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Off Topic Regrets

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  1. Teessidemackem

    Teessidemackem Well-Known Member

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    Life is not a rehearsel, we get one chance at it and then game over... fact!!!
    Im not one to dwell but now im closing in on 40 life is starting to take perspective with me. What do i regret?? Many things. I allowed myself to be bullied mentally and physichally in my childhood and teens due to my height and build. It took me till i was about 30 to man up, join a gym and later do mma which makes me realise now how big ugly lads arent necessily hard!
    Thats my main regret the fact i lived in a shell, thinking i was weak. I moved to Cambridge as very young child where i was badly bullied and i think that must have set the tone throughout my childhood life!
    Thats the main thing that gripes me. I see many of my so called childhood chums now and i take great pleasure squaring up to them just to show them how times have changed now, but mentally they destroyed me as a kid!!
     
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  2. TigerRoo

    TigerRoo Well-Known Member

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    That's a good post.
    I have similar experiences but doing 2 years in the Nasho's certainly knocked all fear out of me.
    Nobody is going to hand you something you want on a silver plate. If you want it then you go out and fight for it and/or find some work to earn the money you need to pay for it. No matter how big the oppressor get in there and get your two pennyworth.
    They say life begins at 40 and it certainly did for me. I was in the pub (as usual) and the other side of the bar-room was ran by the local bikers (The Coffin-Cheaters). The leader came towards me this night (6'5", covered in hair and tattoo's) and said "My sister wants you to take her out" (I had visions of some tattoo'd slag with a bone through her nose) and I said I didn't really have the time and was a divorcee and didn't want to get involved again. To which he said "****, you're a kin'pommy" (spit on the floor) and walked off. Later that night I was in bed when I heard the Harley rumble up my driveway. I heard the voice of the Biker asking where I was and by batchelor mates told him. My bedroom door then burst open and he was stood there with his sister in his arms. He threw her on to my bed and said "Happy Birthday (it was my 42nd birthday by the way) look after her - or I'll kill yer"!
    This was taken the following night (she turned 19 - 3 days later):

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    We have been together for the past 36 years. Married for the past 27 years.
     
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  3. Commachio

    Commachio Rambo 2021

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    Quite a lot i used to class as regrets, now i see them more as turning points. You never know what is gonna happen. But if people just sit and wait not a lot will happen.

    Life owes us nowt, you have to make it. I used to think 'why didnt i move to canada when i had the chance' but if i had.
     
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  4. mackemwelder

    mackemwelder Well-Known Member

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    I love my job and what i do to earn a living, but it takes me away from home for 6 months of the year. Cos of that, i've missed out on **** loads of stuff with the kids growing up, like special birthdays and events. Not so much regrets, i just wish i could have been there for some of them.
     
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  5. Commachio

    Commachio Rambo 2021

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    Yep. Know that feeling.
     
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  6. Billy Death

    Billy Death Well-Known Member

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    I regret lots of things.
    Some that I've done & some I've not done.
    I'm a pretty adaptable person though & can just move on & learn to live with things.
     
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  7. Tel (they/them)

    Tel (they/them) Sucky’s Bailiff

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    Man, for 30 years or so I regretted just being born, my life has had repercussions on my two brothers that are irreparable, no matter how many people try to tell you it's not your fault, it's a heavy stone to have strapped to my back.

    Now, I've accepted things for what they are. I moved on and I try to make lemonade daily.

    I regret lots of small things, that don't matter really, like not banging certain birds when I had the chance back in the day, or buying the odd crap car.
     
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  8. Commachio

    Commachio Rambo 2021

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    Regrets. This 12 car journey im about to set off on.

    Thats me done for the day.
     
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  9. joeisonfire

    joeisonfire Well-Known Member

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    I can't live regretting, as it would eat me up inside thinking of all the ifs and buts. When the fact is I can't change them.

    I learn from things, don't regret them. And pass the knowledge/experience into the kids so they don't have to make the same mistakes.

    Life is too short to sit and dwell. Live for now, we can't change the past and let those so called regrets be a distant memory
     
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  10. MrRAWhite

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    Loads of things that I have done in my life that I have regretted..Often very soon after...However, it is the negatives as well as the positives in life that mould you into the person you are.
     
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    All the regrets I have - and I have many - cannot be changed. They are done. I just wish I could forget them.

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  12. Gil T Azell

    Gil T Azell Well-Known Member

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    I've done things I shouldn't have but do I regret it? To be honest NO. Did it moved on.
     
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  13. bonnybobbypark

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    Can't do that. Learn from them

    By the way, you can tell we haven't played today

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  14. Teessidemackem

    Teessidemackem Well-Known Member

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    Where the feck did i drag this thread from? Id had a few too many last night. Im suprised my grammers reasonable!
     
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  15. MrRAWhite

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    Before GA sees it I thought I better point out that you have got the words grammar and surprised wrong...<laugh>
     
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  16. crumble bungle

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    Oh, I've had a few................
    Main one was pissing my money up the wall, but hey I was young n daft.
    Had a good time n learned a bit about life, probably not change it either as one of life's experiences :emoticon-0112-wonde
     
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  17. Billy Death

    Billy Death Well-Known Member

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  19. Gordon Armstrong

    Gordon Armstrong Just another S.A.F.C. fan
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    There are seven grammatical errors in that paragraph alone, so your grammar certainly isn't even close to being reasonable :emoticon-0145-shake . . . . and that's apart from the fact that you used three sentences when only one was necessary <doh>

    Well partially spotted, Whitey <laugh>

    I'll see you tomorrow :emoticon-0105-wink:

     
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  20. Teessidemackem

    Teessidemackem Well-Known Member

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    Tw@t!!! <laugh>.
     
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