It's certainly not amusing but yes I do believe it leans towards poor parenting. To give in to a 4 year old and pass the problem of a picky eater to others I find hard to defend. Brought up two kids from birth to adulthood so seen plenty of the typical child behaviour.
Support with the development of the emotional brain during the teenage years would absolutely reduce this behaviour. It would also create an enlightened workforce.
What is this system people refer to ? There wasn’t a system when I grew up , if you were poor you were poor if your dad worked you were better off , there was no system , it’s like everyone needs spoon feeding and crutches to live . There’s nothing wrong with helping people that’s human nature but the more you provide the more the demand will increase. Human rights have a place but they’ve been hijacked and taken to the smallest factor by those who ‘earn’ from it, the media , the lawyers the govt whoever is in power and it’s beyond whatever it was originally intended . These ‘rights ‘ are rife in almost every institution , schools etc and now. what system have they been failed by ? The system that says teach your child right and wrong , the value of things , and so on . Teach them to behave and do their best . That’s parenting it’s natural and doesn’t need a system . What I will acknowledge is that poverty seems to be perpetual in poor areas . How do you address that ?
Young people in Hull are probably in the best position to buy a house, one problem is the areas where I bought my first house, Rosmead Street £4750.00 in 1978 are now full of renters, the rents are extortionate compared to the price of properties. You can get some decent houses in Hull for £125k mortgage about £500 a month with a 10% deposit, rents start at about £700 for somewhere reasonable.
I have a family member who suffers with Arfid, it is an horrendous and possibly life threatening condition. Arfid is nothing to do with being a picky eater.I find your comments disgusting. I suggest you do your research before spouting such ****e.
I had to google what it is - I'll be honest and say I'd never heard of it before - is it a UK thing because I've never heard anyone talk about it here before?
It’s not a Uk thing no, though it has only been recognised since 2013, it was previously referred to as Selective Eating Disorder. Thankfully the mental health services have began to address the need for help for Arfid over the last few years, after many years of parents battling for appropriate help. It’s a horrible condition for both the patient and their families.
Well, this has been an interesting morning's read. Arfid and attachment. Do we get the letter "B" 's tomorrow?
My job is to help educate young people, not to be friend, therapist and social worker all rolled into one for them on top of teaching. The mission creep in teaching is a huge reason why many are ****ing off and pursuing careers in other industries.
You see things your way I will see things my way. You have your experiences just as I have mine. I don't see that as a reason to get arssy and start throwing insults about. I hope you don't carry that attitude into your working with children's mental health work. Oh and I know a bit about that from both sides of the coin too. Clearly we aren't going to find a middle ground, I will leave it at that.
You have your experience? You have raised two children so you think you have experience of Arfid? You have experience of both sides of children’s mental health but you are willing to belittle both children with Arfid and their parents? What a prick. You have no idea what you are talking about.
My daughter has become a pain in the arse with food. She used to be pretty good as a toddler but just got worse as she’s got older, now to the point she will be particular about things like which chicken nuggets or sausages she’ll eat. Going a bit off piste to mainland Spain in July that’s going to be fun
Neither is parenting and adoption/fosterage so I don’t know why it’s a societal problem if some people aren’t good at it.
I was making the point that 'the system' as a concept has existed for rather a long time. I wasn't commenting on anything else.
I read your post and nearly commented (arsily) about some children appearing to be ‘picky’ eaters when it’s actually very much a medical condition…but I assumed you weren’t talking about children with those types of conditions tbh?
I had never heard the term Arfid, which is now the benefit term for picky eaters, there are so many labels that kids get thrust upon them in the recent decade that I’m surprised the benefits office can keep up, I blame the **** young people consume by way of Macdonalds chicken dippers and all the other processed **** they eat. I blame the parents, as 50/60’s kids everything we ate was home made every day, with lard, we didn’t have fat kids, looney kids, non verbal kids. It’s a new thing all these labels, why?
