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[Evil Jimmy Krankie]

I’m a spiritualist. I believe that the spirit which we are now ( being carried in this world in a physical body) will live on in the spiritual world.

We are all allowed our views. For me though there is no such thing as a spirit that lives on. Once I’m dead, I’m dead. I may remain in others memories as a thought from time to time but that’ll be it.

 

[gelders pie]

We are all allowed our views. For me though there is no such thing as a spirit that lives on. Once I’m dead, I’m dead. I may remain in others memories as a thought from time to time but that’ll be it.

We are indeed and I totally respect yours . I would just say though that mine is much more than just a view.

 

[marcusblackcat]

It's such a difficult question to answer isn't it - who know's what is around the corner. I hope I die of old age - fall asleep one night and never wake up. Not put my kids through any unnecessary pain. As a type 1 diabetic, that is unlikely, and add to that heart disease running in my family (and the massively increased risk of it due to my diabetes) then chances are I'll be gone way before the normal life expectancy of people my age.

I'd like to think my amazing wife and 2 fantastic kids would be on my mind - I truly hope that's the way it is.

 

[Smug in Boots]

Well this is a bit morbid isn’t it? I really don’t know what I’ll think about. It won’t be anything to do with whats coming next because in my mind I’m dead once it happens.
I have asked my son to take a piece of my ashes and throw them in the Wear. Even though I’ve not lived in Sunderland since 1984 I would like to think it’s a kind of homecoming for me.
I also hope that I go first. I honestly don’t think I could cope without Mrs EJK. Selfish? Undoubtedly so. But she is a lot stronger than me.

I don't look at it that way tbh mate.

I'm 64 and didn't expect to make it out of my younger days. I'd taken loads of daft risks, come off various motorbikes, did 11 years on the doors, etc.

I've also been shot at and stabbed at work ...

... that's why I stopped teaching

Seriously I enjoy my life and its all a bonus but I've had a few years to contemplate it all. I quite enjoy the notion that I'm sorted in my mind.

Songs are chosen, wake paid for and my priceless collection of Sunderland mugs allocated ...
... the grandkids will be so thrilled.

 

[Jack Ford]

It would probably be my Mrs, she is a couple of years older than me but her health is not that good. Mentally she is more than able to cope I reckon but physically it will present problems being left alone, also thoughts will be with my only daughter and 93 year old mother who is still alive and independant at moment.

I've told Mrs I want a Direct Funeral, no fuss. (In life I have always hated fuss). I do not believe in after life etc etc

I've not stated this in my will though and am not sure she will bide by it.When I talked to her about it she did not appear to be to keen on idea. Have not yet told daughter of my wishes

 

[monty987]

went on holiday to Allendale about 33 years ago lovely place, nice country walks and shops.

 

[one gary owers]

Reiver what a topic have unearthed here

when Cancer hits you have to put things in order. I got the news 6 years ago but fortunately I was -BRF rand could take Venurafanib to extent my life but while it keeps me alive it also makes me weak so hire a mobility scooter when all the family go on hol,twice a year 12 of us this year hopefully 13 next year. It's the grandchildren that keep me going was given 3 years and have now gone 6.5 years

 

[Smug in Boots]

Reiver what a topic have unearthed here

when Cancer hits you have to put things in order. I got the news 6 years ago but fortunately I was -BRF and could take Venutafanib to extent my life but while it keeps me alive it also makes me weak so hire a mobility scooter when all the family go on hol,twice a year 12 of us this year hopefully 13 next year. It's the grandchildren that keep me going was given 3 years and have now gone 6.5 years

Yes mate it's definitely the grandkids that keep you going

 

[one gary owers]

Yes mate it's definitely the grandkids that keep you going

give both grandsons £2 a goal and Max scored one on Saturday and he asked for £3 as he megged the keeper and I thought yes they have smaller legs to get through
So he got his money
His team have won all five games at u/6 13 1 the biggest win

I started my sons team at u/11 thats all there was then
I am now seeing u/6 players as good as my u/11 players I think grass roots football is on the up

 

[Smug in Boots]

give both grandsons £2 a goal and Max scored one on Saturday and he asked for £3 as he megged the keeper and I thought yes they have smaller legs to get through
So he got his money
His team have won all five games at u/6 13 1 the biggest win

Wonderful mate.

I never spend my money on luxuries for me, always look out for bargains in the charity shops and scam my way into games whenever I can ...

