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Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

Discussion in 'Hull City' started by Steven Toast, Oct 21, 2018.

  1. Des Head

    Des Head Well-Known Member

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    No **** you're anxious. So many changes in your life in such a small amount of time, it would be weird if you didn't feel unsettled.

    There's many chapters left in your life, this one ****ing sucks but this isn't the end of your story. There's so much more to come, your next chapter might actually be interesting.

    Find something to look forward to and do your best to make your Mum a part of it.

    PM me if you want further sketchy, but well meaning advice. I've made it quite clear that I'm not actually qualified to help, but I'm here if you need me to be. We all are.

    Everyone who feels like this should post on here, talking about your problems is the best first step. "A problem shared is a problem halved" is perfectly acceptable, reasonable, logical advice.
     
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  2. Chazz Rheinhold

    Chazz Rheinhold Well-Known Member

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    Another one who wants to be called Dr! <whistle>
     
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  3. Kempton

    Kempton Well-Known Member

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    Brisbane mate, you're absolutely spot on in everything you've said here, especially about not letting it take over your life.

    I have panic disorder and used to have time off work because of it. About five years ago I had four weeks off. It was anxiety at its worst. I honestly thought I was going Cuckoo and that seemed to accelerate my anxiety.

    After I decided I have to go back to work because I simply couldn't afford to lose my job, I set off to work on a Monday.

    Half way there, wracked with anxiety and fear I turned around and went back home.

    It was then that I had a real word with myself. I can't go on like this, I have to fight for myself and my family. I sat there in tears, but I put my work gear back on and walked a long long walk back to work. I couldn't let this **** ruin my and my loved ones life.

    Sheer bloody mindedness was my friend. One foot in front of the other was all I could concentrate on. I made it to work and shaking like a leaf, just got with my job.

    It was the best thing I ever did. Management came over and were concerned I might be doing more damage than good. "Just leave me alone, I'm back and I'm doing my job".

    It worked out fantastically for me. I haven't had time off work with my disorder since that day, even though though the bastard monkey is still there on my shoulder. It wants to beat me, but it doesn't stand a ****ing chance, I cast it aside with an almost arrogant shrug of my shoulders and a smile.

    Humour is as you say hugely important in my rehabilitation. I mock myself all the time and I can genuinely see the funny side to it all. Maybe I saw other people especially workmates in too bad a light as well, because no one took the piss (well there was one, but he quickly learned that was a big mistake, I know how to deal with fools).

    I also learned to look around and see how lucky I am to have what I have and who I have in my life, I think a lot of us need to stop look around and do that sometimes.

    Sorry I've gone on a bit.

    Fibble :emoticon-0175-drunk
     
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  4. Chazz Rheinhold

    Chazz Rheinhold Well-Known Member

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    Keep on keeping on.
    I sometimes think theres an almost insane drive to be happy always happy! Life isn’t like that, it really isn’t. One young kid told me he gets fed up when he sees everyone having a better time Cos what they put on Facebook!! It’s not real son people show what they want not the downtime.
    life isn’t always good and we al have **** times, some seem to be unlucky and have worse times than others tho. But just play the hand you’re dealt and never give up or give in.
     
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  5. Kempton

    Kempton Well-Known Member

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    Spot on Chazz, I don't think I know anyone who hasn't been through rough times. These days I find it easier to look out for others than it is to worry about myself.

    Keep on keeping on <ok>
     
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  6. TheCasual

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    Massively. She's been brilliant at helping me finding the little triggers that start it off and finding ways to deal with them.
     
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  7. dennisboothstash

    dennisboothstash Well-Known Member

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    Hope everyone who suffers with their mental health, particularly anxiety, is coping ok at the moment.
    No expert, but I think the media hype around panic buying and constant messaging around numbers of deaths etc might be overwhelming for some people.
    Look after yourself, and look after your loved ones, by following sensible advice on minimising contact with large groups and hand washing etc, but look after your own mental health too.
    Take care
     
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  8. Cortez91

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    Echo these thoughts.
     
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  9. Des Head

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    These thoughts, these thoughts, these thoughts...
     
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  10. Ernie Shackleton

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    Maintaining strong mental health whilst self-isolating is something we should all be thinking about. I think a lot of us will find it a challenge and without going over the top, it needs planning for.

    A year ago I had surgery which meant that I was essentially housebound for a month. I'd joked before the operation that I was really going to enjoy my recuperation; no work, no responsibilities, just read loads of books, watch Netflix and indulge in a month of Me time. This worked for the first 3 days then I just lapsed into a listless slough of inertia where I just didn't bother doing anything. I channel hopped rather than enjoyed full box sets as I'd planned. I read for 10 minutes then swopped books, not able to get into anything. When the wife was at work I basically sat down for 8 hours waiting for her to come home.

    For people who are used to being busy, on the go all the time, constantly active, a forced period of isolation can come as a shock.

    And it's not just a case of stocking up on copies of The Puzzler either. It's a mindset thing.
     
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  11. AlRawdah

    AlRawdah Well-Known Member

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    Wise words Ernie.

    A some people deal with mental health issues by establishing routines. Specifically for 1 or 2 on this board no doubt, football based routines. Finding a new routine to fill that void is not easy, but an important consideration.
     
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  12. Kempton

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    Always try to look at the positives. I might have time to get my head down and get some serious practice on my guitar.

    Bummer for the neighbours but Hey Ho... :biggrin:
     
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  13. dennisboothstash

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    Very true Ernie
    I had nearly a year off work after a rugby injury.
    First few months were basically Mrs T leaving me sandwiches and a coffee pot next to me as she left for work because I couldn’t weight bear on one leg so just hopped about with crutches and had to go up and down stairs on my arse.
    Mentally really tough for a while.
    I’d say keep in touch with people even if only through FaceTime etc
    And shout out on here if you are struggling
     
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  14. Ron Burguvdy

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    How has the pandemic affected everyone's mental health? I'll kick off.....I manage a service which HAS to continue throughout, but will be incredibly challenging without other services supporting us through the crisis (want to remain anonymous, Having reduced staffing numbers isn't an option. Must admit my nerves are pretty frayed already! Every time I receive a text or mobile rings, I just think someone else is self isolating. Trying to keep very anxious staff motivated and receptive to new ways of working. There's no escape, because we have no football,I end up just watching the news continuously re corvid19. I've realised this isn't a great idea for one's mental health, so am learning to switch off a little.

    It is going to be very tough for a lot of people in so many different ways, ie working in more difficult conditions, not working, self isolating, loneliness, illness, worries about elderly relatives/ those with underlying health issues and then with the anticipated lockdown, no distractions or coping mechanisms. It does seem seems a perfect storm for a deterioration in the nations mental health.
    Who's next?
     
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  16. The Omega Man

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    It’s hard at the moment, no joke, hard.
     
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  17. Kempton

    Kempton Well-Known Member

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    You think about others. Think about family and friends. Put them first whilst keeping an eye on yourself to make sure you're up to it.

    If you're strong enough, both physically and mentally, crack on <ok>
     
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  18. tigerscanada

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    Most human beings have resilience. Those who do should help those who don't.
     
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  19. Kempton

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    Thank you tc, you know <ok>
     
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  20. Chazz Rheinhold

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    By encouraging them to build up their own resilience instead of giving in all the time and expecting others to do it all for them?
     
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