Which mistake would you like to change if you could? I have many... Biggest one, copping the hump, and booting the ex missus out, not knowing, i;d never see two of my kids again. Leaving the forces, to early, the job i'm most suited for. Not laugh at a friend in need, who i thought was taking the piss...then shot himself. Oh and eating a ****ing indian phal..never again. another one of my deep threads....don't wish to offend anyone.
Got addicted to gambling despite saying I'd never follow in my dad's footsteps, ruined many relationships that took years to build, pushed people away and set myself back 5 years. Was a horrible place to be but I'm still not sure I'd change it, it's part of me. No point having a squeaky clean past is there? Few people have kicked my head in mind over the years, I'd love to go back as myself today and see if they still fancied it. Not as deep as yours Comm, you shouldn't dwell on it though pal as long as you've learned from your mistakes and do right by your current family, nobody's perfect buddy.
Starting smoking Moving back to Sunderland when i was 13, it was hell, i had cousins up here (not blood btw, godparent children brought up as cousins), who knew i'd done a bit of kung fu and was a pretty well decorated young footballer. bullies swarmed
An ex-boss was sacked from where I worked for upsetting the people above him, and he set up a new company. He offered me the chance to join with at least 1% shares, possibly 2-3%. I said no because he was an absolute git (hence the sacking) but he was very driven about what he was doing and I should have known he was going to make it. He sold the company about 4 years later for £60 million.
I've really enjoyed being me tbh ........ it's been exhilarating and full of surprises, never knowing what might happen next. If I could change one thing it would be being too stubborn to ignore the weaknesses of certain family members. People always claim they love straight talking but, in reality that's usually untrue. I've been too open & honest for my own good and failed to realise that people can't handle the truth. Money & possessions have little value unless you're shallow ....... family & principles are what count in the long run.
Like you Terry, had a serious gambling problem.....dates back to my teens. Made loads of money in my career, lost it all and more. Won bunches at the races over the years, but that just got me into more trouble partying and gambling more. Always wanted make a living playing the horses, and lord knows I tried. My money management skills were non-existant, and I tried to balance work with it all. Add drugs and alcohol, one hell of a cocktail. Haven't touched drugs for years now, no gambling either. My wife is everything to me, and she's not going to share me with those vices. One thing I do have are some legendary stories. Oh yeah, and a shattered nervous system!
Wish I perfected the art of marrying better. Two ex wives and 28 years between them both. I knew the first one was a mistake but I knew everything in my early twenties so didn't have the balls to call the wedding off. Came out with it with two great kids plus two in the second marriage. So the five of us are fine. When I grew up to play with some of my friends you had to go and knock on their door. These days with x boxes, lap tops, skype, FaceTime etc you don't even need to get off the couch. 6,000 miles between us but so close. Have my family...don't need anything else in life....
Same as LA.....should have made better choices with women, but other than that, I can't complain, I have 2 amazing Kids, have a great lifestyle over here
I wish I had started to go on nice holidays earlier in my life. I've been to some fantastic exotic places but really wish I had started going earlier than I did, my wife and I had our first proper holiday 10 years ago, but there are too many places I want to go to and not enough time...
Know exactly what you mean BK. We are going to go on some of these cruises that take in several of the sights we've always wanted to see, sort of kill two birds with one stone thing. Like the USA and the Carib for a couple of weeks. The year after.. the Far East. The Great Wall, Terracotta Army, Raffles, Hong Kong, etc, all on one holiday.
That was in Prague when I was there, we were on the way to look at it but got distracted by a Czech Cabaret strip club, needless to say we didn't go and look at the statues, boobs are far better.
**** me ive lived a sheltered life lol. My only regret I guess is that I wasnt more driven when I was a bit younger. Its one thing I want to instill into my kids so that they fulfill their potential.
Far too many regrets in my life to mention on here. Lots of things I wish I hadn't done & just as many I haven't that I wished I had. I'm normally so open about my life but a lot of this stuff is really personal & deep.
I wish I didn't get addicted to smoking cannabis when I was 17-18! I think it helped cause or at least fuel an anxiety disorder which made me as miserable as sin throughout my twenties! A decade where I should really have been enjoying myself. I'm almost in tears now thinking about the wasted years of stress and worry! I managed to drag myself out of it at around 30 years old thanks to meeting my wife and having a daughter. It meant that I had other people to worry about and had less time to focus on my own demons!
I've seen the effects that supposedly "safe" cannabis can have on adolescents. It may have no real effect on many kids but for those it does affect, it can be hideous. If it affected you in some way and you've come out the other side and built yourself a good life you've done well mate.
Spending most of my twenties in prison, missing out a large chunk of my kids lives. I do believe it's made me a better person today though, now I'm just living a simple life.
