, but then knowing that the money is perched on the edge of a cliff and could plummet at any moment is going to constantly play on their minds, especially when they're young and seeing their peers being released. Not everybody can summon the fortitude or resilience to bounce back, many young players just drop football because they feel like they've failed and a lot of the time, very few people in football are willing to step forward and correct them on that.

I hope Brian is doing well, wherever he is and I know that when I heard him on a podcast a few years ago, he reflected on that time really well.

Anyway, we signed anyone yet?

 

[Top_Tiger]

I've struggled with depression from the age of 12 up to today, my 38th birthday. In short, it ****ing sucks.

It isn't something that can be pinned down to just one factor and annoyingly, it manifests differently across every sufferer of it so getting advice from others can be a nightmare. Some days I feel like I can do anything, other days I feel useless, pointless and alone. When you're the father of two of the most wonderful young girls on the planet, that shouldn't be a thing. When you spend your days teaching young people and enjoying your job, there shouldn't be dark thoughts. When you're sat watching your favourite football team, you shouldn't think about hurting yourself or subconsciously driving your fingernails into your wrists and arms because you enjoy the pain. But those are burdens I've had to live with and endure because I love so dearly the people that depend on me.

Some days it's more than a struggle, it's a battle, a full on ****ing war where if I don't win, the consequences are ****ing huge. So I have to win, every time. Other days, I don't have to fight anything and it's great. Some days I can write poetry, I can fire off 6000 words of a story that sprang to mind, I could tell you the best striker currently playing in the Bhutanese top flight or sing Frank Sinatra so damn well it brings my grandmother to tears. My problem is I have no control over when those good days can happen, or when I have to mentally duel the part of me that doesn't want me to exist. Everyday is a lottery, I guess. But like other depression sufferers, I have techniques and methods which I can use along with a decent support network and inspirations to get me through the tougher times.

I am diagnosed ADHD, severely OCD and bisexual (not a mental illness, but relevant to my earlier mental health struggles), so there's a lot of stuff my brain tries to process all at once and there are days when I just... can't. You can treat ADHD with medication, you can treat OCD with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and you can scratch the itch of bisexuality by enjoying both Tom Hardy and Karen Gillian at the same time. But you can't treat what you can't understand or explain, you can't fix a problem if you don't know the cause and you certainly can't just pop a pill and guarantee that everything will suddenly become a Woodstock style love in. There are steps some people can take to help move past depression, cure probably isn't the right word but certainly get to a point where they feel like they're much healthier - in Lenihan's case he was sectioned and underwent electroconvulsive therapy.

Footballers struggle with all sorts of mental health issues because the pressure on them to succeed in their chosen career is massive; having made it through the gruelling academy process and getting that professional contract, there's still a dozen ways you can fail and unfortunately for Lenihan, through no fault of his own, he struggled with a bad injury just as he was breaking into first team football and during that period fell into depression and tried to take his own life. They're paid good money, but then knowing that the money is perched on the edge of a cliff and could plummet at any moment is going to constantly play on their minds, especially when they're young and seeing their peers being released. Not everybody can summon the fortitude or resilience to bounce back, many young players just drop football because they feel like they've failed and a lot of the time, very few people in football are willing to step forward and correct them on that.

I hope Brian is doing well, wherever he is and I know that when I heard him on a podcast a few years ago, he reflected on that time really well.

Anyway, we signed anyone yet?

A fantastic post mate, that sums it up brilliantly. Keep battling on, simply understanding it can be seen a success.

Having a sister that’s been sectioned and as a family and dealing that with 7/8 years, you will never really quite understand it unless it happens to yourself or someone close.

 

[djsowtz]

Good point that, Ern.

Penis flattery aside, also a good idea about moving the comment, doesn't really fit here. @originallambrettaman would you be so kind?

It’s valid on any thread buddy, and an absolutely great and honest post and extremely courageous.

 

[djsowtz]

I've struggled with depression from the age of 12 up to today, my 38th birthday. In short, it ****ing sucks.

It isn't something that can be pinned down to just one factor and annoyingly, it manifests differently across every sufferer of it so getting advice from others can be a nightmare. Some days I feel like I can do anything, other days I feel useless, pointless and alone. When you're the father of two of the most wonderful young girls on the planet, that shouldn't be a thing. When you spend your days teaching young people and enjoying your job, there shouldn't be dark thoughts. When you're sat watching your favourite football team, you shouldn't think about hurting yourself or subconsciously driving your fingernails into your wrists and arms because you enjoy the pain. But those are burdens I've had to live with and endure because I love so dearly the people that depend on me.

