I cant relate to that mate. I know he sniffs around these boards so hopefully he'll see this. I was unfortunately given a dad which is the opposite to me as a dad for how much i worship my sons so thats all ill say. My real father figure was my grandad whi was a dambuster in world war 2 and sadly died in 2017. I use everything i learnt from him to be the best dad i can for my lads
I have some of his ashes to take tomorrow, going to spread them round the Stokoe statute, I also have his cap to wear as the sun will be in my eyes (he always laughed at me squinting while he had his cap on) Its daft things I miss, he hasn't asked me 56 times what time the bus is leaving, what time i will be at his in the morning. God knows what he woukd have made of all these signings, he struggled enough with his eyes to make out the players last year, he would have been hopeless this season. One thing he would appreciate is I have the hip flask I bought him and it will be filled with a jura single malt tomorrow
12 weeks is no time. I would love to say how positive things can be but we both realize that things don't usually go that way at times. Speaking from experience, you'll have good days and bad days. There'll be days when you feel good and then there'll be that little reminder, whether it's a song on the radio or just something you see and pick up. The only positive I can give you is - hang onto those memories with everything you have, think about how your dad would love stuff that you're experiencing. That way he'll always be with you
Thanks mate. He's always here, I can hear him now calling me a tart and not to use the good whiskey in the hip flask
I'm sure ya dad will be watching over you. It will be an emotional day but try and enjoy it. I'm sure ya dad would want you to.
Will be thinking of you mate xx There's the memorial garden opposite to the main entrance if you would find that helpful. I like going and looking at the coloured pebbles people have left behind with messages on. It's comforting knowing our supporters are still there in spirit.
Thank you everyone. Just called in to see Mam for half an hour to see if shes ok today. I have dads cap and hip flask to take to the game
Chunks, you will have many firsts without your dad, they all hurt and hit harder each time, best advice I can give is remember the lasts and all the memories they hold. 3 months is nothing mate, it’s raw and painful for the 1st few years, you learn to live with the grief it never leaves you. I chose to live my life to the fullest in memory of my mam because that’s what she wanted. Every new memory you make will be in honour of your dad, they are never far from you mate, just close your eyes and they are there. Go and enjoy yourself today, make the memories your dad made with you. God bless you and haway the lads
By all means be thinking of him , but enjoy the day - that’s what he’ll want , he ‘ll be at your side feeling the same - but wanting to have a great day with you . When we score first you’ll feel his joy !
Just came across this post. Had a few rough years, lost my dad who was a top man, lost my uncle who was a massive fan and season ticket holder and also had to perform cpr on my FIL after finding him at home and was unsuccessful. It's good that fans are looking out for each other. Ive got a few good mates who checked in on me but I find it hard to open up to people so easier to do it on a board where nobody knows me. Im taking my 2 boys to the game today, will raise a glass to my lost loved ones but also to everyone else in this thread who is or has been going through ****. If anyone wants to reach out then I'm a message away and have very broad shoulders x
