Diakite fighting Depression...

Clinical depression is a real bugger, both when it strikes - and to get rid of.

Happened to me about his age.We discussed this subject on here about a year or more ago and another of our number had it bad years ago.

In my case I suffered in silence for months on end at regular intervals throughout my 20s. Saw it as a weakness and didn't want to be labelled. Other than that there was nothing much wrong with me or my circumstances at the time. One moment you'd be right as rain and then everything went dark and very, very miserable.

Always put it down to pscho / physical maladjustment in the transition from boy to man. Unlike Diakite I was close to family base. Went to work every day and carried out my role without revealing anything - but at all other times (including lunch breaks etc.) it was all pure doom and gloom. Studied the condition privately, didn't want drug treatment and eventually, around the age of 30, decided I was bored with the attacks and adopted the attitude that continues to this day that nothing matters THAT much. Wouldn't have worked in the early days. Reckon I just grew out of it in the end.

So if that's what's happened to Diakite, it's probably come on top because he's geographically alienated. Wouldn't know what to suggest in his case but, disappointed as I am as a Rangers fan, Diakite has my sympathy. A great shame in my view.

 

Sorry but I disagree.

The lad's health is more important than his job.

He has my full support.

 

My dad had never suffered from depression and then a few months ago his brother who he was very close to and was terminally ill died. Bang, out of the blue dad gets hit with depression. He was due to come and visit us in Peru over the summer and although he is making a good recovery, mainly through the help of an excellent medical consultant and getting the right medication, he wasn't well enough to travel. Of course I was gutted, but his health comes first and I'm just happy he's getting better. As far as Samba goes, he showed real quality before missing the last few games of the season. The club could have hung him out to dry but instead signed him and decided to support him as best they can. I don't see a conspiracy or a cock up, in fact I think the club knew the score. The club have decided that they think in time Samba will get better and will repay the hoops for the support and help we've given him. What would have happened if Samba had broken a leg with a few games to go last season? Maybe we wouldn't have signed him, but maybe we would have and stood by him as he made his recovery. Get well soon Samba, come back stronger, you Rsssssssssssss

 

He missed the end of last season with the "virus" so that we wouldn't have to cough up the cash and pay his old club. There was a 10 game clause in the contract relating to payments, so he was conveniently struck ill after the 9th game.
I don't think any one can be blamed for this, it's just a great shame.
To swords and those who doubt this kind of thing could go unnoticed: Gary Speed!

 

I highlighted this a couple of weeks ago.According to the person who told me he was suffering from depression,it was down to a death in his family.He wasn't sure who it was but said it was down to fighting in Mali.This was before the game against Swansea and i thought he was feeding me a load of bullshit,however it becomes clear he knew what he was talking about.This is a very grim situation,and almost everyone on this site knows what it's like to lose a loved one.The last thing on his mind at the moment is wanting to play football,it pales into insignificance.Give the lad time to get over this and i'm sure he'll come back even stronger than before,my thoughts are with him!

 

you never know for sure whether its an excuse or not, if its not and genuine and it does sound like it is in this case, i feel for the lad, away from home it cant be easy, we asume because they are footballers and earn £££ a week that makes all o.k, hopeful he is depressed due to settling in, and its not a long illness that wont go away quickly

 

Guys, let's get off the poor boys back, yes he signed but we all would have been up in arms had he not, I'm guessing if he was suffering from depression that would never have been released as the reason we didn't sign him.

He may have depression, but it may be mild and he just needed to get home for some R and R, to get his head straight... His poor performances may have added to his depression.

As we said with Ali's injury, let's not rush him back, we want him right, I think the same applies...

Give him a little time and he'll be back and we'll all be cheering his name again.

 

Nines, you echo my sentiments exactly. It might not be a popular thing to voice but this is how I feel also.

 

Nothing new here, common knowledge since back end of last season which makes me wonder why he's been linckuded in the 25. Very odd.

 

Get well soon samba

 

Club confident of a speedy recovery?

 

Brix, I've been there and managed to get healthy pretty much the same way you did, by the sounds of it.

It doesn't matter what the situation is, or where you are in your life, sometimes your brain just kind of.... gives up, and it's like you don't want to carry on. And the real pain is that you never know, if you're in a 'normal' phase, when the funk will come. It took me a few years to get to the stage where I could recognize the signs, and realise that I was in for a period - weeks or months - of generally hating life and everything around me.

