ffs man, he said I've got to flirt with randomers, I thought he meant just random girls on the street... That sounds like something a 55 year old ****phile would do. Of course I'm not just going to just flirt with friends, but I want to get to know a girl a little bit before flirting, I'm not just going to go up to a random girl at a bus stop and start flirting.
I think you've got the wrong definition in your head of flirting. What do you think it is? Because I got the impression that you needed to flirt at some stage to show that you're that into each other, and also to develop chemistry and learn more about the mind of the person.
Ahaha I'm just imagining that now. The thing is you've got to take a little risk, try and guess the girl you'll like before you meet her (across the room or whatever). You've got to make it clear so you don't get in the friend zone, which is like having your balls squeezed through a mangle.
Mate i know what you're on about, but when he said "randomers", I thought he just mean random girls waiting for a metro's. Of course I'd not want to wait too long, but I'd at least talk to her for a second to see if she's the sort that wouldn't be too shy or too miserable to do it.
Pretty sure I don't have anything wrong in my head. From the day I met my girlfriend I've spoken to her like a normal human on an actual intellectual level without any need for 'teasing' or 'acting amorously without serious intentions'. I would love to know what you think I would learn about her mind by flirting with the girl I've grown to know more than anybody else for 7 years.
Well obviously you don't need to learn anything about her after 7 years together, I just thought that's how people had a bit of fun together that's all. Oh well, I just couldn't imagine a relationship without a bit of flirting. Not saying your relationship is dull or anything, you must really be in love since you've been with her for 7 years, but I couldn't be with a girl that didn't flirt with me, there needs to be a bit of that.
What happened last night? Read through the last few pages but still have no clue? Btw Tash flirting is so easy, girls are so easy to pull just on a night if you're just looking for mindless sex, they all follow pretty much the same template. It's when you get into a serious relationship they start to become a mind **** half the time.
I can't really think of how I'd word my definition of flirting, but for me it's either A) To show you're interested in someone B) To enhance romantic chemistry C) If someone's willing to flirt with you, it must mean they value you as at least someone they could relate to and trust, not just another random acquaintance. D) Basically just to have a laugh and to entertain each other really. But different people have different personality. As I said I don't think I'd be able to provide a coherent definition, but I have an idea of it in my head, and to be honest I don't think about what It means, when you flirt you just know it's happening.
I know how easy flirting is, but It's not easy to find a girl that's willing to flirt back, most girls just immediately hint that they're not interested or they're just miserable.