Hello members, This board has always run with debates that allow people their opinions freely no matter how contrasting without descending into personal insults. Over the last day or so I have tried not to intervene and allow people's opinions to roll, for fear of being accused of over zealous, heavy handed, interfering etc. I therefore politely request any further insults stop or any provocation even if in the form of the odd one liners stop. This comment is aimed at more than one individual. I'm too old, too wise and have been around for far too long to not be fully aware of what is going on. I see all the membership within this board. No threats, just a simple request to apply self moderation to a form that you would be expected to be treated yourself. If you can not moderate your behaviour then I do not feel this board is for you. If you come from other boards just to post cutting one liners to provoke people, then I suggest you return too where you once came. This is not about suppressing your opinion but just asking for the insults and provocation to be cut out. I've worked to hard to build this board up along with other members to allow it to descend into anything that upsets our members or disrupt our community. Feel free to discuss... Thanks brb
If some so called adults want to dish it out or divide opinion then be man enough to darn well take it. this all steems from my opinion of kedwell not being good enough and others not liking it. it makes me no less of a fan because I feel someone is holding us back, go ahead hide behind the fact kedwell and alike will keep the team from progressing. I'll save you the bother brb...I've had it on this forum if this is the outcome...fair well
gills4ever - sorry to hear that fella but the rules have to apply to all. I would prefer you stayed on the forum and you entitled to your view on Keds, however, you must recognise we cannot go around calling people idiots it really is as simple as that. The same applies to anyone that insults you. I hasten to add this is not just aimed at one person. I repeat I am aware of all accounts on this board and need no directing. I am monitoring the situation. No one has been banned as a result of this, it is just more to say I do know exactly what is going on and I suggest people curtail their behaviour. If they think they are being clever, then I suggest they think again. Not everything is related to the gills4ever thread in the views I am expressing.
A bit of a storm in a tea cup going on here. It's inevitable that on a debating site things will get overheated at times. We are all Gills fans here - Just forget it and move on. No need for anyone to leave the board really. Massively important game coming at the weekend too!
I don't see why you are leaving over this gills4ever as this is a debate and sometimes you may get it wrong but everyone will be wrong from time to time (In some people's eyes) but that is opinions for you and that is what this site is for. I have read what you have said and there are other ways to get your opinion across without upsetting and insulting and that is what we do on here and this is why this forum is best as we get our opinions across without upsetting.
Hmm, I felt like leaving the board, but I don't particularly want anyone else leaving. However, no-one else "dished it out" or should have to be "man enough to take it". This is a forum for football debate, not a place for petty name-calling and abuse. That sort of stuff is available on fansonline if you want. There were plenty of differing views on the Kedwell thread, with various people putting their reasons and opinions both for & against Keds contribution. It is nothing to do with "not liking it", but all to do with agreeing or disagreeing with the views aired. Nothing wrong with that, and most of the posts were reasonable opinions and good debate. And, no-one abused the OP. But plenty of abuse came back the other way, to me and other posters.
I think everyone is allowed their own opinion, I like you are for Kedwell but I don't argue about it and I think Gills4ever should have accepted that people have another opinion, we can discuss it but we don't have to upset anyone by saying what we think.
I want all members to be able to post freely their views and I do not want any members leaving because of this. I just ask that we stick to our opinions on the topic in question and not turn it into words in regards to members intelligence, sexuality or any other type of demeaning comment(s) towards individual(s). We have to remember everyone has a different level of tolerance, mine is probably greater than most but I HAVE TO to find that ground that is acceptable to all, remembering I would like to think of this as a family board suitable to all ages. Such simple basic rules to allow everyone their freedom of debate no matter how contrasting the view. As Gills79 points out we are all Gills fans.
Differences in opinion are what make a forum and expression should be encouraged not expelled. But the line is a clear one that does not allow personal insult or offensive language and it does not make anyone a better arguer or a more committed Gills fan if they cross the line. I reckon we would all welcome him to make further contributions and express his views as forcibly as he likes within the confines of respect for others.
As others have stated the forum is all about having debates and opinions and though we may agree or disagree over the virtues of different players we should all show respect to our fellow posters and not resort to personal abuse when we disagree wilth someone, lets also remember we are all Gills supporters and are all part of the Gillingham family cmon u Gills !
