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Awful News. I was too young to see Charlie, so Dave is the best Centre Half I've ever seen in a Sunderland Shirt. My mates parents often babysat Dave & Penny's kids. As a thank you, he brought the FA Cup to their house. I was there like a shot.

Best of luck Big Man. My Mam has Alzheimers, so I know what a bloody horrible disease this is.
 
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Aye, mother in law is showing signs of dementia but she hasn’t been tested yet and from what I understand has no intention of getting tested.
As we live on the other side of the world all the wife can do is offer words of support to her dad and sister who are there doing the best they can in the circumstances. I know that it’s a bloody awful thing to have and at times she feels helpless to act.
 
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Evil Jimmy Krankie said:
Aye, mother in law is showing signs of dementia but she hasn’t been tested yet and from what I understand has no intention of getting tested.
As we live on the other side of the world all the wife can do is offer words of support to her dad and sister who are there doing the best they can in the circumstances. I know that it’s a bloody awful thing to have and at times she feels helpless to act.
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I know from my own experiences with my mam, it is hard watching someone with dementia up close and trying to help them live some kind of normal life, I can only imagine what you and your wife is going through with your mother in law, not being able to offer any help. You may not think its much but just being on the end of the phone to your in laws offering support would be a god send. Sometimes they may just need someone to talk to and unleash all the stress they will be going through and you just picking up the phone would be a big help with that.
 
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Essayyeffcee said:
I know from my own experiences with my mam, it is hard watching someone with dementia up close and trying to help them live some kind of normal life, I can only imagine what you and your wife is going through with your mother in law, not being able to offer any help. You may not think its much but just being on the end of the phone to your in laws offering support would be a god send. Sometimes they may just need someone to talk to and unleash all the stress they will be going through and you just picking up the phone would be a big help with that.
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The wife and her sister FaceTime every weekend so when I’m not at work I tend to hear how the m-i-l has been that week. Sometimes it’s a good week others not so good.
The easy thing to say is that she should get tested but it’s not as simple as that. She can’t see that something is happening to her so why does she need to go for tests?
The f-i-l gets respite when they visit the wife’s sister which was most weeks but I believe you’ve all gone back into lockdown again so he’s not even getting that now. Add to the equation that he’s been short of breath for a year or so now and it turns out he might have OPCD.
It sounds awful but I’m just pleased that me and Mrs EJK still have our health and faculties about us.
 
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The wife and her sister FaceTime every weekend so when I’m not at work I tend to hear how the m-i-l has been that week. Sometimes it’s a good week others not so good.
The easy thing to say is that she should get tested but it’s not as simple as that. She can’t see that something is happening to her so why does she need to go for tests?
The f-i-l gets respite when they visit the wife’s sister which was most weeks but I believe you’ve all gone back into lockdown again so he’s not even getting that now. Add to the equation that he’s been short of breath for a year or so now and it turns out he might have OPCD.
It sounds awful but I’m just pleased that me and Mrs EJK still have our health and faculties about us.
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I wouldn't wish this on anyone - its a seriously bastard of a disease. You lose the person you love twice and you're right there's good days and bad. My mam had a routine and if she kept to that, then she was fine but if we went away for a weekend we decided to take my mam with us - and that's when it hit the buffers basically because she didn't know where she was on a night. I wish I could write something down on here to show a chink of light but I can't - sorry
 
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Essayyeffcee said:
I wouldn't wish this on anyone - its a seriously bastard of a disease. You lose the person you love twice and you're right there's good days and bad. My mam had a routine and if she kept to that, then she was fine but if we went away for a weekend we decided to take my mam with us - and that's when it hit the buffers basically because she didn't know where she was on a night. I wish I could write something down on here to show a chink of light but I can't - sorry
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No need to be sorry mate. We know what the most probable outcome will be. There’s nothing any of us can do to stop it. We just have to be pragmatic about it. For me personally as long as I’m there for Mrs EJK then I think I’m doing something.
 
