a different perspective....

By day, I am a psychologist. Helping those in distress process their emotions and hopefully come to a logical conclusion or a calm acceptance. By night, and at weekends, I am a Geordie and a NUFC fan. My house is one where the anticipation builds on a Friday night, into Saturday morning. We take the metro to SJP. On the way, we check the team news, As we take our seats, hope and tension build like waves. Unfortunately, the waves have been crashing to shore recently. Anticipation has changed to anxiety, hope to hopelessness, determination to resignation.

In Psychology, we talk about the Emotion Mind. A person is in Emotion Mind when their thinking and behaviour are controlled mostly by their emotions. When NUFC are in danger, we are in Emotion Mind. Our fear , anger and frustration towards the Regime causes us to think the worst, lose motivation and passion, and call for action: Boycott Spurs! Boycott WBA ! Cancel our Season Tickets! When Carver came out into that press conference today and said that the players don't care, he was also is in Emotion Mind. He is out of his depth, does not have the sufficient skills and because he is a fan, cares too much. He cannot see past the emotion, and in doing so, further demotivated every player in that squad.

Imagine if your boss told everyone at the team meeting that you were useless. That you were not good at your job, a coward and lacked the skill to do it properly. If it was then repeated by your colleagues, on your social media accounts and in news papers. You would not be motivated to do your job. Your emotion mind would take over and the anger, embarrassment and hopeless would step in. F**k this, you would say. Why should I bother? No one believes I can do it. They are probably right. I give up. This is what is happening the squad every time they stand on that pitch. And until we help them, that is not going to change. We need to all be in our Wise Mind, forgetting about the emotion for three more weeks and thinking logically about how he can get out of this mess in the short term. It is a crisis intervention. Long term plans come later.

I whole heartedly agree that Newcastle is a broken club under Mike Ashley - he is a businessman whose goal is profit, not success. I also feel that NUFC are going to continue in the wrong direction under his ownership. I can understand why some fans want NUFC to be relegated- they say MA deserves it, that it is the only thing that sends him a message. But NUFC is bigger than one man. NUFC is a community and we cannot cut our noses off to spite our faces. Maybe Mike will never change, never invest, never replace. But we have no choice but to hope that he cops onto himself in the summer because this period has scared the crap out of him.And if he doesn't? We ride the waves , one at a time, until he does or until he sells.

Forget Mike. What about the fans, the backroom staff, and the players that cared before they were beaten down 'til they became as demotivated as everyone else. How will boycotting West Brom or withdrawing our support to the TEAM help achieve anything? The players need encouragement and support. They need everyone behind them , telling them they understand how difficult it must be to play for an owner who does not give a damn and a head coach who does not have a clue. I know some of the players are not up to par. Lets worry about that during the transfer windows. For now, we need to get behind the players and be in our Wise Mind, not our Emotional Mind - leave the pressure to tyres and secure the necessary points to stay up.

Lets worry about next season next season. Whether you think you can or can't, you're right. Lets get behind the lads.

 

Welcome!
A great piece and a great username.
Yesterday the players strolled around the park not even trying, despite initial support from the stands. I personally think it's hard just to carty on giving them posiive support when they behave like that.

These lads sum it up well I feel.

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It's been a long season and I'm looking foreard to getting on the beach to forgrt about it.

I can honestly say I'm just not bothered if we stay up or not.
If we go down I win £250 to soften the blow.

 

Great post @bigisbigsister !

I think you're right about facing the short term crisis before facing up to the long term problems. I think we need a change from carver to get it. We'll see if it happens.

 

I think that banner sums it up for everyone. Nice to see some new names in the last 24hrs. Jimiley will take care of your induction, bring your own lube. Check the cupboard though, you don't want JPF jumping out to take part halfway through.

 

Look at that picture, not one of our fans are smiling. I presume the snap was taken at half time when we were already trailing but still, Ashley and Co have made it hell to follow this lot.

 

Thanks folks for the Welcome and the feedback!

I know it's very difficult to be supportive when the lads look like they don't care one bit. But I suppose the argument Im trying to make is that demotivated players -> demotivated fans -> even further demotivated players . It's a vicious cycle . If we give up when they give up we're in trouble!

Totally agree with that banner! But we are part of the club too so we need to continue to show we care also. Cause the football league show is on way past my bedtime

 

I took the picture myself mate.
5 mins later a pissed mag fell off the ledge into the tunnel exit below.
This i heard his knee pop.

 

It was sad to note that the loudest song was the one about Adam Johnson which I won't repeat here...

 

Well I hope you gave my Pink Floyd one an airing

 

Welcome on board bigisbigsister! Great post, I 100% agree about getting behind the lads for the next 3 games, a boycott isn't going to help things as MA clearly doesn't care. Lets hope the team can get that 1 win that we need to stay up.