The Sunderland captain took time away from the game earlier this year following the sad passing of his mother in May of 2019. And having now returned to training ahead of the 2020/21 season, Leadbitter has reflected on the past few months and the support he has received from fans of all his former clubs. At an away game at Oxford in February, Sunderland supporters chanted ‘Grant Leadbitter, he’s one of our own’, while Middlesbrough fans unfurled a banner of support for the midfielder at their game against Luton Town. please log in to view this image Sunderland captain Grant Leadbitter has a message for supporters And those shows of support weren’t lost on Leadbitter and his family. In a post on his Instagram page, Leadbitter said: “This is a message to say thank you after some of the most difficult days and months of my life. “First of all I’d like to say how great it has felt being back on the training pitch and playing football in recent weeks. “The minutes I have had in the friendlies so far I have enjoyed and I’m looking forward to the new season. “Those were the first games I have played since the Christmas period, and I’ve never really explained the reasons why. “Grief is one of the hardest things we all have to cope with, so when I lost my mam in May 2019 I tried to deal with that in the same way as when I lost my dad 11 years earlier at such a young age, by concentrating on my football career day in and day out. “This time I couldn’t focus each day. It was tough, really tough and I had to be honest with myself and the people around me. “The grief of losing both of my parents eventually caught up with me in the second half of last year. I was only 33 and it’s still incredibly hard to deal with. “It’s been a slow process, but I’ve made gradual progress and I’m looking to continue to do so. Anyone who has been through similar will understand how hard it can be. “My two sisters, my family and me were all really touched by the messages I received from Sunderland, Middlesbrough and Ipswich supporters during that time. In fact the support I have had from football fans across the country has been brilliant and something I will never forget, as have the messages from former team-mates and staff I’ve worked with. “If anyone else is struggling to deal with problems such as grief on a personal level, it’s important to talk and stick with it. “I have never felt comfortable commenting on my situation, I’ve chosen now so I can look forward to the new season ahead by explaining the honest reason why I needed a break. “I’ve enjoyed pre-season and I’m looking forward to having the fans back in the stadium soon.” It's nice to see you back Grant, I've been a fan since seeing you playing for England under 16s and running the game. Hope to see you in the team and wish you good luck for the future.
Grief is a very personal thing and people deal with it in many ways. He's come out with a wonderful message and whilst I think his remaining playing days are very limited we would all wish he can contribute this coming season. I lost both my parents whilst still in my twenties so I know where he's coming from, I still have a quiet tear and it's 40+ years since I lost them both, you never get over it imo.
dad at 12, mam at 22...not sure i really handled it at all well i just kind of chose to 'just keep on', think it caught up to me a few years later. i hope grant has a season or two in him yet and can leave/retire with praise from the fans, he has always been a down to earth lad and always gave everything.
I guess I’m lucky that me at 54 years of age both my mam and dad are still going strong. Don’t know how I would’ve coped if it happened at the ages it happened to you. I’m sure Grant has the support of extended family to get him through this as I’m sure you did.
Sad to hear marra and its always best you share your experiences with people of a similar nature to yourself. This will help you overcome the grief in the long run and strengthen your overall well-being. God bless you, Grant and all those who lose a loved one.
