So wasn't going to post this but what the hell it's good to share and I've always used this place to just spew my thoughts. So when I was in comp I didn't really get on there once I'd reached the 3rd year, my main beef was teachers speaking to kids like ****. I'd noticed it before it started happening to me and me being me decided I was up to the challenge. Teachers were told to go **** themselves and introduced to a flying chair on one occasion. Looking back I certainly had some issues not that it excuses the behaviour of those teachers. (My last 3 girlfriends were teachers, I married the last one. #issues) So fast forward and my son is having issues and it looks very much like autism, it's been difficult. Add to that a school that seems exactly the same as in my day, nothing has changed. We've had teachers shout at him, make personal comments about him and generally treat him like ****. Add to that lies and a serious accusation about a gym he attends ending in social service and police involvement (all dealt with now) and luv has been clinging onto his sanity for a little while. The world is a strange place not much has changed and maybe a virus or ****ing big asteroid isn't such a bad idea.
Times have certainly changed mate. When I went to school, the flying chair would have been from the teacher.
If the teachers ain’t supporting your lad and his needs then they are the ones who need pulling up bro. never any excuse for a teacher to use name calling towards their pupils. Bang out of order no matter what the circumstances. If he’s diagnosed with autism, surely he’ll qualify for some extra support from teachers who know how to support him properly ?
It's a long process and we've fought for help for him but they are not a good school and are simply a bit thick, too late to pull him out so it's going to be a difficult couple of years through to him leaving. I'd love to revert back to my old self and have a chat with some of them but we all have to grow up.
My teachers mostly drew the line at blackboard rubbers, but a direct hit with one of those things hurt like **** tbf…
I hated school btw, and some of my teachers were proper wrong ‘uns. Some, just a few, were inspirational and I’m still grateful (especially to Scar Face Hartley, who got me though O Level maths). On reflection, I wouldn’t wish a pupil like me on any poor sod straight out of teacher training college. I was a lairy smartarse tbh - not a bit like that now, of course. Your boy has parents that care about him btw luv. That’s worth a lot, can’t put a price on that.
My secondary schooling was "interesting" and though i feel a bit guilty about the teacher who had a breakdown in class i still can't help but smile at the image of him lying on the floor while trying to demolish his desk by belting it with his crutch whilst shouting abuse at us . we escaped via the fire exit and the Head seemed highly unimpressed to say the ****ing least .
I locked one of the ****ers in a store room and the end of the day, good few hours before she was found.
Mrs luv is a teacher so all sorted for experts but thanks for thinking about it. He supports Spurs so there must be issues there.
I think the worst thing was that these teachers knew he was probably going to get a diagnosis of autism yet still acted in the same way. I really though we'd have moved on and understood the complex needs of some kids.
My girl comes home the day and tells us, 2 girls were having a ding dog before class started, teacher walks in and calls them to the front, she asks them what was going on, the one girl has autism and also has a stutter, she started telling her side but was nervous so her stutter got bad, teacher just burst out laughing and says I haven't got time for you to finish, see me later. Girl obviously distraught, my girl was fuming on her behalf.
My missus was fuming, said she wanted to do something about it but my daughter asked her not to. Not sure if the girls parents did anything.
You can get statemented but that can take an age. Might be worth speaking to the school's SENCO (special educational needs co ordinator) and agreeing a plan of what can be said to your son and how. Ie. When asked a question he is given two options to choose from so he does not get over whelmed. He is not expected to answer a question immediately but given time to process. He is given a visual time table that is not changed without plenty of notice. Ear defenders and movement breaks might help too. But tbh mainstream school are **** at dealing with kids with needs. They love the extra money they get for them but hate spending it on them. Hope he gets treated properly soon. Most school's are run like businesses now and the Senior Leadership earn **** loads, don't teach, employ their mates and push staff to breaking point. Ain't defending **** attitudes to kids cos I refuse to talk to kids like **** and was constantly slagged off for being "soft" on them. Never stayed in a place longer than 3 years until this place...into year 7 now! Funny thing is that I ****ing hated school as a kid.