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Off Topic Advice & Wisdom

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  1. John Wick

    John Wick Well-Known Member

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    Thought I'd put a thread up as titled.

    Older I'm getting the more I find younger people asking me for advice, more so at work. From small things to bigger things. I'd don't regret my life but there are a few things I'd still like to do and would've done earlier "given my younger time again". I've recently came to a realisation that no matter how much you do to help someone in life, they just for some reason seem to prefer others over you.Now this isnt a "ive done for you now you do for me", but if you make a mental recollection of what you contribute to any friendship or relationship and you find the scales tipped to your constant contributions vrs others and the scale is massively lopsided, theres nothing wrong with taking stock. Especially when no matter what you do, the other parties seem to just prefer others to you,there's nothing wrong with that,just as long as you realiseyour worth and change the relationship and as long as you learn from the situation, move on and make sure it doesn't happen again. I'm a believer that advice shouldn't only come from one's elder you. So, that being said, what pearls of wisdom or advice would you give someone that have served you well,no matter your age.
     
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  2. Washysafc

    Washysafc Well-Known Member

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    Remember that you are not irreplaceable and if you die tomorrow some else will take your job, so don’t stress. Life is more than work.
     
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  3. ROKER PARK

    ROKER PARK Well-Known Member

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    Add vice.
     
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  4. The Legendary Tongue

    The Legendary Tongue Well-Known Member

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    Everybody will be the same though mate, you'll prefer some to others and the others are probably gutted. I tend to ask advice from those with experience in a particular subject not based on age. I don't fret about being liked or preferred I certainly don't want enemies but I just be me and the rest takes care of its self.
    I don't even know if this was the point of your thread.:emoticon-0102-bigsm
     
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  5. The Legendary Tongue

    The Legendary Tongue Well-Known Member

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    And don't eat yella snar
     
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  6. OldNewtown

    OldNewtown Well-Known Member

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    Best piece of advice I was ever given as an apprentice.
    "The graveyards are full of people who thought they were irreplaceable. "
    The advice was given in the sense that you worked your project so that anyone could step in and take it forward at any time. Notes being made of where the project was, what had been achieved, what was left to do etc.
    I however also took the advice into my personal life so that I did not miss out on things that I really wanted to do. Within reason.
    Thanks Ken.
     
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  7. The Legendary Tongue

    The Legendary Tongue Well-Known Member

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    And don't lie on your death bed wishing you'd had more holidays, they're far more important than a new kitchen or car etc
     
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  8. John Wick

    John Wick Well-Known Member

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    This wasn't a "poor me" thread mate, it was just a case of sometimes you can only do so much. Personally, like you, people can like or not like me in not chewed. But it's good to take stock now and then. A few weeks ago I was giving a lad mortgage advice of all things. I thought this thread would be great for well..... advice on multiple subjects. Mine was a "for example".
     
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  9. John Wick

    John Wick Well-Known Member

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    Same, "make sure you update the job sheet regularly, so if you drop down dead, the next person can step over you and carry on where you left off".
     
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  10. The Legendary Tongue

    The Legendary Tongue Well-Known Member

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    It's not very often I'm right and I'm wrong again. :emoticon-0102-bigsm
    My point on yella snar stays. :emoticon-0105-wink:
     
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  11. OldNewtown

    OldNewtown Well-Known Member

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    Well, you know, the job must go on
    :emoticon-0102-bigsm

    On a professional level it was decent advice as it forced me to check where I was on a project every day. It meant that I didn't miss little things that could have got lost in the general hubbub of work.
     
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    Work to live, don't live to work.
     
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    Sow your wild oats on Saturday night and on Sunday pray for crop failure
     
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  14. Gil T Azell

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    If someone asked me for wisdom or advice we are in a pretty bad place <laugh>.

    I'm just a working class bloke who has had a decent life with cars, holidays, family etc and I tend just to extract the urine at every opportunity. Life is for living and laughing.
     
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  15. The Legendary Tongue

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    And ****ing into kettles :emoticon-0102-bigsm
     
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    Don't see the issue as long as it's turned off when you do it.
     
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  17. smithy in nl

    smithy in nl Well-Known Member

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    Everything will be alright in the end, if it's not alright it's not the end!

    Live life by this :emoticon-0148-yes:
     
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  18. Nads

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    ‘Never take advice from someone who is not where you aspire to be in life’
     
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    Driving instructors everywhere are shaking their heads at that one.
     
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  20. Brainman

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    **** happens.
     
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