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askewshair said:
There are a lot of adults getting diagnosed now with neuro diverse conditions. Our daughter for one was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 36. She certainly didn’t have any devices until she was well into her teens (as was the way back then). I think overall, she found her own way of managing it, without actually realising. I was really surprised because I spent my career working with troubled and troublesome kids. Those who were diagnosed with ADHD back in the day, stood out because generally they were absolute live wires, constantly bouncing off the ceilings, until they were pumped up full of Ritalin and then reduced to ‘zombies’. It was sad to see. In some ways, I think maybe it was a blessing it wasn’t picked up for my daughter. Overall she found a way to manage it, and has done very well without it.
There has always been a lot of controversy over the diagnosis, I know when I first started my career, there was a thought that ADHD was not a real diagnosis and that it was created by drug companies to make money. Throughout my working life, parents who claimed their kids had ADHD, were often dismissed as wanting an excuse because they couldn’t control their kids. And they couldn’t even get an assessment.
So, I don’t think there’s any evidence to show that more kids have ADHD, just a greater understanding of neuro diverse conditions, so more are getting more assessed (albeit having to wait a long time).
Apparently there is a definite hereditary link to ADHD, and every populist survey I have managed to fully complete suggest I’ve got it too. My other daughter, who works in mental health (and persuaded her sister to get assessed) is convinced I have it too. She cites my not been able to sit and do one thing (without a drink in my hand), having to have numerous projects on the go but reluctant to complete any of them, getting bored very quickly as evidenced. I was always hopeless at listening to verbal lectures or instruction. My response is that I picked up these habits from my dad, to which she will suggest he maybe had it too. On reflection, she is absolutely right. He died in a nursing home (late 80’s) allegedly peacefully. A cleaner let it slip that she’d seen him bouncing on the bed and climbing on the windowsill, and pulling the curtains down just prior to him passing. Maybe a last attempt to bounce off the ceiling?
I am intrigued and have said I will do the online assessment… someday. Oh and the only devices I had were sporting equipment bats, balls, pads etc. I was attached to them (the only things I ever really focussed on for any length of time). Not sure about my dad though!




edit.. and like many of my posts, I have revisited and edited several times, because I don’t like to totally complete a task (which is another indicator).
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And of course when it comes to girls hardly any got diagnosed before because all the research on what to look out for was based on how ADHD presents in boys.
In girls it is entirely different.
One of my daughters also has been diagnosed with ADHD. She gets no benefit as a result other than access to medication which is helping her. She is well qualified and has a very good job, but it still helps.
Realisation that it’s ‘different for girls’ was always going to significantly increase ADHD diagnoses regardless of anything else.
 
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In my experience the people looking out for the children sometimes get it wrong. I include teachers in that too. By and large parents want what is best for their children, and conditions such as ASC (Autism), and ADHD, can make a lot of sense, particularly as their symptoms can present in a similar way to Attachment difficulties (ADHD), and Trauma (ASC), both of which account for the majority of 'misdiagnoses'. Unfortunately, the professionals will often push-back on the neurodivergence but not signpost for the other issues, leaving families in limbo. Fortunately, the organisation I work for supports with all of the above but we're quite unique in that sense.
 
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dennisboothstash said:
And of course when it comes to girls hardly any got diagnosed before because all the research on what to look out for was based on how ADHD presents in boys.
In girls it is entirely different.
One of my daughters also has been diagnosed with ADHD. She gets no benefit as a result other than access to medication which is helping her. She is well qualified and has a very good job, but it still helps.
Realisation that it’s ‘different for girls’ was always going to significantly increase ADHD diagnoses regardless of anything else.
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You’re Joe Jackson arnt you.
 
