I remember the shock of when Brix passed away so suddenly and posting on one of the threads how much I wished I'd made the effort to actually meet up with posters before one of our matches and actually meet him. I think I said it was a lesson not to put off till tomorrow what you can do today to keep in touch or meet people. Well, something quite eerie has occurred and underlines exactly what I said. Last night on the quiz thread Roller posted a reply to one of my questions mentioning he used to drink at the 'Fox & Firkin' in Lewisham. I replied that I used to drink at the original Firkin pub the 'Goose & Firkin' in Southwark back in the 80s. In fact most Friday evenings you would find me and my brother-in-law Stu downing the dark, velvety smooth 'Dogbolter' or one of their other home-produced beers. Our Friday ritual spanned the decade or perhaps longer. Eventually, after I was divorced, we lost touch, not on the best of terms. This evening I received an e-mail from my daughter telling me that Stu had suffered a fatal heart attack at just 54 years old. His wife had been helping my daughter with work and training recently and after visiting my daughter a couple of weeks ago I had decided to try and contact Stu and his wife, if just to thank them for their help and share a pint with him again. Alas, I just didn't do it quickly enough and am left kicking myself that I let that opportunity pass me by. It really underlines how short life is and how easily it can end totally unexpectedly. At my age, and there are quite a number of 50s-60s on here, you become much more aware of your mortality as those you grew up with are one by one meeting their maker. If there is someone you value you haven't seen for a while, don't put it off...
Very sorry to hear of your loss sooper. I lost my father when I was 17 and it has definitely shaped the way I live life. I enjoy it, I live it and I have no regrets.
I remember when I was 14 losing my best mate who died from an asthma attack, it affected me dreadfully at the time but in those days you were just expected to get over it. In fact in was Stu who got me out of my shell many years after that. Life can be so cruel...
Oh mate, I'm so sorry. As you say there are so many of us who are in the 50-60 age bracket where death is suddenly getting more commonplace, we all should act now to prevent future regret. Follow Soop's advice.
Sorry to hear about your loss but the timing reminds me of when my father passed I was at work and got a phone call from an aunt telling me to get move on if I wanted to see him alive. i drove the like the proverbial bat out of h*ll but 20 minutes away, the car radio played one of his all time favourite songs and I knew. He had terminal cancer and his passing was not unexpected - but the timng was. And I had made plans with him to see him two days later and never got to do that
I must say your OP has got me thinking a lot Sooper. I had a tx yesterday evening on the way to work to tell me my mum had been rushed to hospital with possible Pneumonia. She ain't that old but in very bad health. Thing is we had a massive row just before Xmas, heated words were exchanged and we haven't spoken since. Your OP has gone quite a way in making a few decisions for the best. Thanks bruv My utmost condolences on the passing of your mate.
I had a silly row with my sister and didn't talk to her for two years proved to be a waste of two years condolences sooper my advice to anyone is not to have silly rows with family
I think this happens to a lot of usand, good advice Kiwi. Life's too short. So sorry to hear your news Sooper.
