Darling. My wife and I have twins - 1 boy 1 girl. I was 41 at the time (14 years ago), my wife 5 years my junior. It wasn’t a plan, we’d both been busy with careers and 2 ok incomes meant we had some disposable income to enjoy and life was good. We’d discussed kids and my wife was getting, what we considered, normal hormonal urges. By the way she does not like children around her, so is not the maternal type. I was happy enough and content with the way things were. With twins on the way, we talked and decided that she needed to give up working (the finances would not work). When the kids arrived, I suddenly had this overwhelming sense of responsibility and also some resentment that my life was changing really dramatically. As the only breadwinner, I felt trapped in my work. No free time, no sleep, no night out with the boys, no football, wife with post natal depression. We soldiered through the first year and things began to get better. My retired in-laws moved nearer to us and helped out. We offered work experience to a trainee nanny (she works for the stars now and was brilliant).
When the kids were 5 we took a huge risk and moved to the United States. It changed the financial picture for us, and our lifestyle returned to a more comfortable existence.
Today, we have a fabulous family and relationship with two teenagers. I’ve brainwashed my son into being a massive Norwich fan. Life is good and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Think carefully Darling. It can be rewarding but no doubt you will be faced with many life changing decisions.
HARD PLACE].
