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[Ciarrai_Abu]

For me over past year, marital breakup after 30 years, we were really leading separate lives for 3 years, she didn't love me, separate bedrooms, was told if I wanted closeness and intimacy to go find someone, but I never did, was totally out of shape, got back into swimming, have now lost 50 lbs, now biking and kayaking too, a widow of 4 years somehow picked me out in the swimming pool, starting a lap then talked to me, when i wasn't even looking for someone, she happened to be a former Canada Games competitive and synchronized swimmer, still very fast, firm athletic body, told me she detected sadness and despair in me and we slowly developed a relationship together, starting with coffee after our swims, and eventually she told me, "if your wife doesn't want you, I do, I need you", she is a beautiful, very special person. So I found love again at almost age 65 and decided to retire after 45 years of work (only 30 pensionable), to commence a new life together with someone who loves and cares for me. Just over one month after we met last September, she went away to Florida over the winter, I was still working, to help take care of an older lady, so we further developed our growing relationship through old fashioned, long distance journalling using emails between us (2000 of them!), later WhatsApp face time, she brought me down over Easter for 2 weeks and it was as if we had been together forever, totally comfortable and natural, then she returned in May and we have been sharing a life together for the past 3 months and it is wonderful. Now saying that it is of course hard on kids on both sides, mine 17 - 26, 5 daughters, hers 24 and 26, son and daughter, all but one out of the house now.

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Wow, what a lovely read. Even though I don't know you, I am delighted for you. Never too late!

 

[Shawswood]

Delighted for you that in the end you seem to be in a much better place, best wishes for continued happiness.
I have to say that reading the first part of your post was chilling and a wake up call for me to stay alert to what’s happening in the relationship and not to sit back and think that the same thing couldn’t happen to all of us. Hope you keep the lines of communication open with your children too, I know it’s not easy. Best of luck

 

[SW Ranger]

Congratulations Kilburn... there is always someone out their to brighten your life and bring a smile to every day... so glad you found yours and enjoying life.
At least you won’t have to face DT trying to kiss you anymore ... uggghhhhh!!
So don’t forget to come on and give your input to the season and other love of your life in those hoops!! Good to see you back.

 

[jeffranger]

That’s a lovely storey Kilburn & love does blossom irrespective of age, enjoy your life together.

 

[Kilburn]

BTW the necklace my partner is wearing around her neck is Tinkerbell, my name is Peter, guess what her name is? She has matching earrings too, doesn't normally wear jewellery, never makeup, doesn't colour her hair, a naturally beautiful woman to behold. Wakes up looking as beautiful as she goes to bed.

 

[Kilburn]

When I came down to Florida to spend 2 weeks with the love of my life last Easter, she played me this beautiful song me and told me that after 4 years alone as a widow that she was ready to start all over again in a new life together with me, and the words reflect that sentiment so well.

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I'm the sea that surrounds you
The garden that grounds you
The sun and the wind and the rain
I am every season
You're every reason
To start it all over again

Soon you'll sail a wild river
We'll set sail together
And oceans will call out your name
And by stars you will follow
Your hopes for tomorrow
And start it all over again

And if you stagger or stumble
If dreams start to crumble
I'll pick up the pieces of pain
I will cradle you cry with you
Pray that you'll try to just
Start it all over again

Who has eyes that can see
All the things you could be?
Who has ears for the sweetest refrain?
May your heart sing forever
Where the sea meets the river
And start it all over again

 

[Tramore Ranger]

For me over past year, marital breakup after 30 years, we were really leading separate lives for 3 years, she didn't love me, separate bedrooms, was told if I wanted closeness and intimacy to go find someone, but I never did, was totally out of shape, got back into swimming, have now lost 50 lbs, now biking and kayaking too, a widow of 4 years somehow picked me out in the swimming pool, starting a lap then talked to me, when i wasn't even looking for someone, she happened to be a former Canada Games competitive and synchronized swimmer, still very fast, firm athletic body, told me she detected sadness and despair in me and we slowly developed a relationship together, starting with coffee after our swims, and eventually she told me, "if your wife doesn't want you, I do, I need you", she is a beautiful, very special person. So I found love again at almost age 65 and decided to retire after 45 years of work (only 30 pensionable), to commence a new life together with someone who loves and cares for me. Just over one month after we met last September, she went away to Florida over the winter, I was still working, to help take care of an older lady, so we further developed our growing relationship through old fashioned, long distance journalling using emails between us (2000 of them!), later WhatsApp face time, she brought me down over Easter for 2 weeks and it was as if we had been together forever, totally comfortable and natural, then she returned in May and we have been sharing a life together for the past 3 months and it is wonderful. Now saying that it is of course hard on kids on both sides, mine 17 - 26, 5 daughters, hers 24 and 26, son and daughter, all but one out of the house now.

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Delighted for you Killy, that's a real good news story...…

Trust that this means you won't be missing any further, looking forward to you posting more now especially when the R's rip this league up this season...….

 

[Tramore Ranger]

One other thing Killy, when are you going to introduce your new lady to the delights of Shepherds Bush?

 

[Kilburn]

One other thing Killy, when are you going to introduce your new lady to the delights of Shepherds Bush?

I would love to include that on a future trip to share with her my football heritage and introduce her to all of you. She an all round sportswoman, swimming, competitive lap & synchronized, kayaking, cross country skiing, used to walk marathons, picked up golf just like that in Florida, but her knees and hips are fading somewhat at age 62 with arthritis running in her family. Needs to do yoga and Pilates for body maintenance which she wants to get me into as she has detected a stoop in my back. Apparently you should be able to stand with your back against a flat wall and bring your head back to touch it without raising it, that is painful for me unless I raise my head. In addition to all the extra physical exercise (in another department too, that I had been sorely missing in recent years!), I am also eating much more healthy these days. I can only hope that we can both stay healthy and have another 25 enjoyable happy years together.

 

[Shawswood]

Has she any sisters Killy by any chance?...

 

[ELLERS]

Has she any sisters Killy by any chance?...

Bloody hell we should put up a 'match thread' pun intended.

 

[Kilburn]

Has she any sisters Killy by any chance?...

Two, but already taken I'm afraid.

 

[Kilburn]

Bloody hell we should put up a 'match thread' pun intended.

Yes, great idea, my perfect match found me at the swimming pool when I wasn't even looking, she somehow picked me out and saw something special in me and I know without a doubt that this is the woman who I truly love and she reciprocates that love and caring back to for me and that we will be together for the rest of my/our life, I just hope that we can age gracefully and stay healthy. Our plan is to try to eat sensibly and exercise every day. We both also perform CNIB volunteer work (for the blind).

Whilst down in Florida she wrote this nice note to me back in February:-

"I just want you to know that I finally have a sense of calm about us… that deepens with time :]"

 

[ELLERS]

Yes, great idea, my perfect match found me at the swimming pool when I wasn't even looking, she somehow picked me out and saw something special in me and I know without a doubt that this is the woman who I truly love and she reciprocates that love and caring back to for me and that we will be together for the rest of my/our life, I just hope that we can age gracefully and stay healthy. Our plan is to try to eat sensibly and exercise every day. We both also perform CNIB volunteer work (for the blind).

Whilst down in Florida she wrote this nice note to me back in February:-

"I just want you to know that I finally have a sense of calm about us… that deepens with time :]"

Nice one mate.