I don't pick them. I think I am very selective - I try to go for the nice ones! but then I think a lot of people just pretend they are nice when they are actually arseholes.
I'm the Secular Humanist on this board. Hey Jen, was your ex a Saints fan, if not, THAT'S where you're going wrong. You have about 20,000 men at SMS on a matchday, you've got to fancy those odds...P.S. both my sisters met their spouses at football.
Everything. What you can't do is change your chances of winning the lottery. However, people who do what lucky people do end up lucky in relationships with other human beings. That brings you luck in all aspects of your life. If your relationships with people are lucky, love will probably follow, because the last time I looked women are people too. For background, I really am a jammy sod. I haven't applied for a job in twenty years and ended up working in wonderful jobs. I started a business on a whim and it worked out. I'm very happily married. Very. Stuff just happens around me all the time that works out for me. Here's the most recent example. I have incurred a wrist injury and the surgery I need is going to stop me doing my normal job for six weeks. On the day that comes up, I find out that I need to do (guess what?) six weeks of canvassing for one of my franchisees. The two coinciding is typical - I can take six weeks off for my wrist and the business doesn't just not suffer, it gains. That is typical. That sort of thing happens to me all the time. But the thing is, the difficult thing is, it only happens if you do some basic things. As it happens I do many of them naturally, nut doing them deliberately has an immediate impact. But you have to do them. Come along. (And, if you're interested, one basic habit of unlucky people is that they don't generally try doing new things) Vin
we werent together, just seeing each other. yes of course he is - I already made that mistake before!
What's the lucky book? I assume it's related to the group/talk which sounds interesting but the chances of me being in Bournemouth or Southampton any time soon are quite slim.
That will change as people get older and they're not just after a shag, plus they're more aware of what and who they are. Blokes are slower at that than women.
There's an old saying amongst men about women. The ones that make the best wives/girlfriends aren't necessarily the best looking. Now, although I wouldn't condone that thought process [as I said, it is an old one from a less enlightened time] one can see where it is coming from. The same follows the other way round. The less good looking ones aren't guaranteed to get into a relationship, so they appreciate it more. Then there is the simple chemistry between people. People are always on their best behaviour when early in relationships. It's when the being taken for granted starts to kick in that the alarm bells should be going off in your head. If it's early in the relationship then you don't want the bloke. If he's that quick to take you for granted then he'll be very quick to disregarding you altogether. Tbh, it's the advice I would be giving myself.
It's "The Luck Factor" by Dr Richard Wiseman http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Luck-Factor-Scientific-Study/dp/0099443244 You can get it for under £3 from http://www.abebooks.co.uk/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&tn=the luck factor This was an early book - there's been a great deal of work since then but it's a good primer. If you do what's in there, stuff starts dropping into your lap. Not for mystical reasons but for concrete reasons. So, for example, by doing something new (e.g. you go to a mad meeting in a school on a Sunday morning with no agenda in mind) you meet more people which means more opportunities will come your way. Vin
And from a precis of the book: " I asked my vol- unteers to spend a month carrying out exercises and then return and describe what had happened. The results were dramatic. Eighty percent of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives, and, perhaps most important of all, luckier. Unlucky people had become lucky, and lucky peo- ple had become even luckier. At the start of the ar- ticle I described the unlucky life of Patricia. She was one of the first people to take part in Luck School. After a few weeks carrying out some sim- ple exercises, her bad luck had completely vanished. At the end of the course, Patricia cheerfully ex- plained that she felt like a completely different per- son. She was no longer accident-prone and was much happier with her life. For once, everything was working out her way. Other volunteers had found romantic partners through chance encounters and job promotions simply through lucky breaks." Given Jen's comments above, I thought the talk might be useful. I'll shut up now. Vin
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Well, on the subject of love, I declared my feelings for the girl I love to her mutual friend, and she agreed to talk to the girl I love and put in a good word for me. Clearly what I've been lacking all this time is a female wingman.
Damn, I can't sleep! It's nearly 1am here and my taxi picks me up at 4am. 2.5 hours sleep or push on through and sleep for two hours on the plane? Land at 6:45 UK time; home for 7:45, see kids off to school then hit the couch?!?
