Weird a four year old thread appearing like that, you sure you aint got a crystal ball in the other pocket, spooky bro, maybe Comm is haunting you.
For want of better words, Comm was always very volatile, on your own don't create that, in fact it's quite the opposite and can help, because you are in control of your own space. It's when you don't have influences it becomes a problem which can make it seem as if living on your own is the problem, because you forget where the lines are. For me it's a mistake people often make when looking at the psychology of the situation, because they are judging by their own feelings of 'normality.' Edit: so for example his drinking, he created an influence to break the habit with his charity event, some might remember I was always nagging Comm about his drinking, the charity thing helped draw a line.
When you mention to people about their drinking it is instantly taken as offensive . I've got friends and family who really take offensive to any suggestion that they are drinking too much . Not sure what you can do they can only help themselves at the end of the day
Lol I know mate, Comm told me often enough, being friends with someone though is about being honest, not saying what they might want to hear because you fear upsetting them. No disrespect mate but there is part of me that knows you don't like me bringing it up.
You always seem sensitive when I mention drink, your avatar is a bottle of drink, so make of it what you wish. Let's just say your response didn't surprise me.
It may be a bottle of drink but I really don't drink much at all these days . I used to but could always go a few weeks without it if needed . More than 5 or 6 pints now leaves me really dehydrated and I get little sleep . Not sure why maybe it's getting old
Pleased to hear (read) that mate. I knew a couple of alcoholics in life and it didn't end well for them. I use to avoid having drink in the house, until I knew I could trust myself to leave it alone, I don't gamble either because I couldn't trust myself and you are right, getting old you get to stage where you can't be arsed, that's when you've won part the battle...if you live long enough to make it to that stage. Then once you've got really old you can drink yourself silly because it's all that's probably keeping you alive lol.
I was thinking of the old girls with the bottle of sherry (or whatever it was) hidden under the tea towel
Something changed in him when he moved back here imo and he always seemed less happy then, which is probably due to being so far away from his daughter as that must be incredibly difficult. Comm at his best on here was when he was still in Thailand and posting on both the Sunderland board and prem board a bit.
Very sad news. Just reinforces the message that it’s ok to talk. Comm had plenty of mates on here who I’m sure would have helped if they’d have known he was struggling.
Absolutely agree Libby, Thailand was where he belonged, tbph I thought that's where he had pissed off back to once he'd saved enough money. He missed his daughter, it's all he clung on to in life, it was the part of him I respected. I should also add, that's why I find it so hard that he would take his life, because he was his daughters only support that I'm aware financially.
My neighbour died if it back in September . He was told 4 years ago to quit or he will die . He just carried on thinking he'd be ok . He ended up losing his job and it still didn't sink in. He eventually gave up at the end of April but the damage had been done . His wife thinks it goes back to his childhood and something happened that he would never talk about . I think for most alcohol dependant people it is often the case .
Didn't he have his nephew staying with him around the time he left here. I may be wrong. Probably temporary anyway but I remember thinking that was a positive because he seemed a bit happier about that. Either way if he was happier in Thailand I wish he'd been able to move back there.
He did have his Nephew staying with him, but I can't remember what happened next. I remembered him PMing me sometime after he left, so I looked for it today, and he did, he gave me the reason for leaving the forum and spoke of his daughters schooling, along with telling me how happy he was. However, he had briefly been back to the forum since that PM, and I thought through what he said in his PM everything was ticking along nicely for him along with his new job. I must admit I was getting a tad concerned I hadn't heard from him for a while, but I just put that down to him pissing off to Thailand to be with his daughter and I never reallly questioned my train of thought more than that. I think because I know how much he loves his daughter, this whole scenario today has made it very hard to sink in. As I knew his real name I even googled today or was it yesterday, can't remember, just to see if there was anything in the local media about what Saf had said - I hasten to add I never found anything.
