As far as they way to go, by my own hand. Not in a morbid way just I'll decide when I'm done here. And afterwards, I have a Gram Parsons style pact with a friend of mine. Of course it's just the ramblings of fools but I hope that's how it goes. I'd just like to add this is how I feel and tailored to me specifically at this time in my life and could be subject to change.
I was just thinking last night. If you have one of your family cremated how can you be sure the ashes are theirs? Could be any ****ers for all we know. Not that it matters to the poor **** who's dead like.
Their ashes or not. It's not them. As you say. Doesn' matter. Could be camel or lucky strike ash. It's just symbolic.
I had probably one of the ****tiest years of my life last year, for a lot of reasons, but the worst was losing my wife's brother to cancer. He was a great bloke and the end came so quickly once he was diagnosed. Then two weeks later my old fella passed away after a long struggle with Alziemers. To be honest it was a blessing in disguise for him, but it wasn't a quick death so I certainly wouldn't want to bow out like that. If i could chose, it would be after a marathon sex session with the Minogue sisters and Jennifer Aniston, just finishing a nice bottle of red wine then bowing out with a massive heart attack and instant death. For the service it would be straight up to the crem and a humanist service. My brother in law had this guy who was brilliant. We also had the same guy for my old man, and again he was brilliant. He came to our house, asked all about his background and took some old photo's away, and at the service he streamed them up onto a screen in the crem. Brilliant send off. Yes, I know that I'm dreaming, but that would be my wish.
You've been through a world of **** there mate. I may be wrong but it sounds like you've personally come through the worst of it, given what your old man had to endure, on top of having to support your wife through her own grief. I can't think of any comforting words at the moment mate. I'm the wrong side of a few guinnesses for that, but you've always come across as a real strong bloke here in the past and I've no doubt that you'll be the rock upon which your family will cling to in the coming months. It's your place at this point in time to be strong for them. You're a good man, Welder! My respects!
The last two funerals that I've been to have both been humanist. Great personal services, more about the persons life than religion and singing hymns. I know that a lot of people get comfort in religion, but I'm afraid that it means very little to me now. I'm more a Rastafarian than C of E. I'm bowing out with a humanist ceremony, with reggae music over the tannoy, then getting me ashes hoyed down Castle Eden dene. Not in the near future hopefully.
Excellent posts here, apart from Billy's, as he's pissing me off about the lack of bacon sarnies over here. Fortunately I've just booked flights back in July, when me & lass will get stuck into my uncle's world-famous bacon sarnies fried only he knows how Being more serious, good to know how many people have put on humanist services. That would have been unheard of when I was a bairn. I organised a humanist service when my brother died, after all he was an atheist. It went down well - apart from with some of my nutty headcase Catholic family who seem to think that it's OK to deny the wishes of the deceased, not to mention government sites regarding funerals which advise to respect the wishes of the dead person, but so is the mind of the religious nutter, their way is the only way. Anyway, good to hear about religion having less & less influence. Well done you lads.
Cheers mate, i really appreciate that and i do try to be good. There was also **** load of other bad stuff going on in the background at the time as well, way too much to go into, but i just want to erase 2017 from my memory. To say we went through the mill is an understatement, but you know what? we're still here and still marching forward so that'll do for me