Some days it's more than a struggle, it's a battle, a full on ****ing war where if I don't win, the consequences are ****ing huge. So I have to win, every time. Other days, I don't have to fight anything and it's great. Some days I can write poetry, I can fire off 6000 words of a story that sprang to mind, I could tell you the best striker currently playing in the Bhutanese top flight or sing Frank Sinatra so damn well it brings my grandmother to tears. My problem is I have no control over when those good days can happen, or when I have to mentally duel the part of me that doesn't want me to exist. Everyday is a lottery, I guess. But like other depression sufferers, I have techniques and methods which I can use along with a decent support network and inspirations to get me through the tougher times.

I am diagnosed ADHD, severely OCD and bisexual (not a mental illness, but relevant to my earlier mental health struggles), so there's a lot of stuff my brain tries to process all at once and there are days when I just... can't. You can treat ADHD with medication, you can treat OCD with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and you can scratch the itch of bisexuality by enjoying both Tom Hardy and Karen Gillian at the same time. But you can't treat what you can't understand or explain, you can't fix a problem if you don't know the cause and you certainly can't just pop a pill and guarantee that everything will suddenly become a Woodstock style love in. There are steps some people can take to help move past depression, cure probably isn't the right word but certainly get to a point where they feel like they're much healthier - in Lenihan's case he was sectioned and underwent electroconvulsive therapy.

Footballers struggle with all sorts of mental health issues because the pressure on them to succeed in their chosen career is massive; having made it through the gruelling academy process and getting that professional contract, there's still a dozen ways you can fail and unfortunately for Lenihan, through no fault of his own, he struggled with a bad injury just as he was breaking into first team football and during that period fell into depression and tried to take his own life. They're paid good money, but then knowing that the money is perched on the edge of a cliff and could plummet at any moment is going to constantly play on their minds, especially when they're young and seeing their peers being released. Not everybody can summon the fortitude or resilience to bounce back, many young players just drop football because they feel like they've failed and a lot of the time, very few people in football are willing to step forward and correct them on that.

I hope Brian is doing well, wherever he is and I know that when I heard him on a podcast a few years ago, he reflected on that time really well.

Anyway, we signed anyone yet?

Not to butt in, but I was always that guy that got knocked down, got back up again, nothing bothered me. I never understood depression if I’m honest. I used to think, just get on with things. Then my daughter tried to commit suicide at 13 and then again at 14. She’s 17 now and appears to be through it all. Then I had problems, lots of them with different people, not because I did anything, but because I worked in the local community and it’s difficult, because people will go to you, text you when you’re not working because they have a problem, drag you into things that are nothing to do with you. Then my best pal convinced me to go into business with him. I knew it wasn’t right. I went along with it, then he pulled out on me 6 months or so ago. He left me with the biggest load of ****e. So I’ve suffered with bad depression over the last 3 years from the various events. Like Steven said, there’s no rhyme or reason to it, it’s difficult to control. People will tell me, do this, do that, **** them, don’t listen to so and so, but it’s really not that simple.

I eventually sold my house, was supposed to happen 2 years ago, but with everything it dragged on. I have a very tiny amount of money left over to start again, and a big reason why I’m looking to move back to England for a fresh start. If anyone has any contacts around W Yorks I need somewhere small to start my catering business from again (and to store a trailer 3m long, 1.3m wide), which will hopefully get my life and my girls lives back on track (although they will still live in Scotland). Thank you and apologies for it being on this thread.

 

[Drew]

Some days it's more than a struggle, it's a battle, a full on ****ing war where if I don't win, the consequences are ****ing huge. So I have to win, every time. Other days, I don't have to fight anything and it's great. Some days I can write poetry, I can fire off 6000 words of a story that sprang to mind, I could tell you the best striker currently playing in the Bhutanese top flight or sing Frank Sinatra so damn well it brings my grandmother to tears. My problem is I have no control over when those good days can happen, or when I have to mentally duel the part of me that doesn't want me to exist. Everyday is a lottery, I guess. But like other depression sufferers, I have techniques and methods which I can use along

I've struggled with depression from the age of 12 up to today, my 38th birthday. In short, it ****ing sucks.

It isn't something that can be pinned down to just one factor and annoyingly, it manifests differently across every sufferer of it so getting advice from others can be a nightmare. Some days I feel like I can do anything, other days I feel useless, pointless and alone. When you're the father of two of the most wonderful young girls on the planet, that shouldn't be a thing. When you spend your days teaching young people and enjoying your job, there shouldn't be dark thoughts. When you're sat watching your favourite football team, you shouldn't think about hurting yourself or subconsciously driving your fingernails into your wrists and arms because you enjoy the pain. But those are burdens I've had to live with and endure because I love so dearly the people that depend on me.

