Off Topic Heart breaking moment

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Teessidemackem

Teessidemackem

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When you ex turns up to take your lads from you and all their do is ask you why.
F@ck Sunderland ive never felt so low in my life. My boys are my world without them id be nothing!
 
Im a loose cannon when im in this mood. Im getting pissed then who knows what will happen
 
CITYfiley said:
Your kids need you to be there for them

Might not be an ideal situation for you now

BUT your STILL there dad and they STILL need you

Dont do anything stupid.
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This mate.

I've not long dropped my 2 year old off after the weekend. Gutting hearing him say he wants to stay with Daddy but they don't understand.

Women can be ****s pal but don't give her the pleasure of you doing something stupid.

At the end of the day, the kids will be the ones who will suffer n it ain't their fault. That's what I always think and what you need to try and remember.
 
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My ex was, initially, great with me when we split. However, she turned out to be a money grabbing bitch and nearly turned my daughter against me. I did not allow that to happen and she, my 24 year old beautiful daughter has made a great and very successful life for herself. We're best of pals even if she lives 120 miles away.

Stay strong buddy, you will be equally as important for your kids in the future as you are now. Apologies for the ramble
 
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farnboromackem said:
My ex was, initially, great with me when we split. However, she turned out to be a money grabbing bitch and nearly turned my daughter against me. I did not allow that to happen and she, my 24 year old beautiful daughter has made a great and very successful life for herself. We're best of pals even if she lives 120 miles away.

Stay strong buddy, you will be equally as important for your kids in the future as you are now. Apologies for the ramble
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When we split up I gave her the option of going down the lawyer route.
She said no, you can have them any time you want.
My son lives with me, that was his choice.
My daughter stays with her mam, but stops at ours three times a week.
Mind you, I have seen a few cases where women have used children as weapons to hurt their ex men.
 
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Tees ive got twins as you know. Stay strong. I am 20 years on from my split and whilst its hard in the beginning they always knew who dad was and i have got the best relationship ever with them. Dont let them down. Be there for them. Be strong and by god they will be there for you ☺
 
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Billy the Bastard said:
When we split up I gave her the option of going down the lawyer route.
She said no, you can have them any time you want.
Mind you, I have seen a few cases where women have used children as weapons to hurt their ex men.
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I'm lucky enough to have an ex like Billy's. But like him, have seen kids used as weapons by horrible women against their exs. And to prove this isn't a sexist thread, I've come across several lasses whose ****head exs had either abandoned their kids altogether, or who coughed up financially but were nowhere to be seen when it came to be an emotional part of the kid's life.

What CITEYfiley wrote is spot on. Stay strong Tees mate for the bairns, even if sometimes you have to bite your lip and give in a bit to the ex. The kids come first. And having great times with your kids will make it all worth while.
 
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FTM Dave said:
I'm lucky enough to have an ex like Billy's. But like him, have seen kids used as weapons by horrible women against their exs. And to prove this isn't a sexist thread, I've come across several lasses whose ****head exs had either abandoned their kids altogether, or who coughed up financially but were nowhere to be seen when it came to be an emotional part of the kid's life.

What CITEYfiley wrote is spot on. Stay strong Tees mate for the bairns, even if sometimes you have to bite your lip and give in a bit to the ex. The kids come first. And having great times with your kids will make it all worth while.
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Oh yes, I've seen that side too.
****ers that don't give a **** about their kids.
 
17 years ago, me and the ex wife split. I was only bothered about the kids who were 8 and 4.
I had to see my kids everyday (it was like Mrs Doubtfire without the dressing up). It was heartbreaking. I only weighed 10 and a half stone at the time but still managed to lose two stone through heartbreak.
I considered jumping off the Humber bridge. I told my ex that they would be better without me.
The result was I picked them up every Friday night, they stayed until Sunday night and they came for tea on Wednesday night.

Hang on in there Tees.
Be the best Dad you can be.
It will get easier as time passes.
Do fun stuff.
If you have to give up time with your mates to spend time with your boys then DO IT. Your mates will understand.
Hang in there mate
 
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Tees, if funds allow, book a holiday for your lads (get exs permission first) then you know you've got something to look forward to.

I don't know how often you can see them but do something new everytme. If your lads like one of the activities then do that again. Some they will find boring but sometimes the boring stuff to us is exciting to young kids.
My kids still tell me to this day how they loved coming to dads. We had a young westie too which helped<laugh>
Don't let the kids see you miserable.
Surprise the kids by picking them up from school.
You can do it Tees<party>
 
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