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It's only a game.........

Discussion in 'Queens Park Rangers' started by Staines R's, Feb 11, 2013.

  1. Staines R's

    Staines R's Well-Known Member

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    Reading a few of the threads on here and my personal experience over the last 12 hours and made me want to write this thread. Some might find it boring, some might find it sad........but here goes anyway.
    There is a fella i know through work, one of the nicest guys you could ever meet. A big strapping lad, over 6 foot but a gentle giant. Nothing was ever too much for him and even if he didn't know you well, he would always remember your name and stop to have a chat. Truly a gentleman if ever there was one..
    Now just over a month ago just by chance, i won't go into too many details, this guy was found to be suffering from Pancreas cancer that had moved to his liver. The Doctors told him he only had 3 months to live. Of course people were devestated and gutted that this could happen to such a nice bloke and it was a shock to most. Now, sadly, i found out last night, that he had taken a turn for the worse and passed on last week. I'll admit when i got home last night from work, a few tears were shed (I'll blame it on the vodka), and it got me thinking.
    So what if we go down, it aint the end of the world and really there are far far more important things to be worrying about. Life for us will go on and when Bill Shankley said football is more important than life and death....he truly got that one wrong. Live life to the full and let's enjoy what we have got, while we are here.

    Sorry if i bored some of you in reading this but i just wanted to put my thoughts down in writing at this sad time. Thanks

    Steve S...........You'll always be remembered mate. Always a Legend.

    R.I.P <peacedove>
     
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  2. Busy Being Headhunted

    Busy Being Headhunted Well-Known Member

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    nice post Staines and you are 100% correct, life can be cruel at times
     
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  3. jeffranger

    jeffranger Well-Known Member

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    so true staines very sad to here that.
     
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  4. BrixtonR

    BrixtonR Well-Known Member

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    RIP Steve. Your reputation will clearly follow you for years to come.

    As for the football being only a game thing. True to some extent Stainesy, but doesn't explain why it is that every time them Rs misfire, I have to look to my work for refuge and comfort. Surely it should be the other way round! Mere games should not have such life altering effect - especially at my age... Must be a right lune!!
     
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  5. Rangers Til I Die

    Rangers Til I Die Well-Known Member

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    Good post mate and condolences to the family of your colleague.

    There are many more important things in life than QPR and this board!
     
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  6. Azmi

    Azmi Well-Known Member

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    Good post, Staines. RIP to your friend.

    Shankly did indeed get it wrong.
     
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  7. Ciarrai_Abu

    Ciarrai_Abu Well-Known Member

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    Puts things into perspective certainly.
     
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  8. qprbeth

    qprbeth Wicked Witch of West12 Forum Moderator

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    Beautiful Staines....

    My thoughts are with your mate Steve, his family and with you (hope you are well too Staines) and yours too...

    QPR are just a mere distraction from reality of life, they are something to sing and dance and cry and weep over...QPR (and the like) are only theretake your mind off, (for a short time at least) from the pain of things that real do matter
     
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  9. KentGaz

    KentGaz Well-Known Member

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    RIP Steve. Great post.
    If we go down so be it, if the board sell up and we end up being Pompey mkII so be it. We will still follow the R's wherever our journey takes us.
    It's only a game, not more important than life or death, it's time to see what's really important in life.
     
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    Uber_Hoop Well-Known Member

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    I have a funeral to attend on Wednesday. It is the husband of a former work colleague, so thought I'd make the gesture for her sake.

    Pancreatic cancer is a bummer. I lost another former work colleague to it about 6 years ago, and I'm afraid you're pretty much a goner with that variety. Happended to Swayze too.

    You're right, Staines. Footie is only a game and there's a much bigger picture out there, of which QPR is but a component.
     
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  11. rangercol

    rangercol Well-Known Member

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    Well said Staines.................there are obviously far more important things in life than football.
    However, I would just say that these days, football is like the new religion, with God worshipping religion becoming more and more diminished, football is definitely replacing it in some ways.
     
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  12. Flanman

    Flanman Well-Known Member

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    Good post Staines RIP to Steve, I must agree with Brix as I feel the same.
     
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  13. Congleton_QPR

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    Nice post staines , and i couldn't agree more with the sentiment. Its is times like that that make you reflect on just how unimportant a saturday watching a bunch of prima donnas can be.
    Cancer is a cruel cruel disease with no respect for the decent folk it afflicts . Why the brady's and huntleys of this world couldn't get it instead of good people like your freind steve is the kind of thing that convinces be there can't be a God.

    RIP steve
     
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  14. KooPeeArr

    KooPeeArr Well-Known Member

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    Well said Staines.

    I reckon that if football is the main driving force behind your emotions then life isn't all that bad (no matter how lowly your team is). You truly have plenty to be thankful for.

    Football quickly fades in importance as real life hits home in all it's tragic force.

    It is a beautiful and immersive game that envelops life but never controls it fully. A universal escapism.

    All the best Staines, the true gentlemen linger long in the memory and we're lucky if we have the chance to know them.

    RIP Steve.
     
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    God be good to your friend Staines very sad new indeed.
     
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    Staines, with you all the way. A lovely friend here was diagnosed with cancer before Christmas and died a couple of weeks ago. He leaves a widow, five daughters and a son all in their 20s. One of the daughters sang at his funeral and another read a poem about him, I'm welling up thinking back. They all came round for lunch yesterday and the mrs and I listened to their stories about their dad and we cried together as we chatted. The hoops were on the back, back burner. Rip Federico, a humble man of few words and great integrity, we miss you
     
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  17. Staines R's

    Staines R's Well-Known Member

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    Mate, that story had started the tears again. Dealing with loss is never easy 'cos I guess it reminds us all of our own mortality. It's gonna happen to us all and there ain't anyway we are gonna get away with it, just a shame that it happens too quickly to the good people of the world.
    RIP to your friend and my thoughts reach out to his family.


    Thanks also to all who have taken the time to read and reply to this thread. Don't know why I put it up....Just my thoughts at the time and my way of dealing with them.
    May God/Allah/Sidhartha or whatever you believe in be with you.
     
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  18. KooPeeArr

    KooPeeArr Well-Known Member

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    My best wishes to his family and indeed you and yours.

    The good people touch many hearts and it makes their passing all the more sorrowful.

    All the very best,

    Matt
     
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    I truly feel for you Staines and your mates family. A couple of weeks ago a relative of mine was diagnosed with cancer and told that he only had 6 months to live. He was married had 1 daughter who was due to get married in June. So they arranged for the wedding to be brought fwd so he could see his only daughter get wed. Unfortunately he passed away two weeks ago... Truly sad... However worse was to come as his wife who was not ill at all passed away 5 days later from a heart attack.. Can only be described as dying of a broken heart as they were so close... Poor daughter lost both her parents in the space of 5 days... Surely that puts it all into perspective...
     
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  20. Staines R's

    Staines R's Well-Known Member

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    So many sad stories........My thoughts are with your family mate (and yet more tears)
    As I said originally, football is a massive part in our lives and we will all feel gutted IF we get relegated BUT our club WILL go on and hopefully we will return stronger.
     
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