After years of being out for long hours, supporting wives, raising kids and living the good life I now am in total contentment doing sod all. I go out with Osca at 5 each morning, before the world wakes. Back and have now taken to having 2 more hours in bed. Every Wednesday I visit my mother who is in a home for dementia sufferers and go twice a week to Tesco. Go to all home games and thatâs about it. I love being at home, just me and Osca but do little. Dont have, need or want close friends, never have and never will, I prefer lots of aquaintances because they are less demanding. I have a lady in my life and have now got her in her own home and just as boring as me. My son no longer asks me to look after my grandson because he knows I like being on my own, we are both OK with that and enjoy our time at the football together. I am very happy but when I read my life in black and white, I have to ask... AM I THE MOST BORING PERSON YOU HAVE EVER KNOWN? I MUST BE.
Yesterday was a very good day, she knew me and we laughed for 90 minutes. Most of the time we had no idea what we were laughing at but who cares, she was not crying and in torment. At one point I had 5 woman round me, all laughing then we all waved our arms in the air to a Vera Lynn song. Its funny what brings pleasure.
yep my father was fit as fire and thought this bugger is going to outlive me lol Still i enjoyed visisting him it was the cost the bastards took out of his estate that bothered me he worked all his life and fought in the war. fortunately for him he only supported the Bishops lol I can't even blame him for me being a Sunderland fan lol Going to Bolton Sat my wifes away so things are good lol
That's ****ing shocking that marra. The government should hang its head in shame. If your mam had been a waster & pissed all her money away the state would keep her. You get treat like ****e if you work & pay taxes all your life. Good luck to her Syd.
they took £15,000 out of his estate i only sold his house for £51,000 i was well pissed off and said i would sell it for a tenner and they would get **** all. i got deferred payment syd so if it did net sell i would not pay interedt straight away on the £15.000 i owed i also paid £500 a week Check everything out also get her checked out regularly because once she is in need of 24 hour care you don't pay. if you want to talk to me let me know ill give you my number
we have the defered payment until the house sells then they take their money, right now we pay 700 a month so every month 1300 debt grows. we tried all ways to get my mum to sign the house over to us to save all this but she would not so all she and my dad worked for is filtering away. She was taken into hospital last December and we, me and my sister, were told we had a choice of home but that was it, no other choice. Dementia is a horrible illness, a week ago I sat with my mum and she just wet herself, sat in a chair and wet herself, she would have been horrified to know what she had done. The staff took her for a bath and I left, would you believe that at 63 I got in my car and cried at what my mum had been reduced to, my sister and I cry a lot. Sorry, getting a bit moany here.
Syd remember the goodtimes mate all i can say is she does not know nor can help what she is doing. please pester the nurses to get her checked regularly as to when they say she needs 24 hours care then you don't pay i had this argument many a time when he could'nt feed or dress himself. Sorry but this thread is not for us talking our problems syd you need to talk let me know, look forward to saturday as i know your like me changing managers is not always the answer but bruceies time is running out im afraid.
I went through similar thing with my dad & his cancer. Watching him waste away, getting weaker by the day. He was only about 5 stone when he died.
I am not too sure wether I belive in God, heaven, hell etc. But I think Earth is hell with all these terrible diseases & mans blind indifference to his fellow man etc, I hope that there is somewhere better but have my doubts.
Syd , your post struck a chord with me and I thankyou for your honesty. Many of the things you said resonate with me, it must be the stage of life we're at. From where I sit you are a fantastic bloke who brings a ray of light into the lives of us long suffering mackems, everyday. I thank you for that. And you're certainly not boring, you make me laugh for a start sorry to hear about your mum.
