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I am in agreement with Goldie.
If you think it's unreasonable that why even have the rules in the first place. Just have unisex toilets, no female and male anything and do away with it all.
Okay you lot...how many trans people do you know personally/closely... I mean really closely. I know one person on here who has a relative who is trans, but the rest of you? How much experience you have of the trans community?
I have 4 close personal friends who are trans. All 4 of them have spent they lives in confusion until they began transitioning, now each one of them is feeling relief and a degree of contentment with themselves and the body they are in. And for your information it is not all about sex, you can quite happily by gay or bi and have sex with who ever you want without going through physical surgery and chemical castration etc to achieve your goals of sex, what ever they may be.
However throughout their existence each one of my friends have been abused physically and verbally and mentally and are still being abused...for the whole of their adult lives, they put up daily with "well meaning" people asking how they go to the toilet, if they have or have not got a penis.
All you heterosexual/cis males out there...what if you were asked on a regular and somewhat random basis if you have a penis...odd/weird/unnecessary/rude isn't it.
People have quoted trans people assaulting women in hospital or in changing rooms (I believe that is a vanishing small percentage compared to the number of trans/gay/bi people who have been assaulted.)
I was at a gig last night and saw another acquaintance who is transitioning, dressed in male gear as camouflage as it is too dangerous for him to walk out late at night as a woman.
Why cant we just live together respecting everyone for whom they are
mate don’t fall for the rhetoric. Women’s safety is in the headlines let’s point over there and make it look like a minority.. in this case the trans community, especially as there is a lot of hatred for them, make it a big issue, when it’s not the case. Rather than Tackling the real issues as to why and where women are attacked, the home, pubs/clubs and public spaces… the attitudes towards women, what can be done to change it. The real threat towards women is men, not trans men/women. Not for a second am I suggesting that there hasn’t been an attack by a trans person.. and it’s every bit as horrific but let’s not let that distract us from the real issues
Beth well said, I know a few trans, and many other members of the lgbt community, each and everyone one of them has suffered abuse of some kind, the majority physical as well as verbal. A very good friend of mine won’t hold his husbands hand in public because he knows a level of abuse is coming usually sooner rather than later, he’s hardly alone. I myself was subject to verbally aggressive homophobia because I was glittered up for a parade and these blokes assumed I was gay. I for the first time got a tiny glimpse into the feelings and emotions felt, I dealt with the situation but can’t imagine having to live with that day in day out, the fear that at any point someone might take exception to you in an abusive way.
Like I’ve said in my response to Bob it’s not the trans community that present a threat to women.. it’s men, male attitudes and as a man I’m now questioning my actions, not that I’d ever attack a woman, but how my actions could potentially make a female feel unsafe, I think I got a lot of learning to do there.
Stan...you have no idea how much I condemn the Oxfam decision.
Why don't they also remove books and games about men too ( don't recognize all the different genders there too). Get rid of Action man and Barbie too....for same reason. !!
Do you know there are more statues of animals than women in London.
This thread has all got tied up with trans rights, which as you know I fully support. I just feel we should just support everyones right to be themselves.
What has annoyed me a lot that everyone on here has studious ignored my post a few days ago ...about women having to protect themselves from men in nightclubs.
Yes there are violent women. But women have been responsible for a lot of the snidey, mentally vicious internet attacks on Trans people...which can be as bad as the physical attacks which are perpetrated more by men.
It's all bad, just stop it
Stan...you have no idea how much I condemn the Oxfam decision.
Why don't they also remove books and games about men too ( don't recognize all the different genders there too). Get rid of Action man and Barbie too....for same reason. !!
Do you know there are more statues of animals than women in London.
This thread has all got tied up with trans rights, which as you know I fully support. I just feel we should just support everyones right to be themselves.
What has annoyed me a lot that everyone on here has studious ignored my post a few days ago ...about women having to protect themselves from men in nightclubs.
Yes there are violent women. But women have been responsible for a lot of the snidey, mentally vicious internet attacks on Trans people...which can be as bad as the physical attacks which are perpetrated more by men.
