Because he makes it too easy and we've put up with it for a long time. You try to help - he ignores you, so be it. You could always advise him that a football forum may not be the best place to post your social woes.....
To be fair, I think PL is quite brave in coming on the forum and being honest with his personal life. This is a Saints football forum after all, and he's a Pompey supporter. [yes, bad enough, I know] I wish he could exhibit such bravery in doing other things, like carrying out the advice he so readily wants. When I read him coming back with the same old issues again and again I begin to suspect this isn't as straight forward as it might appear to be.
Agree to an extent, and any advice I've given is absolutely genuine. As Fats and TSS rightly say though, there's only so much (good) advice you can give. He just has to go and take it now and do something with it instead of making the same mistakes over and over again ad nauseum.
Pompey Lapras, I would suggest not even looking for a relationship that might be long term, and just try a few on for size first, on a really casual basis. It shouldn't stress you out too much if you don't expect a great result first time and will teach you a bit about people at the same time
Tbf, I don't intentionally ignore someone, I may not necessarily know how to act on advice, but that's not the same as ignoring someone and I do appreciate any and all advice given. Plus, it's easy to say "Be confident, be comfortable with yourself, etc" but it's much harder to actually do it. Plus, I'm fairly good at faking confidence, and I'm fairly comfortable with myself, how I look, how I dress. As I said yesterday about not caring what anyone thinks, that's gotta suggest some level of confidence right. I'm comfortable enough with myself to run around in a public park with a broom between my leg, etc Also, I actually had no intention of sharing my problems here nor did I even want to (okay, on Thursday, I felt compelled to because I was upset) but this whole conversation just escalated from.... I'm not even sure what. I guess, my deliberating last night whether to go go out or not, which had nothing to do with relationships (I made a passing mark about finding someone to go to Strada with me, but I'd already booked the table you see, so I may as well use it if I can) but I never actually intended to share any woes.
I don't mind you sharing stuff PL, and I don't really think many people do, but there have been practical steps offered, and the majority of people offering their advice are old goats who have had experience that you should probably find valuable.
Don't get yourself upset, Pomps, and don't give up. There will be someone out there for you...just don't think you have to find this person within a time limit. Be happy with yourself and enjoy life.
You lot all need to remember when you were young! When everything a girl said or did meant the world to you.
Can I just stop you right there..! You can't fake confidence. Not convincingly, not unconvincingly, not at all. You're seen right through within 30 seconds. Plus, I know how hard it is to be confident when you're not. It comes with good experience. Lack of it comes with no experience or what you've had so far having been bad. Which is why people have been suggesting online dating, simply because you have far more chance of finding someone you get along with than chance meeting up with people. There's no shame and loads of people do it. Try it, and tell us how you've got along. There are people here who would like to read something new about you.
We do indeed, which is why we're trying to give him some life-fixes to make it all easier for him! It's like being given a cheat code in a game.
Well, not faking confidence, just I'm good at hiding my shyness most of the time. And I did try online dating, wasn't hugely succesful but maybe I'll try again. On a paid site too, might better than OkCupid. And thanks Fran and MLT. In terms of practical advice, I know, I just can't remember what it was. My memory's quite bad like that. Anyhow, I hope Ghana win this shoot out. Go Ghana