The unpredictability of it meant that I pushed new friends away, which didn't help. But at the time, all I wanted to do was curl up in bed in a darkened room. I didn't care what was going on at the time, what my mates were up to or whatever. I felt like a robot, with a fake, electronic smile when I was at work.

And I knew something wasn't right - I just didn't want the stigma of being 'depressed' - which again didn't help. But again, this started probably when I was at uni, and carried on until I was 25-26 ish. And then I got tired of not being me. After that, the attacks became less and less frequent, and lasted shorter periods, and I've been pretty much stable for 3-4 years now despite making some radical changes to my life (marriage, immigration, etc)

And for most of the time I was suffering, I was living within 3-4 miles of where I grew up, with loving friends and family around me. Not a couple of thousand miles away from home, which is wracked by a civil war that is threatening my family. So God only knows how Samba must be feeling.

I still remember the bridge, a railway bridge I think. Big, solid, brick built and with no guard rails, I think it was between the M40 and M1 junctions on the M25, probably nearer the M40 end, where I'd decided to finish my last drive, if it ever came to it.

So, I don't know what's caused it. But I've got a rough idea where his head is at the moment. And I hope to God he can get better, wether it takes 6 weeks or 6 years. Not for us, either, Swords et al.

And Grifter, that was a ****ing good example.

 

Can't see why they would be from rumour going around but best left there.

 

As secret said, this got mentioned the back end of last season so maybe there was a lack of understanding from the club when signing him. Who knows?! I hope the guy is ok or will be ok but to be honest there are far worse people suffering in the world with absolutely no help, money or hope. At least samba will have the best help money can buy. This may go some way to explaining the signing of other midfielders and the reason not to let derry go.

 

Some of the statements made on here regarding Samba's condition and it's long term affects on our club are to be blunt quite maddening, Statements made by people who appear to me to be more concerned with people "lying", People "covering up".........".MH is an idiot" etc etc, "The club has been ripped off " Than actually thinking a bit more about the situation poor Samba is going through.
People don't admit to being depressed because they dont wish to be labelled Mentally defective, it's not a visible disease that we can all see and it sure aint something that can be cured overnight and as usual there are some on here who can only selfishly see how it affects them and their team without any thought as too how it affect's the sufferer, the same people who every week always look to the negatives wether we win or lose and never see anything positive in any situation no matter what.
Well I for one have no problem with the situation because in life s**t happens which is beyond our control, And i would like to think that the club hierarchy were aware of the problem and unlike some on here did'nt wish to kick a man when he was down, But wanted to support him knowing that when Samba was well again he would come back to a club knowing that he was given all the support possible by a club, it's fans etc and would repay us all in the only way he knows by playing to the best of his ability, This alone can only help in his recovery.
So lets remember the one thing we are all proud of our image as a "FAMILY CLUB" and as a family lets give SAMBA all our support and wish him well as we would wish our family to do if it was us affected by this and not accuse the poor man of taking us all for a ride just to get a big contract and a nice earner while on the sick.
In essence people we all need to start being glass half full folk, rather than glass half empty types in everything connected to our wonderful little "FAMILY" club.

Rant over !!!

 

But for the lad himself, I wish him all the best. The understanding of mental illness is still in it's infancy in modern society.[/QUOTE]

Spot on, its a terrible thing and can happen at any age , good friend of mine topped himself at 18 , linked with depression and didn't see it coming.

Wish him all the best and back playing in the bue and white hoops soon.

 

What an interesting thread, more because of what it reveals about posters than the subject matter. Some quality posts (more please Turkish, you share your thoughts too rarely!). Delighted to see the vast majority of us take the compassionate view of this sad situation and wish Samba the best and respect the club for supporting him.

 

Well said, depression can happen at any time to any of us. Life is hard enough already without having to deal with the most brutal of civil wars affecting one's family, friends and country.

May we all wish Diakite a speedy recovery and our total and committed support when he returns to play for us. He needs our total support and before everything is a human being. If he were to never play again his health and happiness remain far more important than a career in football.

 

You are right Coldharbour. This isn't really a matter that we can sit and start making judgements on.

 

WOW! It seems some (one?) are suggesting here that a multi-million £ contract should 'cure' one's depression! WOW!

Perhaps a multi-million £ contract could do the same for Cancer, Alzheimer's, Cystic Fibrosis, ...............

If this was the case, I would be out of a job in the morning, and by God, what a good day that would be!