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[joeisonfire]

Can anyone help me to see where I stand here. My head is absolutely battered.

Came into £ recently done house up had an argument with Mrs and she kicked me out. We are married with kids but she is not named on mortgage and I had house before we met. She is absolutely terrible with money and she will not pay mortgage and I couldn’t afford to rent and pay mortgage, I’ve told her I can sort some £ I’d sell my car she has told me where to go and changed locks. I have some friends and family but when they all have kids and commitments can’t stay anywhere which I know is fine. I’m sleeping In the car and getting myself a clean at work. But I want my house back, I’ve said kids will never be homeless and they can always be there but what can I do legally? I’ve tried to reach out and talk but she is going 200mph and not thinking but I don’t want my house to go. What can I do? She can do one but I want my house back.

 

[Oldsandy]

Can anyone help me to see where I stand here. My head is absolutely battered.

Came into £ recently done house up had an argument with Mrs and she kicked me out. We are married with kids but she is not named on mortgage and I had house before we met. She is absolutely terrible with money and she will not pay mortgage and I couldn’t afford to rent and pay mortgage, I’ve told her I can sort some £ I’d sell my car she has told me where to go and changed locks. I have some friends and family but when they all have kids and commitments can’t stay anywhere which I know is fine. I’m sleeping In the car and getting myself a clean at work. But I want my house back, I’ve said kids will never be homeless and they can always be there but what can I do legally? I’ve tried to reach out and talk but she is going 200mph and not thinking but I don’t want my house to go. What can I do? She can do one but I want my house back.

Have you had a word with Citizens Advice? They can evaluate your case and tell you if it’s worth paying a solicitor. I had debt collectors put 0nto me for a debt I had already paid a year beforehand. The C/A solicitor took one look at the bank statement I put before her, got straight onto the firms solicitors, and the debt collectors were immediately called off. They can’t fight your case for you but they are great at pointing you in the right direction. My sympathies are with you mate. We hear about women’s rights ad nauseum, but never about men’s rights - probably because we don’t have any!

 

[Gordon Armstrong]

You definitely need to see a solicitor a.s.a.p. I'm afraid . . . . that's what C.A. will tell you, so don't waste time

 

[SAFCDRUM]

That sounds **** mate. Sorry you are going through all this. I had my house before I met my mrs and shes also not on mortgage. I dont know the answer legally. Citizens advice is a good shout initially.

 

[Oldsandy]

You definitely need to see a solicitor a.s.a.p. I'm afraid . . . . that's what C.A. will tell you, so don't waste time

CA can also help work out how much legal aid he is entitled to, if any. As solicitors charge by the minute, by already having that part sorted it can save a little money.

 

[joeisonfire]

Thanks for the advice, I will give them a call tomorrow see what they can do

 

[Draig]

Sorry for all your trouble marra, hope it gets sorted out soon.

 

[Teessidemackem]

Can anyone help me to see where I stand here. My head is absolutely battered.

Came into £ recently done house up had an argument with Mrs and she kicked me out. We are married with kids but she is not named on mortgage and I had house before we met. She is absolutely terrible with money and she will not pay mortgage and I couldn’t afford to rent and pay mortgage, I’ve told her I can sort some £ I’d sell my car she has told me where to go and changed locks. I have some friends and family but when they all have kids and commitments can’t stay anywhere which I know is fine. I’m sleeping In the car and getting myself a clean at work. But I want my house back, I’ve said kids will never be homeless and they can always be there but what can I do legally? I’ve tried to reach out and talk but she is going 200mph and not thinking but I don’t want my house to go. What can I do? She can do one but I want my house back.

Goodluck mate, i hope you find the help your looking for and your situation improves soon.

 

[samwise_new]

few years back, a lad i know got married and it did not last long, he had bought and paid for his house well before he met her...yet had they been married for over a year he was told she could have laid claim to half even though there were no kids, as it was it lasted just under the year so all she got was some tupperware.

get legal help asap mate, have seen far too many such cases, used to work with a lad and all he went on about was how he now lived in a one room flat and could not even afford to carpet it out while she was living in his old house with her new fella... i believe things have changed a bit now but keep any texts you get especially if she is being daft about this.

my own thoughts are that there are kids involved so both parties should do the best for them but as my son is going through some right **** atm with an ex i know how stubborn the fairer sex can be in such cases, good luck.

 

[Sunderpitt]

You definitely need to see a solicitor a.s.a.p. I'm afraid . . . . that's what C.A. will tell you, so don't waste time

Yep and get back in the house and stay there, otherwise you have given the house up. Check this with legal advice.

 

[Sunderpitt]

few years back, a lad i know got married and it did not last long, he had bought and paid for his house well before he met her...yet had they been married for over a year he was told she could have laid claim to half even though there were no kids, as it was it lasted just under the year so all she got was some tupperware.

get legal help asap mate, have seen far too many such cases, used to work with a lad and all he went on about was how he now lived in a one room flat and could not even afford to carpet it out while she was living in his old house with her new fella... i believe things have changed a bit now but keep any texts you get especially if she is being daft about this.

my own thoughts are that there are kids involved so both parties should do the best for them but as my son is going through some right **** atm with an ex i know how stubborn the fairer sex can be in such cases, good luck.

My son went and to certain extent still is going through troubles with his ex. His solicitor in Wallsend was good ( and social services) he has custody.

 

[Oldsandy]

few years back, a lad i know got married and it did not last long, he had bought and paid for his house well before he met her...yet had they been married for over a year he was told she could have laid claim to half even though there were no kids, as it was it lasted just under the year so all she got was some tupperware.

get legal help asap mate, have seen far too many such cases, used to work with a lad and all he went on about was how he now lived in a one room flat and could not even afford to carpet it out while she was living in his old house with her new fella... i believe things have changed a bit now but keep any texts you get especially if she is being daft about this.

my own thoughts are that there are kids involved so both parties should do the best for them but as my son is going through some right **** atm with an ex i know how stubborn the fairer sex can be in such cases, good luck.

Yep. Another piece of good advice from Samwise. Keep copies of all communication between you.

 

[Sunderpitt]

Yep. Another piece of good advice from Samwise. Keep copies of all communication between you.

Yeah you need to be really focused and ruthless, it is hard to be like that...

A friend of mine, who has a fairly successful computer company, had a tough time with his divorce. He did not contest anything she ended up with the house, the kids (no shared custody 4 of them) and a shed load of money.
I met up with him recently, having not seen him for over a year covid/lockdowns etc. He mentioned that he now wished he had listened to me and what lots of his other friends had said.. ie play hardball. His ex is now with another bloke ( he might have been in the background all the time) living it high on what he is paying for and he hardly sees the kids.

If your ex has in anyway been abusive to the children get social services in, if they end up being involved it may be very helpful.