Yep. I've said it before. He over-analyses. He's intelligent, but he lacks confidence. It's a common side effect.
She is inexperienced, she said she's never had any attention from guys before so she may not know how to deal with it..... Tbf, I did think she was playing footsie with me at the table, and she didn't seem particularly nervous before I tried to kiss her. And I did stop straight away, so that's gotta score me some bonus points. I did have a good time, and so did she. Anyhow, having had time to reflect, I'm slightly less hysterical. Her saying no, isn't necessarily the end of the world. She could have said it for a multitude of reasons and not all of them bad. I have no idea to know how she's thinking, but her reaction isn't necessarily going to be the worst possible one either. She could be flattered for example, so it's wrong of me to assume the worst. Likewise I have got to stop thinking that just because one person reacted one particular way at one particular time, that doesn't mean everyone will react in the same way. Also, I take heart from the fact that she hasn't deleted me from Facebook yet and I think she has been online since. So what I'm thinking of doing is leaving it a few days, then messaging her and be like 'sorry if I made you uncomfortable. I do really like you, but if you want to Be just friends, that's fine and if you might be interested, I will take things slowly'. Obviously wording it better than that.
No, no, no. Just no. Simply apologise for potentially making her uncomfortable. Don't mention misinterpreting her (she'll wonder what she did if you do), and don't mention the just friends thing either. Just apologise for that, and say you enjoyed her company and maybe you should catch up sometime. (Oh Christ, even I'm giving advice now!!)
I read all your post but I've quoted the above bit because that's very sensible. That's a good thing to do.
Okay, I'll drop the friends line bit, but what about saying about taking things slowly? I feel it may be necessary and give her some reassurance. As well as letting her know that I'm not gonna just try kissing her again.
Nope, don't mention that either. Just apologise for potentially making her feel uncomfortable, be sincere and say that you two should perhaps catch up some time. See how she reacts and then try and arrange to meet again in due course. If you really like her, you don't want to put yourself in the 'friend zone'.
Nope. Just say the sorry if she felt uncomfortable bit. She might come back with something positive. She'll certainly think you're a caring chappie type, which is all to the good.
Well that's fairly conclusive. Thanks everyone, I really appreciate it. And do you think there's some potential truth in my thoughts that her reaction might not necessarily be a really negative one?
I say trust in your own instincts, you haven't commited any crime, just tried to kiss a girl that was unreciprocated. She obviously wasn't comfortable on this occasion, but you parted on good terms and have every reason to suppose that it won't be your last date. No need to apologise, just carry on as before, maybe next time you kiss it will be more natural.
PL - here's my advise. Stop posting about it on here. That's not my usual piss-take of you either. You are getting different advise from a bunch of strangers on a subject that scares the **** out of you. You are young, with time on your side; just let things happen and do how you feel at the time. You will balls some things up, you will miss some opportunities and you will get some things right. That's called life. What is meant to be, will be. The more you post about it on here, the more it is at the forefront of your mind, the more opinions you'll get and the more potential to confuse and stress yourself. If you really, truthfully can't shake the need to post on here to seek advise, then either sit and talk to a parent/close family member (like an uncle), work friend or seek professional advise. Pouring it out here is going to screw with your head. You are not a wild animal where you have one season to mate or you are disgarded to the dark side of the jungle. Live and learn by your actions.