Some days it's more than a struggle, it's a battle, a full on ****ing war where if I don't win, the consequences are ****ing huge. So I have to win, every time. Other days, I don't have to fight anything and it's great. Some days I can write poetry, I can fire off 6000 words of a story that sprang to mind, I could tell you the best striker currently playing in the Bhutanese top flight or sing Frank Sinatra so damn well it brings my grandmother to tears. My problem is I have no control over when those good days can happen, or when I have to mentally duel the part of me that doesn't want me to exist. Everyday is a lottery, I guess. But like other depression sufferers, I have techniques and methods which I can use along with a decent support network and inspirations to get me through the tougher times.

I am diagnosed ADHD, severely OCD and bisexual (not a mental illness, but relevant to my earlier mental health struggles), so there's a lot of stuff my brain tries to process all at once and there are days when I just... can't. You can treat ADHD with medication, you can treat OCD with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and you can scratch the itch of bisexuality by enjoying both Tom Hardy and Karen Gillian at the same time. But you can't treat what you can't understand or explain, you can't fix a problem if you don't know the cause and you certainly can't just pop a pill and guarantee that everything will suddenly become a Woodstock style love in. There are steps some people can take to help move past depression, cure probably isn't the right word but certainly get to a point where they feel like they're much healthier - in Lenihan's case he was sectioned and underwent electroconvulsive therapy.

Footballers struggle with all sorts of mental health issues because the pressure on them to succeed in their chosen career is massive; having made it through the gruelling academy process and getting that professional contract, there's still a dozen ways you can fail and unfortunately for Lenihan, through no fault of his own, he struggled with a bad injury just as he was breaking into first team football and during that period fell into depression and tried to take his own life. They're paid good money, but then knowing that the money is perched on the edge of a cliff and could plummet at any moment is going to constantly play on their minds, especially when they're young and seeing their peers being released. Not everybody can summon the fortitude or resilience to bounce back, many young players just drop football because they feel like they've failed and a lot of the time, very few people in football are willing to step forward and correct them on that.

I hope Brian is doing well, wherever he is and I know that when I heard him on a podcast a few years ago, he reflected on that time really well.

Anyway, we signed anyone yet?

Thanks very much for sharing. I know the difficulties and being open about it is so important.

 

[djsowtz]

Happy birthday, @Steven Toast , I hope today is a good day for you.

 

[Melbournetiger]

I appreciate your honesty Steven. I am coming towards the end of my time as a psychiatric nurse, been one since 1978 started at the top of WILLERBY ie De la POLE
That taught me a lot about life and the way we see people. I am retiring in June, 72 not out, life is good, I still treat people as individuals, which means everyone has their own story, bottom line is believe in yourself
Nothing much more to add, apart from I feel against all these odds I think we will arrive in Ptemier league even though not prepared !
Beauty of life

 

[Top_Tiger]

Has anyone encountered a relative or someone close on the hormone treatment generally used for prostate cancer. My old man is all over the joint on it at the moment, usually quite a strong personality he seems to be very ‘flappy’ and emotional at the minute.

 

[Ric Glasgow]

Has anyone encountered a relative or someone close on the hormone treatment generally used for prostate cancer. My old man is all over the joint on it at the moment, usually quite a strong personality he seems to be very ‘flappy’ and emotional at the minute.

As with most medications,sometimes there are certain ones that don't suit some people.My old man had prostrate cancer and took meds but I never noticed him up or down on them?

I take some sort of tablet that deals with male hormones(not for cancer but for enlarged prostrate) and they can mess with your emotions at times.If it continues with your Father,my only advice would be to get back to the GP and explain things,there'll more than likely be another alternative they could try?

 

[philhul]

If anyone fancies a watch, this is the documentary Marcus (TheHullBoy) made of his journey running from Lands End to John o' Groats whilst raising £254K for MIND. Inspiring video (2 hours though) full of grit, determination, blood, sweat and tears (and that was me just watching it - I even get a mention)....enjoy, its worth it

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[TIGERSCAVE]

I find it wonderful that this board has this thread. So I hope that those who read this post will appreciate its I did. I heard it/ saw it today on instagram and found it like an exocet missile, I could see it coming but could do nothing about it. I personally found it so objective and thought provoking. I hope all those struggling find their peace and smile and that this is the right thread on which to post.

By author James McCrae. The piece was inspired by the thought of a soul being given instructions before incarnating on Earth – a reminder of our higher purpose in this crazy world.

---

Instructions before visiting Earth​

In the event that you wake up
and find your soul separated from source
and manifest into material form, don’t panic.
Your condition is only temporary.

You have been selected for the opportunity
of human incarnation.

This 3D simulation is designed
to break up the monotony of eternity
by giving you a fully immersive experience
as a distinct ego identity.