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askewshair said:
There are a lot of adults getting diagnosed now with neuro diverse conditions. Our daughter for one was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 36. She certainly didn’t have any devices until she was well into her teens (as was the way back then). I think overall, she found her own way of managing it, without actually realising. I was really surprised because I spent my career working with troubled and troublesome kids. Those who were diagnosed with ADHD back in the day, stood out because generally they were absolute live wires. They were a frigging nightmare to look after, just constantly bouncing off the ceilings, until they were pumped up full of Ritalin and then reduced to ‘zombies’ These were older teenagers and was really sad to see. So In some ways, I think maybe it was a blessing it wasn’t picked up for my daughter. Overall she found a way to manage it, and has done very well without any intervention.
There has always been a lot of controversy over the diagnosis, I know when I first started my career, there was a thought that ADHD was not a real diagnosis and that it was created by drug companies to make money. Throughout my working life, parents who claimed their kids had ADHD, were often dismissed as wanting an excuse because they couldn’t control their kids. And they couldn’t even get an assessment.
So, I don’t think there’s any evidence to show that more kids have ADHD, just a greater understanding of neuro diverse conditions, so more are getting more assessed (albeit having to wait a long time).
Apparently there is a definite hereditary link to ADHD, and every populist survey I have managed to fully complete suggest I’ve got it too. My other daughter, who works in mental health (and persuaded her sister to get assessed) is convinced I have it too. She cites my not been able to sit and do one thing (without a drink in my hand), having to have numerous projects on the go but reluctant to complete any of them, getting bored very quickly as evidenced. I was always hopeless at listening to verbal lectures or instruction. My response is that I picked up these habits from my dad, to which she will suggest he maybe had it too. On reflection, she is absolutely right. He died in a nursing home (late 80’s) allegedly peacefully. A cleaner let it slip that she’d seen him bouncing on the bed and climbing on the windowsill, and pulling the curtains down just prior to him passing. Maybe a last attempt to bounce off the ceiling?
I am intrigued and have said I will do the online assessment… someday. Oh and the only devices I had were sporting equipment bats, balls, pads etc. I was attached to them (the only things I ever really focussed on for any length of time). Not sure about my dad though!




edit.. and like many of my posts, I have revisited and edited several times, because I don’t like to totally complete a task (which allegedly is another indicator)
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I've been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult in the last year, it certainly explains a lot about what I was like as a kid and am like now as an adult. I'm relatively certain my youngest is ADHD too as I see so much of myself in him which is what prompted me to look into myself.

You sound v similar to me, and it's worth looking on to, getting diagnosed hasn't changed me in any ways I'm still the same person but just knowing is great, and has helped me understand a lot of my character flaws and why I react to things in certain ways, the sad thing is that there's about a 3 year waiting list for a diagnosis ATM!
 
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Got the north run on with a cup of coffee
And how depressing is uk weather?
Honestly
 
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Got the north run on with a cup of coffee
And how depressing is uk weather?
Honestly
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It's been dreich in the North East for days now. It's currently raining quite heavily.

Not putting up with this; I'm away to Gran Canaria this afternoon (if I can get to the airport, given that all the roads are closed on account of the Great North Run).
 
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Shouldn’t people be setting an example for the rest of the world to follow instead of adding to the climate crisis by jetting off everywhere? After all, some on here reckon with we suffer in the mad quest for net zero the rest of the world will think that’s a good idea we will follow their lead.
 
Cityzen said:
Shouldn’t people be setting an example for the rest of the world to follow instead of adding to the climate crisis by jetting off everywhere? After all, some on here reckon with we suffer in the mad quest for net zero the rest of the world will think that’s a good idea we will follow their lead.
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I’m looking at a Thailand trip funnily enough.

I’ll explain to them that they should follow our lead when I get there. Save a phone call at least
 
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pierredelafranchesca said:
I've been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult in the last year, it certainly explains a lot about what I was like as a kid and am like now as an adult. I'm relatively certain my youngest is ADHD too as I see so much of myself in him which is what prompted me to look into myself.

You sound v similar to me, and it's worth looking on to, getting diagnosed hasn't changed me in any ways I'm still the same person but just knowing is great, and has helped me understand a lot of my character flaws and why I react to things in certain ways, the sad thing is that there's about a 3 year waiting list for a diagnosis ATM!
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https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/
 
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