I seem to recall we've had this sort of discussion before, and life has continued inbetween. http://www.not606.com/showthread.php/119277-One-Year-On The key word is discussion. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but to throw an insult at someone simply because they don't share the same opinion as you is just narrow minded.
At least my insults are eloquently put - several syllables and joined up writing. edit - I'm actually quite pleased with the one I used in a post in your link
But not too smug to put the link into your post (ref : reasons for edit) http://www.not606.com/showthread.php/119277-One-Year-On?p=2159993&viewfull=1#post2159993 Come on, modesty doesn't really become you! And actually I quite like it too.
Tim - we've only met up a couple of times - but yet you seem to have accurately assessed me - but then I can't help it if I have an honest nature - and, of course, being alwaysright.
The biggest concern in all this for me is losing members. It is a double edge sword. On one side I have to be careful not to step into discussions between SENIOR MEMBERS to soon and risk being told by those members not to interfere. On the second side it is waiting for someone to tell me to step in but then it may have reached a level of no return. How do I measure these situations, remembering I have a high tolerance level. It is so much EASIER when it is NEWBIE members because you can shut that door, having no knowledge of where they might go with the conversation and you can er more on the side of caution. BUT with senior long term members, I have to place faith in their knowledge of the community rules and behaving accordingly WITHOUT my guidance! I just hope both members will return to the board and put this episode behind them.
I haven't left brb. I felt like it but haven't. Although I'm a little concerned that you seem to think I have done some wrong in this episode. Please tell me if I am incorrect in thinking this. gills4ever is indeed a 'senior member' that you mention above but I haven't been around here anywhere near as long. But only one person used abuse in that thread. I have never resorted to jibes, ridicule, name-calling or abuse in any of my posts on any thread. I also don't post anything just for a reaction or to be provocative. I don't do sarcastic one-liners. I just join a discussion if I think I have something worthwhile to say or want to agree or disagree with a certain viewpoint (or am trying to be funny, often badly...). And I don't mind at all if people don't agree with me. Their prerogative. I just don't want to be abused for my opinion. And I have actually never seen any of this sort of thing before from any poster until this little episode. It's all the more reason I was so concerned when it started in this particular thread. So, I'll probably stick around because there are some very good posters and opinions and ideas on here (not to mention breaking news). But I just hope the sort of posts that were directed at me (and others) in that thread are a thing of the past.
SirKeefy In the absence of very good posters and with the lack of breaking news - (You'll be familiar with my 'style' ) - I must say I'm disappointed that you seem not to like sarcastic one-liners ( my bread & butter ) - and there I was thinking that I was bringing a little cheer into peoples lives ! What's wrong with sarcasm ? It might be considered by some to be the lowest form of wit - but - I say that, at least it proves you've got a sense of humour - but I already knew that - you support the Gills edit I'm not laughing at you - but with you. If my posts about roundabout rage or supermarket tills can't make you smile, I may not bother in the future. Who said 'AMEN TO THAT' ?
SirKeefy - I want to clearly clarify to yourself and all members at no point did I pick up any part of a conversation to suggest you did any wrong. You did not. I took the opportunity as a warning shot to make references within this thread about other things that go on elsewhere within our board. This does not involve you SirKeefy or even gills4ever for that matter but someone who may seek opportunity to jump on a situation to stir things up further. To stoke that fire so to speak. These I class as aliases and which are created maybe for two reasons: 1. Someone who will do so because I am a supermod of the whole site, so they will try to infiltrate our board because I have banned them at some point within the site. 2. There will be genuine Gills supporters that may hide behind another alias. My job is to work out who is here to cause trouble and who in all innocence have not really done anything wrong other than to create that second account. Technically seeking a multi account should be a ban but I recognise sometimes people just wish to change their identity for innocent reasons. I just have to be sure they are not doing so for cutting remark purposes and attempting to hide who they really were in the first place if they start getting involved in situations. I hope that clarifies and I am pleased you are staying with us SirKeefy also I class you a senior member of our community. Thanks brb
Never said I don't like them alwaysright. Just that I don't do them Probably cos I'm not funny enough to think up good ones, and I don't like upsetting people if they come out wrong...
Thanks for clearing that up brb. And after days like todays set of results, I'm glad to stick around and hear/contribute to the discussions