Your body will serve
as your physical avatar
as you navigate a dense and dramatic reality.
There will be many distractions
causing you to forget your true nature and origin.
You will experience a range of emotions
from joy to loneliness to despair.

But remember – no matter
what trials and traumas you encounter,
your soul remains perfectly safe.

At times you may feel lost or afraid.
This is totally normal.
If you ever need guidance,
simply slow down your busy mind
and bring your awareness
to the quiet place
inside yourself.

On this planet, nothing is permanent.
People and things will come and go.
You will fall in love and form sentimental attachments
only to lose everything you hold dear.

So cling to nothing too tightly, even yourself,
and when it’s time to let go, let go with grace,
for nothing is owned, only borrowed.

As you walk among
the people on the planet,
try to be a good guest.
Tread lightly. Remember
that you are only visiting.
Don’t make a mess.
Listen more than you speak.
Give more than you take.

Don’t keep your soft heart
locked inside a glass cage,
protected from wear and tear.

You’ll never make it out alive
and time passes quickly.
So come back with some battle scars
and good stories to tell.



** and we were selected to support Hull City..... best wishes to all

 

[DazzaHatty]

My headspace isn't great at the moment. I should be preparing for an accounting exam but, im putting it off. I barely get out of bed. I barely leave the house and when I do it's only to walk around the block or nip to shop for something.

To make matters worse, I was suffering woth the worst toothache imaginable over the weekend. I had the tooth extracted today and the after care is way too much to think about right now. I just want to avoid everything and hide away but, I can't. My mouth won't heal correctly if I do. I just honestly cannot be bothered with life right now.

Thanks for reading. If anyone has advice I look forward to reading it. Please don't be too blunt. I know the obvious is get my head out of my arse and just do. But, honestly it was an effort today to just vent here.

I'm not happy, im just not.

 

[spesupersydera]

My headspace isn't great at the moment. I should be preparing for an accounting exam but, im putting it off. I barely get out of bed. I barely leave the house and when I do it's only to walk around the block or nip to shop for something.

To make matters worse, I was suffering woth the worst toothache imaginable over the weekend. I had the tooth extracted today and the after care is way too much to think about right now. I just want to avoid everything and hide away but, I can't. My mouth won't heal correctly if I do. I just honestly cannot be bothered with life right now.

Thanks for reading. If anyone has advice I look forward to reading it. Please don't be too blunt. I know the obvious is get my head out of my arse and just do. But, honestly it was an effort today to just vent here.

I'm not happy, im just not.

You've spoken up about it, it may be only here so far but it's not all bottled inside - that's part way to getting back to normality; if you have family and real friends to talk to that will be another step along the way. Don't be bottling it up

 

[DazzaHatty]

You've spoken up about it, it may be only here so far but it's not all bottled inside - that's part way to getting back to normality; if you have family and real friends to talk to that will be another step along the way. Don't be bottling it up

Thanks mate. I'm going to contact a friend about it. I just need to build up thr guts to

 

[Chazz Rheinhold]

My headspace isn't great at the moment. I should be preparing for an accounting exam but, im putting it off. I barely get out of bed. I barely leave the house and when I do it's only to walk around the block or nip to shop for something.

To make matters worse, I was suffering woth the worst toothache imaginable over the weekend. I had the tooth extracted today and the after care is way too much to think about right now. I just want to avoid everything and hide away but, I can't. My mouth won't heal correctly if I do. I just honestly cannot be bothered with life right now.

Thanks for reading. If anyone has advice I look forward to reading it. Please don't be too blunt. I know the obvious is get my head out of my arse and just do. But, honestly it was an effort today to just vent here.

I'm not happy, im just not.

Make a Referral

Could help you
And see GP asap
Post all you want on here

 

[Ric Glasgow]

Thanks mate. I'm going to contact a friend about it. I just need to build up thr guts to

Don't dwell 'building up guts',if they're a good friend they'll be glad you've reached out to them...Stay strong and share

 

[DazzaHatty]

Make a Referral

Could help you
And see GP asap
Post all you want on here

⁸

Don't dwell 'building up guts',if they're a good friend they'll be glad you've reached out to them...Stay strong and share

Thanks Chaz. I will do so, I forget about letstalk. I used them when I lost my dad in 2021. I messaged on here a fair bit back then and I got some wonderful comments and advice. I appreciated the gp idea too. Itd be good to get somethings off my chest to them.

Thanks too Ric. I think they're a good friend. They ask how I am and then when I tell them, they sometimes say it's too heavy to deal with right now. Some need a break and can't handle other people's issues. Right now I wouldn't be much of a help for someone else. So I do get it! But, i wouldn't ask if the truth could be too heavy. Messaging him spontaneously, im not sure the reaction going off that when he asks me