Off Topic The Goodhand Arms

A Boob A Car Barry wins it.

 

http://www1.skysports.com/news/1109...-van-der-hart-makes-late-blunder-against-ajax

Oooops!

 

Damnit.

What's that, 3 cup finals Avram Grant has lost now?

 

Is it just me or is it kind of dodgy he is on loan from Ajax?

 

Look maybe I was OTT and for that I honestly apologise . Please heed the advice of the far wiser heads on here . They know !

 

OK, here's my tuppen'orth. If there's one thing I'm certain of, it's that everyone you look at with awe because they actually are confident are doing exactly the same as you. They are all faking it. This is one of the most important things you can know. As soon as you accept it, you can just go out and just appear confident in the knowledge that that's what everyone else is doing anyway.

However, the reason this keeps coming up is that you aren't taking responsibility for any of this. You ask for advice, hear it, say it doesn't really apply to you then you go and repeat whatever actions led to disaster last time. When I used to run training courses we called people who do this "yes, but"ers. "Yes, you're right, but it doesn't really apply in my case because..."

The only possible solution is for you to go out and just do some of what people suggest. Setting up women as an ideal of perfection doesn't work (as many of us has said). The only person who can stop you doing this is you. You can ask us the same basic question a hundred times and repeat the same behaviour a hundred times but nothing will change until you change how you act. (Not "who you are" or "what you believe" but "how you act"). If you don't, people will tire of giving you the same advice time after time.

So, I'm afraid it's time to grow up (running round parks with a broom isn't confident, it's a bit of escapist fun). You need to take control of your actions, accept that it's uncomfortable and just talk to women exactly as though they are normal human beings rather than mythically perfect objects.

By all means, respond by telling me why this doesn't apply to you (it is, after all, your habit) but it would be much more productive for you just to do some of the things that people have suggested rather than telling us why you're different.

All offered with your best interests at heart, regardless of how brutal it may sound. You may note that it's almost identical to something I posted quite a while ago - hence the frustration you may hear from people sick of offering ignored advice.

Vin

 

I've been faking it for 51 years and counting...

Vin

 

So, people you know are just being polite..?

 

Having a moment here where I'm sitting on a track that's going to blow everything apart, but we're having to follow the PR plan. I'm not very good at patience!

 

You seem to be doing a good job at it there.

 

Haha, trust me the new track is absolutely killer. I just have to wait (it's not actually 100% finished yet for a start!)

 

This is just some crazy **** right here. Light bulb moment. Epiphany. Dancing the light fantastic.

Women... are... people... too?

If my younger self had realised this the world might have been a different place.

 

When you realise that woman like sex as well... That's a moment right there

 

I'm not going to use the word but, however there's been so much advice, that it gets confusing. And I appreciate it of course. So just a simple succinct sum up.
- Beconfident
- Try online dating
- Don't put women on pedestals
-Don't over analyse
-Have fun!
- have I missed anything? I probably have

 

If the whole of the world realised that women are people and have rights and feelings, life would be better in general for billions of people.

 

. . . . . ↑ Don't over analyse ↑ Be confident

 

By the way, "behave as though you are confident" is better advice than "be confident"

Fake it for long enough and it becomes natural.

Vin

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-31296188
Samsung have issued a warning that you should be careful talking about sensitive subjects near your smart TV as your conversation will be transmitted to a 3rd person. I have also heard that there is a risk of people intercepting such data. Effectively you are bugging yourself. Now the risk may be miniscule, but surely any risk is stupid just to avoid getting off your arse.

 

£92,000 win .....bloody lovely.

http://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/117...__92_000_on_just_a___2_football_bet/?ref=mmsp

 

Stop and don't worry about being in a relationship. It really isn't important for you. It's more important for you right now to relax in yourself and be comfortable with who you are. The rest becomes a whole lot easier when you get to that point (and you stop having to try!)