Thinking of you, Mrs Smug and the rest of the family as you all try to initially cope with her "demons" and the hopefully move forward to better days ahead and to get back to those first 10 years you talk about. Best wishes Smug
Respect mate thats an incredibly brave post to make. Hope you and Mrs Smugg find a way through this. Life throws some **** at us at times. But it goes on and can be wonderful so here's to better times ahead for both of you.
Take care mate. I know first hand how depression of a loved one, can totally absorb and take over your own life too. Onwards and upwards.
That's took some courage to write that and make private problems very public. Making decisions that can affect both yourself and a loved one in different aspects is never easy and I hope that Mrs Smug can get the help she needs and that you can also get a chance to wake up each day without serious worries - it can take its toll without realising how much. Hopefully in time the two of you can enjoy life together again.
Cheers to you and everyone else. It's remarkable how, continually living on a knife's edge gives you the adrenaline to keep things going. Now that burden has been lifted, despite the sadness, I feel euphoric and ten years younger. That may sound disloyal but it's something I've no control over. I've no idea what emotions will wash over me tbh. We've been together, virtually 24/7, for twenty years so its unpredictable. I just assumed things would carry on happily forever.
I don't know you, but from posts you have made over time this one came as total surprise. You're work and life seems one, that as a couple worked perfectly. I wish you well and also hope your wife finds a way through it .
So sorry to hear this mate sounds like you've tried your best for someone you love and it must be heartbreaking for you, lost my sister in similar circumstances but didn't have to live daily through it like my brother in law and yourself, onwards and upwards pal.
I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through. From the outside you’re always so upbeat and optimistic. No one knows what type of life each of us are going through. Glad you feel in a better place Smug. Hope you and your wife can get back to a happier more even keeled life.
Nowhere near the situation you've found yourself in but when I was caring for my mam along with work , I was told that I had to make decisions and time for myself and often had disagreements with the wife when she booked time away for us. I had her to look out for me but for you to work as well as look out for your wife on your own would've taken some going and you made the decision you needed to make. Sometimes you need to make those decisions for your well being and although I didn't want to make that decision, I genuinely believe my mam did. She always told me that I had a life to live and enjoy which is something we forget when caring for loved ones. You enjoy the time being the person you like being and look out for yourself for a time - you've earned it!
Sorry to hear about your plight Smug,depression is an awful disease. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife..
Mate I can only imagine how hard it has been to cope with all this. I hope you realise none of this was your fault, brains are funny things as we’ve found with some of the richest people in the world succumbing to depression and suicide. Hang in there and let football take over for a bit and remember there’s always an ear on here (like what I did there ?!)
I'm a person who cannot put into words what I think, can I just say though respect to you mate as you always seem so bright funny and very helpful with other people and no one would've guessed it with all you're going through. Respect for everything and hope your wife will come out of where she is in a better place.
You're a stronger man than a hell of a lot of others for trying so hard for so long mate. You know we're ll here if you ever need an ear
Been here since 2011, not posting all the time and I was on the BBC 606 before that. I think I had the same name on there as well. like others I haven’t meet anybody in person, however it would be good to meet up before a game sometime.
Cheers again everyone. Mrs Smug is a wonderful woman and I truly hope she can find her way. Many of you have met her and enjoyed her company. This is a very sad time but I'm praying for her ... ... I've tried everything else.
