ot.maybe upsetting...suicides.

My last thread of the day, i promise, but this one maybe upsetting for some folks, so apologises in advance.


Seems like in the past day or two, yet another, what appears to be a suicide has happened on the Wearmouth bridge.



A MAN has died after falling from Wearmouth Bridge this morning.

Police received a call about a man on the wrong side of the railings shortly after 10.15am.

Officers who arrived on the scene found the body of a man beneath the bridge.

He was pronounced dead at the scene.

http://www.sunderlandecho.com/news/man-dies-in-fall-from-sunderland-bridge-1-6717357

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It is tragic that people can get to this stage. There could be many a thing that drives a person to commit the final act, and once they are gone, those left behind may never know the full reason why.

Unstable financially.

Grief, loss of someone.

Mental illness or depression, all could trigger this.

I'm guessing that once someone has finally made their mind up, there is no turning back for a lot of them.

It's sad.

 

Suicide is an awful thing.

I genuinely believe you have to be born with it in you, every one of us goes through the ringer a few times, I got myself in the **** many times when I was a young 'un, but it is surely something mentally wrong that would take you over the edge.

Is it cowardly? Well, how can anyone say, how can anyone know what's going on inside somebody else, all I know is that the only thing in life that can't be fixed is health/death, so how can death be the solution?

The mess it must leave behind for families etc must be everlasting, you couldn't help but think there's summat you should have done, it's just an awful, awful thing.

 

It used to be illegal and ounishable with death.

 

punishable?

Indi trying to make light of suicide?

 

https://twitter.com/UberFacts/status/485321435502878720

 

I have bipolar disorder and a common symptom is feelings of suicidal when seriously depressed. So yes, having a mental illness might be the difference between giving into temptation, or not.

 

****ing hell mate, just how close have you been?

That's serious.

 

My late brother, who by strange quirk of fate I referred to earlier today in another post took his own life after finding he was terminally ill and had less than 2 months to live.

 

I've attempted suicide once and had to be revived, not a nice experience. That was before I was diagnosed so I was a bit of a loose cannon at the time and just thought I was a bit of a nutcase. I've got a bit of schizophrenia as well (hence why I was up for attempted murder last year). Since I've been on medication it has levelled me out and I'm a much more calm and level person these days and hope I never go back to the dark days, although it's always around the corner.

When I attempted suicide my mind was telling me that my children would be better off without me and I was nothing but a burden on my family. I genuinely believed that as well, it was awful.

 

My dad committed suicide when I was just a kid. Obviously its affected my mother ever since. I never knew him as was only very little and therefore have no memories or even a photo of him. I think my mum did this to protect me from the truth as a child and she remarried a few years later so normality to me was having a step dad and until I reached my teenage years I never really thought it wierd to have not had a dad for years growing up. My mum says if I ever have any questions she will give me answers but I just don't want to bring myself to upset her again over someone I never even knew. Obviously im curious about why but dont know if my mum feels guilt about the situation so really just don't wanna go there.

As far as im concerned my step dad is my father amd im just lucky hes a great guy who has always treated me as if I was his own and would always do anything for me.

So to the original point yes it affects people terribly but at the end of the day life must go on for those left behind no matter how many questions we may have.

 

Bloody hell, there are some tragic stories coming out.

Maybe this is not as uncommon as it seems.

 

x

 

My dad killed himself as well, when I was about 2 years old.

Up until age 16 my mother tried to protect me by saying he'd died of a heart attack, when I went for my medical prior to joining the forces I was asked if there was a history of medical problems in my family and had to disclose about my dads heart attack and they sent me to Guy's Hospital in London to make sure I was ok to join up. When I got back she told me, **** sake!

I've 3 sisters from my dads side of the family that I've never met, plus the grand parents that will be long gone now. My immediate family all benefited from his death, wihtout getting too deep, they were no longer being tormented by him, so I'm grateful that he took his own life. Not one day in my life have I ever longed for him or mourned him in any way, in fact up until about 2 years ago I was grateful that he'd took his own life as I was convinced I'd have took it one way or another to avenge the **** my family went through. Now I just feel absolutely nothing.

Sometimes it's for the best.

 

****ing hell...

Idon't know what else to say.

 

It's mad innit mate, the stories everybody has but for me it's just my life, nothing abnormal about it. I've two older brothers who are my closest friends in this world, both dedicated their lives to raising me properly after my dad let me down (they've got a different dad to me) and I owe them both everything.

 

Same as, I sometimes try to light of it, just to get through. The pain of mental illness is the worst pain of all I find, I try to remember that I'm not mad, bad, or sad, I'm just not well. Chin up 83, you are not alone!!

 

I find that awareness about mental health still needs to be raised mate. Not many people have an understanding of it and why sometimes we behave the way we do.

I'm a south tyneside lad like your good self and looking from outside nobody can understand why I sometimes go a bit strange with my mood. I've got a good job, winner of the golden boot in the local leagues and I've never had a problem with the women. It means absolutely nothing when I'm depressed though, just one of them things.

Thanks for your comment, it made me smile

 

Its crazy isnt it. When I yold my mates and my missus they were all really shocked and said how awful it was but its just life. Yeah it doesn't happen to most people but youve just gotta get on with it and play the hand you were dealt so to speak. I guess its why I can make light of certain situations and laugh at things most others wouldn't. Just gotta get on with things **** happens people move on end of.

 

Very touching post, I hope all goes well for you in the future, remember, the one constant you have is your children, they are very forgiving.

 

Keep going mate I know I could never know what you are going through on a bad day but keep strong for your families sake and remember tue good days wont be too far away.

Also it could be worse you could be a mag.