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Essayyeffcee said:
I wouldn't wish this on anyone - its a seriously bastard of a disease. You lose the person you love twice and you're right there's good days and bad. My mam had a routine and if she kept to that, then she was fine but if we went away for a weekend we decided to take my mam with us - and that's when it hit the buffers basically because she didn't know where she was on a night. I wish I could write something down on here to show a chink of light but I can't - sorry
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Very true. We took my Mam on a weekend to Manchester with us last year. We booked a family room, and she was up three or four times during the night, just walking round the room. Totally disorientated. Heartbreaking.
 
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Bank of England 2 said:
Very true. We took my Mam on a weekend to Manchester with us last year. We booked a family room, and she was up three or four times during the night, just walking round the room. Totally disorientated. Heartbreaking.
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We laugh about it but the father in law is wasting away because he hardly eats anything. Why? Because the mother in law thinks they’re nearly destitute so they have to watch what they spend. The reality is very very different and they are very well off it’s just that the mother in law keeps on forgetting!!
 
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Awful News. I was too young to see Charlie, so Dave is the best Centre Half I've ever seen in a Sunderland Shirt. My mates parents often babysat Dave & Penny's kids. As a thank you, he brought the FA Cup to their house. I was there like a shot.

Best of luck Big Man. My Mam has Alzheimers, so I know what a bloody horrible disease this is.
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Bank of England 2 said:
Awful News. I was too young to see Charlie, so Dave is the best Centre Half I've ever seen in a Sunderland Shirt. My mates parents often babysat Dave & Penny's kids. As a thank you, he brought the FA Cup to their house. I was there like a shot.

Best of luck Big Man. My Mam has Alzheimers, so I know what a bloody horrible disease this is.
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Having watched them both I'd say you saw the better of the two.
 
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Evil Jimmy Krankie said:
We laugh about it but the father in law is wasting away because he hardly eats anything. Why? Because the mother in law thinks they’re nearly destitute so they have to watch what they spend. The reality is very very different and they are very well off it’s just that the mother in law keeps on forgetting!!
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It's so sad to see that mate. Is your father-in-law suffering with it too?

My father in law also had Dementia and deteriorated rapidly. We just managed to get the Power of Attorney in place in time for him. So I made sure I sorted that well in advance for My Mam. Grasp of financial affairs seems to be one of the first things that are affected, and that can be really dangerous when there's unscrupulous cold callers to their house, or scammers on the phone.
 
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Having watched them both I'd say you saw the better of the two.
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Dave really was a class act, but Charlie was voted Player of The Century, so I'm surprised by your observation. Clearly you've seen enough of them both to be able to make that comment though.
 
Evil Jimmy Krankie said:
We laugh about it but the father in law is wasting away because he hardly eats anything. Why? Because the mother in law thinks they’re nearly destitute so they have to watch what they spend. The reality is very very different and they are very well off it’s just that the mother in law keeps on forgetting!!
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No doubt your in-laws will be keeping an eye on your f-i-l, one of my mam's neighbours also suffered and her husband was in bad health as well. The guy used to walk and do everything but he ended up just helping his missus. Thing is she was in a worse position than my mam and just didn't recognise him most of the time and could be abusive, swearing at him at times in front of people. You could see he wasn't well but never complained about anything and got on with it
 
Essayyeffcee said:
No doubt your in-laws will be keeping an eye on your f-i-l, one of my mam's neighbours also suffered and her husband was in bad health as well. The guy used to walk and do everything but he ended up just helping his missus. Thing is she was in a worse position than my mam and just didn't recognise him most of the time and could be abusive, swearing at him at times in front of people. You could see he wasn't well but never complained about anything and got on with it
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The only people looking out for them is the sister in law and her husband and I know they do a hell of a lot for them. They don’t live that far away either but I’m guessing that with lockdown they might as well be living on the moon. Aye, the father in law just gets on with it and I know he puts up with a lot.
 
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His positional sense, the timing of his tackling and his composure on the ball was sublime. He made the game look effortless.
 
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