Buying another house, it’s in great nick with potential for extension. @Sweats I’m hoping to complete before 30/06 anything that would stop this? We’ve go no chain on either side and it’s sold below MV for quick sale so presuming no down-valuing risk with surveyor. We’ve nominated a single conveyancer for both ends to speed things up.
I just liked this and couldn't think of anywhere to put it. So it's here. Do I ever feel self-doubt? The answer is yes, very much so. My self-doubt tends to manifest itself in sudden, hot rushes of embarrassment, and usually emerges alongside a loss of playfulness or humour — or rather, when I start to take myself, and indeed life, too seriously. It seems to arise as a countering response to my own sense of self-importance. Self-doubt is common to us all, I suspect, and uncomfortable and unpleasant as it is, a certain amount can be the truest humanising force, keeping us humble, vulnerable, open-minded and connected to the world. But, of course, we need to remain vigilant and not allow our self-doubt to become compulsive — to imprison us, shut us down and make us incapable of forward movement. At these times, it is worth remembering that the world can be funny — as can we — and to not take ourselves too seriously.
The more profound question here is, have you sorted that salt in the fridge issue ? Jokes... Good post luv and yes I reckon anybody who doesn’t experience self doubt is either lying or is an arrogant **** who is probably fooling themselves. A degree of self doubt is useful, as it forces you to reflect and address your insecurities. It also allows you to be empathic and humble when you see others struggling, and it gives you the insight to understand how your fear is manifest and hopefully what you need to do to overcome it. When I worked in mental health, I used to recommend a book to people called ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’, a self explanatory title. It demonstrates how fear, insecurity, self doubt etc are perfectly normal emotions. The key is learning to manage them so that they don’t inhibit your life. Your last point about not taking life too seriously is probably the best advice I could give anybody. If you carry stress and the weight of the world on your shoulders, you’re gonna be constantly struggling and that will eventually manifest as physical and mental illness.
Juts been for a haircut and hot towel shave. 45 mins in the chair, phone off, world (with its stress and worry) cut out. Feels great, best I've felt all week fair play.
Reminds me I promised to take my old man down to Liverpool Street after the lockdown to a old skool Turkish barbers, £25 and treated like a king in there its great, beer as you wait, hot towel shave, fire in your ears, haircut. Its nice
Tuesday me, think I'd better do something with the beard too, starting to fecking look like Grizzly Adams
Your issue will be the solicitor and the mortgage lender processing it. Put it in writing that unless they get it through in time you’re not paying them. If they agree great. My mate has been selling his place. Was having issues with the solicitor. So I have him a number at land registry and it turned out his solicitor was lying about things so got some compo as the bird was saying she had done this an that and blamed land registry. Gave him a number and they proved his solicitor had not even asked for the information they said they had. They’re the ****s in a house sale not the agent or the surveyor.
Solicitors are largely ****ing ****. I’ve bought two houses and both times the conveyancers took so long, that I ended up doing most of the work myself. Buying in Cornwall has an extra layer of bureaucracy as you need to do mining searches to make sure you’re not buying a house that will fall down a hole and a mundic block search as loads of houses were built using the rubble that came out of those holes. All adds up to solicitors dragging their heels and fannying around. Both times I’ve taken control of the searches and literally taken the reports to the solicitor’s office for them to sign off. The lazy ****s still had the temerity to charge me for their ‘services’ though.
