My memory is fine, It was my personal view on one incident, not over all effort. perhaps you want to direct me to where I attacked them from the stands or targeted them directly on social media for that? It's the only way you can make that point remotely viable because that's the point. I've not said anywhere, it shouldn't be discussed.
Exactly. We can moan to hearts content on here, discus and investigate. It's very different to giving them **** from the stands.
You baffle me sometimes mate why the hell would you not want to give them **** from the stands when they are stood there in front of you actually taking the piss out of you in your face.
Because that adds to the pressure and makes it even more difficult for them to perform. We support the club not the players if we drag the players down we drag the club down with them.
I’m not saying anyone can’t have their opinion. I’m saying that it’s a cast iron proven fact that adding pressure to people low on confidence can never help, and it’s not support. I’ll assume all of these people are motivated, flawless in character and employee of the month every month as well, if it’s that simple.
Maybe I know what it's like for a rush of anxiety to stop me to take simple step forward to pay for my goods or get on a bus or any forward stepping positive action, maybe I know what it's like to have a severe lack confidence effect my work performance, Maybe i've been a rabbit in the headlights, maybe I know what sapping effect this has on mental and physical fatigue and maybe I know how the actions and words of other people can make or break or me in those moments of crisis. Breaking them further will never ever help. Giving them stick isn't going to give them an epiphany and transform them, it's going to further cement the problem making it even hard to fix. Footballers tend to love playing football. So when a footballer doesn't want the ball you've got to ask questions of where their head is that. If their head is not there, abusing them will make it worse every single time.
I work in sales. If a person who has previously done well suddenly doesn’t I don’t tell them their ****, I get behind them and remind them of positives and things they are good at and have done well. It’s exactly the same principle.
I've only just started to realise, just recently, why things aren't so straightforward mate. Mindset aren't so easy to change. I'm talking about the team, not anyone on here.
And if you have been telling that same person for 5 or 6 years and your business is nearly bankrupt and they are even more **** now than before let me know what you tell them then?
But it’s not the same person is it? They’d be fired. So, are you saying then we should only be booing Cattermole and JOS as theyvare the only folk been around more than 18 months? Negativity doesn’t benefit anyone. Never has or will. Nobody thrives off it, nobody gains from it.
Sorry mate can't be arsed tonight the A word is coming on and the mags have just gone 1 down you keep singing your head off mate.
He did, and again I’ve said I refuse to write him off and we should try him CB. Coleman has tried to encourage him whilst also stating he’s potentially on borrowed time, that’s constructive.
You know **** all about me I don’t ‘sing my head off’. I do know what support is though, and I do know what makes people feel stronger and encourages them. I relate that to my everyday life, not just going to the match. I’m not arguing over something which I know to be true, adding petrol to a fire ain’t ever going to help put it out.
Are you one of these "they earn millions it shouldn't affect them" people as that's how you're coming across. None of us know what it's like to be under that sort of pressure from that many people. I've worked for the mod, NHS and a number of other large organisations and the most people I've ever been scrutinised by is a presentation to 150. Nerve wracking for sure and I can imagine, if they were all slating what I was doing, I'd have been in bits. Why is that any different? If they'd had a go at me for my first mistake, I'd have lost my confidence in the whole presentation I did. The closest situation I can think of. Mentally it'd have killed me. How can you categorically say they are taking the piss when you don't know what's going on between their ears? Matthews looked like a little boy lost in his second game this season. Made. A couple of mistakes (mis-controlled a ball a couple of times) and th crowd turned on him. I visibly watched the lad retreat into a hole. He wasn't taking the piss, he was scared
I think this quote tells me you are not getting the point of the statements made by Bri, Nads and Marcusblackcat. I'll put it this way (and this is in life generally) If someone makes a mistake of any kind and the first reaction from a person or many persons is to shoot them down. the natural reaction for the person making the mistake is to feel bad about themselves. The next time they come across the same thing they made a mistake previously, the likelihood they will either not try it again or make the mistake because they are nervous. The way to get around this problem, when a person makes a mistake is that you encourage them; show belief that they can do it. That gives them confidence. And do you know what they normal do get it.. Appreciate you have your opinion; and if you feel that barracking someone at the game if they make a mistake is fine that's your choice. . but boy I wouldn't want to F 1 u k up in front of you. I think you also have to understand the point of the previous statements I don't need to go on anymore...
Just to add though, when you say they are taking the piss out of you in the face; by this if you mean they are not trying , are lazy, well now you're talking, they deserve to be barracked...
Still have to gauge why they look like they're lazy/not trying etc. Could easily be some mental block due to the fear of failure. Our fans are some of the best in the country in numbers, but some of the worst at getting behind the team
