If anyone is having big struggles with their emotional responses, then I can't recommend Sensorimotor Psychotherapy enough. It's an absolute game-changer in the world of therapy as it connects modern neuroscience with therapeutic practice. I've had it myself, if anyone has any questions. The only issue may be finding practitioners nearby.
Just a thought I went to a docs many years ago about my ‘problems ‘ explained about how I felt responsible for every thing and everybody he got a pac drew a box and put ‘me’ in the box and said I had to think of me and not others - it sort of worked
I and back to work where I ran a small business and instead of doing everything to keep staff happy and the owner I asked for help to reduce ‘ my ‘ hours and the pressure , I had two young kids so needed consideration too - it worked , appeal to people’s good nature and the usually respond - just a key example to be honest .
I'm glad it worked out well for you. I'm sure your children appreciated it. I don't find seeking support easy, but when we don't, people just assume we are OK...until we're not. I've never run a business but I can imagine any decent person might find themselves in that situation if they don't safeguard their own needs first.
Some tips for managing outbursts of anger: Mindfulness - Helps us to widen our ability to tolerate external stimuli. Breathing techniques - Deep breathing is the quickest way to regulate our bodies when our Sympathetic Nervous-System (fight/flight responses) are activated. Useful when taking a step back whilst in the moment. Body scans - Similar to mindfulness, but easier to put into practice. This helps us to tune into the body, and be supportive of the ability to notice where in our bodies these big expressions may begin. By having an awareness of our bodily responses, we can learn to manage these emotions at their source. Yoga - Mindfulness and body connection all in one.
I’m not sure if this is the right place to put this but here goes. My daughter is doing a degree in mental health, I think it’s a nurse practitioner or something. She’s already got a first in psychology but wanted to be closer to the front line so to speak and has a passion to help children in any way she can. Her tutor asked Soph if she wanted her dissertation to be published, apparently it’s very rare that this happens. I’ve read it and to be honest got quite emotional, cannot believe my daughter could write something like that, gets her gift of writing from me lol. It’s going into the journal in either march or April, she’s going to do a phd next while working and looking after two small children, she is my ****ing hero. This is the message she received, seeing it in writing obviously knocked her for six…. A story of positivity I hope you think…
Thank you, she is so bloody intelligent, absolutely no idea where she gets it from, a really beautiful woman but with unbelievable intelligence and such a wonderful heart, one in a million.
I've been seeing a psychologist through work for a few months. He's recommended a fairly old self help book to dip into when our sessions finish. It's "the feeling good handbook" by David D Burns and it's 700+ pages. I was told to find that one specifically, and to just look things up in it and try out the exercises. I found a second hand copy for about £7. Just passing the recommendation on in case it helps anyone on here. I've learned a lot in the last year about workplace stress, anxiety etc. Main thing is not to keep it to yourself. It is something that can be tackled.
A book called 'The Road Less Travelled' by M Scott Peck was doing the rounds in the 90's and was thought to be one of the best in the self-help genre. Easy to read and doesn't bamboozle the reader with 'psychobabble'.
Medication - A check for ADHD might be a total game-changer. It certainly helped me with this stuff, even though I still struggle to accept that I have the condition.
https://www.theguardian.com/society...s-time-gentle-parenting-produces-happier-kids This. Gentle parenting shows children a way of being, and is absolutely supportive of their mental health.
I recommend that any parent of children with ADD should read read/listen to 'Scattered Minds' by Gabor Maté. It's a gold-mine of information, delivered in an accessible way. I found the chapters on 'counterwill' particularly supportive.
