When I got divorced we got a "clean break" divorce agreement - this sounds like the one your mate got
mate of mine met a girl in town they ended a relationship over 8 years previously , she said come to mine tomorrow when he went she showed him his 'new' son an 8 year old lad,he was devastated he hadnt seen the lad grow up, within a month he got a call from the csa demanding money
Yep They use them as pawns, I'm experiencing that ATM. I've got court orders in place to see my daughter. One thing missing because of her age (she's 3) is holidays during the year. Because she's not in school ATM over here they go off that and & primary carer even though she's in kindy 5 days a week and I have her every 2nd wknd.. Plus every Wednesday afternoon.. I've got 2wks holidays coming up in May, asked her mother but won't budge cause it's not in the court orders... Asked for a week but again being a ****.. ****ing breaks my heart cause how can you deny a father and his daughter their first holidays together? I'm no dropbeat dad, like I said when we split and she denied access I took her to the family courts so I can have a relationship with my daughter.. At the end of the day so called mothers should think of the children, that's what it's about..
Sorry to hear that fella, hope you get some joy at the end of the day. I have to say, my ex wife was great about the kids when we split up, I was lucky but I know plenty men who weren't.
All good mate, once she turns 5 I'm all good to go back to court & get the holidays put in the orders, I have been advised I could take my ex to court and may get some time with her. The problem is it's only a 50/50 chance because of her age and my holidays are coming up soon so by the time I apply for legal aid I may not get in unfortunately.. In the meantime we are cherishing our time together, as she grows older I know we'll be together more often...
tell your daughter that you want to take her on holiday but her mam wont ler HER DADDY take her, put the boot in to the horrible ****er every chance you get. let YOUR daughter know why you cant do this that and whatever with her,she is being a bitch dont let her get away with it ,my mate started seeing his new son on a weekend and his ex told him not to bring his other son to her house,when he comes to collect his 'new' son his reply was, well you can guess
Looks like I'm going against peoples views again here, I wouldn't do that though it's not my way. Keep the kids out of it no matter what. What's a 3 year old going to get out of seeing hatred between Mam and Dad or being told that her Mam is horrible? Let the adults sort it out but keep the kids out of it, imo.
Spot on why burden the bairn surely if you love her you want the best for her even if you take the sacrifice
the reason i say let the kid know is because the ex is going to be putting the knife in constantly ,making him look the bad guy, well let the child know the truth that its not him ,say nothing and possibly have the kid turn against him?
Couldn't disagree more mate! You can't use your kids in your arguments with your ex. The ex may do that, but 2 wrongs won't make it right. And sooner or later, the kids will work out for themselves who did what and why. Mine did!
I really feel for you and I hope things turn out well. It was quite a few years ago that I read it, and it was referring to the UK, but I recall an article that said Court orders against mothers were rarely enforced if breached. It's a bastard, and it's the kids that lose out, and of course, the dad's. Good luck.
I have thought of that mate, im reluctant do that because that'll upset my daughter if I tell her that. Gotta do what's right for her.
See i dont know me like, can't see any wrong in telling a 3 year old the truth, honesty being the best policy, i would love to take you on holiday but mammy wont let me is not playing its just telling the truth, having two daughters myself and listening to the gobshites in the playground i would'nt think twice about keeping it real