... but if my 3 year old granddaughter needs anything, money's no object.

 

[one gary owers]

Wonderful mate.

I never spend my money on luxuries for me, always look out for bargains in the charity shops and scam my way into games whenever I can ...

... but if my 3 year old granddaughter needs anything, money's no object.

Don't now where you are coming from there
I have given to charity shops but would not buy from them
True Grandchildren can have anything they want when they come here Mummy and Daddy are not here

 

[Smug in Boots]

Don't now where you are coming from there
I have given to charity shops but would not buy from them
True Grandchildren can have anything they want when they come here Mummy and Daddy are not here

I buy all sorts from charity shops mate.

I've bought Lalique glassware, a Scarfe cartoon drawing and a map of Scotland from the 1750's.

Its amazing what people give away.

 

[marcusblackcat]

give both grandsons £2 a goal and Max scored one on Saturday and he asked for £3 as he megged the keeper and I thought yes they have smaller legs to get through
So he got his money
His team have won all five games at u/6 13 1 the biggest win

I started my sons team at u/11 thats all there was then
I am now seeing u/6 players as good as my u/11 players I think grass roots football is on the up

I had to give up paying my son. He got 53 2 seasons ago, 49 the season before last then 34 last season!! It started getting expensive!! So I just give him a fiver extra pocket money every couple of weeks!!!

 

[Chunksafc]

I've thought long and hard before replying and it's a subject I do often worry about. Have I made my parents proud? Have I brought my children up as well as I could? Have I worked hard to provide enough for them when I am gone?

Would I change anything? Some thingsi wish I had done better, but without going through them I wouldn't be at the position I am today with the children and my wife, do I need to change some of ways and behaviours? Yes I do and y writing this I guess it's me finally admitting I am scared of dying and need to sort myself out

 

[Smug in Boots]

I've thought long and hard before replying and it's a subject I do often worry about. Have I made my parents proud? Have I brought my children up as well as I could? Have I worked hard to provide enough for them when I am gone?

Would I change anything? Some thingsi wish I had done better, but without going through them I wouldn't be at the position I am today with the children and my wife, do I need to change some of ways and behaviours? Yes I do and y writing this I guess it's me finally admitting I am scared of dying and need to sort myself out

I've seen a million posts, on forums, but that's one of the best.

 

[Blond Bombshell]

My Dad passed away earlier this year. I'd been into the hospital to see him on the afternoon of the Bristol Rovers cup semi. I knew then he was really poorly and I feared the worst. We discussed the match and he knew I was watching it on TV that night. My Mam rang later on to say they were putting him in a side room and he wanted me to ring him later on when the match had finished. I rang and told him all that had happened and he was excited that I was taking the bairns to Wembley again. Mam said she was staying the night with him and I said I would ring in the morning as soon as I got up to see how he was.

Got up the next morning and rang straightaway. My Mam said he was dozing and his breathing was very shallow. She said to him that it was me on the phone sending my love and he acknowledged that then dozed again. I said bye and put the phone down. A few minutes later, the phone rang and it was my Mam saying he'd gone.

I was really close to my Dad and I like to think he hung on just to say bye to me as he knew I was going to ring. That conversation with me, my Mam and him would have been the last thing he remembered.

God bless you becs and thanks for sharing.

 

[samwise_new]

well, all i can say is that all the 'life flashing before your eyes' and the 'bright lights waiting for you' never happened for me, the indigestion (which is what i thought it was) suddenly shot up in pain value and down i went...all i can remember is that for a while i was pain and stress free, just a really nice, relaxing darkness unaware of everything going on around me, i have no idea how long i was 'gone' but there was nothing scary about it at all.

 

[Owld Feller]

We are indeed and I totally respect yours . I would just say though that mine is much more than just a view.

To me, belief in any form of afterlife is a sign of weakness and inability to accept the reality of mortality.

Others may have different views, but they are no more than that - views, as is mine!

 

[Smug in Boots]

To me, belief in any form of afterlife is a sign of weakness and inability to accept the reality of mortality.

Others may have different views, but they are no more than that - views, as is mine!

Harmless though isn't it.

 

[Owld Feller]

Harmless though isn't it.

I'm assuming this was an attempted wind up.

If not, try saying that to the victims of religious violence, with Muslims believing that they will go to Paradise and be greeted by 72 virgins if they are martyred.

Also, my belief is that more lives have been lost over the centuries, in religious wars than any other forms of conflict.