Magic mate... I'm sorry to hear this. I was in almost the exact same situation last November. I was seeing this girl, we'd been going out about three months and she'd asked me the month before to make things official which I was happy with as she was ****ing amazing. Then one Sunday we'd agreed to meet up but I found out that she had sort of sandwiched me in between two other guys who she said were friends but she was meeting them one on one. Plus she had said she was only meeting one of them so effectively lied to me. Wasn't happy about this. I stewed on it a few days (very bad idea... never do this, I just ****ed up this time due to 'the feels'). Anyway, long and short of it, I ended up being v distant for a few days then phoned her the Wednesday evening to explain and effectively ended it, said that the whole Sunday situation made me feel uncomfortable. BUT I didn't really want it to end as I thought she was great so I backtracked, changed my mind etc etc, anyway the next day we speak again and arrange to meet up to 'talk' but I get a text later that day from her saying she has made up her mind and it's over. By this point I'm already on the way to see her so she agrees to it. We meet up, I do a lot of pussy ass stuff which effectively emasculates me in her eyes (don't do this begging **** or anything mate) and she doesn't budge. Straight after I go to a bar down a double bourbon and tell the bartender about it... his response "Just shag around mate'. Haven't contacted her since, she hasn't contacted me... which sucks because although it was quite short what we had was pretty great. I have been dating other girls since then but I've not found the same spark with anyone else... it's true about fireworks and noone else has turned me on as much as her yet. I still think about her but yo have to accept that if she wants you to be in her life she will make that happen, women run the show. But they're like cats, they'll be around when they want some love or to play but if they don't want you around you won't see them/hear from them for dust. My advice... start dating other people, start thinking from an abundance mindset, not a scarcity mindset. Don't lose focus of your masculine mission/goals in life (one of my mistakes in the above was getting too into it and being too in my feminine... stay in your masculine always.)
Like it I reckon I had a chance of nailing my mrs' (not married) sister when we split. She text me a few times including offering to come round the house to see the dog. Glad I didn't though, that would have killed any chance there was lol
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I've been with Mrs luv for over 15 years, splitting up and being single is the thing of dreams. Your a lucky man stop being all girly and enjoy it. Note to Mrs luv: If you ever read this it was typed in jest for the purposes of an online forum.
**** her. If you're going to uni, you'd have ended up splitting anyway. I'm just deciding whether to lay my tale of woe on you or not. I'm over it now, but back when it happened and for months after, I was in a complete mess. First and only time a splitarse had ever done that to me. I might do some self-cleansing a bit later
If I read any more of this thread I'm going to vomit up my spleen. We've all been hurt by women ... that's life ... that's women. Just assume they lie all the time. It's cynical, but it works for me.
I was with my ex for twelve years(not married) got three kids. We always argued and split up got back together etc. In the end I ended it for good. I went straight out an shagged around a bit. Now im with a woman who's ten years younger than me im 33 . She's better in every way. Morale of the storry go out **** anything until something better comes along
Cheers lads! So basically just shag? Gotcha! As it happens, another day with yet more confusion! No contact is a bitch because you don't know where you stand! My problem is, I'm receiving so many signals from her. I've spoke to her friends and every one refuses to rule out the possibility of us getting back together, each telling me to wait and see. I sit there in college and help her through her course work, is she using me? She's giving me the impression that she's over the pain, going out with her family and posting positive statuses on Facebook, is she over me or this just an act? I have no idea how I'm meant to act, whether I'm to try and talk to her and sort this out, give her space, or just to give up in general. She's a very strong-minded, stubborn girl, but I also understand why she has her doubts.. Maybe she's scared that I'm going to end it in the heat of the moment again? Our last major fall out I took everything on board and made myself better, I realise the best way of being sorry is to not let the mistake happen again, and I'm prepared to do that. The thing is.. The last few weeks she's been in hospital, suffered this break-up, and has fallen behind on this course. But throughout it, I've done my very best to support her, comfort her, help her. I still care about her, I hate the thought of not being with her but I know the longer I have this hope the more I'm prolonging the pain. I want an answer from her, but I can't push for it. What do I do? Is there anything I can do? DISCLAIMER: Bucket not provided. And yes I realise I sound utterly pathetic