It's all bad, just stop it
with all due respect we both know several trans people and certainly my experience is people wanting to not have to live in fear, to be left alone and given the opportunities in the workplace that non trans people do.. while if you read what media an online groups they want mixed changing rooms so they can rape women and kids a million different identities and get given your jobs, sounds at least in part kinda familiar doesn’t it. Yes like in all walks of life there are some bad ones and some total people who have a bit extreme views, but the media don’t give Beryl from number 83 a big platform to speak for the rights of white English heterosexuals when she suggests those who practice sex outside of wedlock should be hung drawn and quartered.
I have a gregarious 21 year old daughter Beth, the nightclub stuff both terrifies me and makes my blood boil. Even more incendiary is the constant ‘measures which women can take to protect themselves’ advice, which, though sadly pragmatically necessary, is a virtual admission that the men who are responsible will never change their behaviour and will never face enough punishment to deter them.Stan...you have no idea how much I condemn the Oxfam decision.
Why don't they also remove books and games about men too ( don't recognize all the different genders there too). Get rid of Action man and Barbie too....for same reason. !!
Do you know there are more statues of animals than women in London.
This thread has all got tied up with trans rights, which as you know I fully support. I just feel we should just support everyones right to be themselves.
What has annoyed me a lot that everyone on here has studious ignored my post a few days ago ...about women having to protect themselves from men in nightclubs.
Yes there are violent women. But women have been responsible for a lot of the snidey, mentally vicious internet attacks on Trans people...which can be as bad as the physical attacks which are perpetrated more by men.
It's all bad, just stop it
I would really like to know how many untransitioned men ( it could be women, but it is hard to believe, that it is a viable proposition) would be able to walk into a ladies toilet, changing room, hospital wards, prision....etc... by claiming to be a transwoman
The NHS rule is that any man that self identifies as a woman is allowed onto a women-only hospital ward.
The NHS has been criticised for this policy, for putting transgender rights over womens' safety
I fully understand why you want to fight the fight willy and its admiral and great you can sympathize/empathize. They should be able to live there life as they want with no abuse and enter whatever job they like.
The entire discussion here though is to allow gender rights to somebody who hasnt transitioned and just says "i am a women/man".
I'm not sure where you are reading your online groups from but i dont think anyone thinks that a transgender wants to go and wantonly rape people. We are talking about the ease of just self identifying (i.e. not having to give up anything at all except mutter a few words in essence) so that predators can pretend to be trans.
I believe this argument is a lot more nuanced as it isnt just changing rooms affected but anything divided by gender presumably. The clearest and most effective way unfortunately is physical genitalia to determine this else anyone could self identify to suit there own means.
Good luck to your friends and hopefully they can find a more accepting community.
So a sex offender not only self identifies as a woman, but also manages to get admitted onto a women's only hospital bed in order to attack women
Do you know how difficult it is to get a hospital bed at the moment Goldie!
How ill you need to be.
I think I am a lot safer in a hospital bed, than in a night club, pub, gig, club, park...or even just simply going outside my house.
So a sex offender not only self identifies as a woman, but also manages to get admitted onto a women's only hospital bed in order to attack women
Do you know how difficult it is to get a hospital bed at the moment Goldie!
How ill you need to be.
I think I am a lot safer in a hospital bed, than in a night club, pub, gig, club, park...or even just simply going outside my house.
Abuse, cat calling, mansplaning, lad culture.
All of it is just a lack of respect, that builds in certain kind of person to something else
None of us likes not being respected, but I have got to say a "standard" women get a lot more of it than a "standard" man.
An example:-
One of the reasons I retired early was a promotion that I did not get a few years earlier. At the interview the assessors said that they thought I had too many home responsibilities with a husband and two children. I was not consulted, the decision was made in the minds of my assessors that that would be my decision. I asked them why they had given the position to a man similar age and with children, they said it was not an issue with him. (I have no idea if they ever mentioned it to him).