I posted this on the TDF page, but figured it might have some value here... Good luck and be well to everyone who reads this thread. I think ive mentioned this before... check out AMY'S CYCLING ADVENTURES on YT. This girl had a nervous breakdown (mental health nurse) and then an eating disorder. Her Dad bought her a Carrera bike and her husband got her a Go Pro. She does everything for charity and has ridden very stage of the Tour with but not only that ridden the stop and start points with only her husband as support, staying in bB's. No massages, or super foods, mainly baguettes and sweets. Her just giving page is now 53k for two mental health charities. Great mantra too I CAN AND I WILL.
I have added the information here as well because pain affects both physical and mental health, it might be able to help several aspects of people's lives, worth a look to see if you can apply https://www.nuffieldhealth.com/about-us/our-impact/healthy-life/joint-pain-programme I hope it adds the link correctly, but this is an opportunity to help with long term joint pain, you can sign up for free, if you fit in with the criteria, you have 2 attend twice a week for 12 weeks and do some educational work and practical fitness, strength, mobility workouts Its a really good program that you can self refare onto The staff are also really supportive it also comes with 6 months Gym membership to Nuffield and access to the Gym, Pool, Sauna, Steam room, Class's and Tennis courts
I've just seen your post on the MH page and can really empathise with your struggles, I definitely experience some of that stuff myself. I also go to the football alone, so if you ever fancy a drink and a chat before a match I would happily meet with you. I'm unable to send you a DM so I thought I would post it on here. Hope you're doing OK.
Sadly, he forgot about his Hull connections, without going into too much detail way, way before dementia set in.
sounds like you need a social life or, at least, someone to share your hobbies and interests with. just wondering whether learning to dance and going to regular weekly lessons would appeal. not suggesting something like ballroom and latin-american where people always have the same partner, but something more social, such as salsa, modern jive, west coast swing, where you'd eventually be dancing with 10-20 other people in an evening. you could take your mrs. you get to know people, it's a regular thing so you always know it's a fixture in your social life. it's going to take maybe 2-3 months to get the hang of the dancing, and you'd have to ask for dances, but most people there remember that they had a first night and they were nervous, and most people will always accept a dance request (it's going to be for maybe four minutes, unlike a dance request at a night club, which is a request for dances for the rest of the evening, followed by all-night shenanigans, and maybe breakfast). there'll be people to help beginners and most there will be happy to share their experience and pass on advice. the usual is for both men and women to ask for dances, so always accept requests too. these dance classes are always short of men, so when you get good you'll be asked more often. i know you might need to push yourself to get through the door to start with, but if you go along and don't quite manage to get yourself to go in, there's always another week. . as i say, all the people there had a first night and remember what it was like. some went with friends, but some went on their own. the weekly evening are classes, which means you're their to learn, especially when you start off. don't go thinking that you can never get to be as good as the people there, because you can. nobody knew what they were doing when they started and it can feel like a great achievement when it all starts coming together.
My Mum left us 3 years today, im not posting for sympathy, my family are just one of those that dont talk about this stuff . my son doesnt remember her as he was only 2, thats the worst part as he asked who she was when he saw a photo the other day. will ring my dad later, but he will just pretend he hasnt noticed what date it is, and say life goes on which i hate
Awe, DJ, you’re in a safe place here, thinking about you on this special day to you. The thing is, people deal with loss/grief in different ways, there is no right/wrong way, everyone deals with this differently. Undoubtedly, the perspective/memory from a child is really, really difficult, you can only share all the good, funny, memories & stories. No matter what people say, I’m finding time is not a healer, over time it just gets a tad easier to live with the memories/grief. It is now 5 years since I lost my Mum and brother, within months of each other. I still talk to my Mum every day, I’ve got a few items of her clothing in my wardrobe, I smell her perfume & presence, that gives me comfort. It may sound weird, but works for me. Best wishes & thoughts to you & your family.
