I've had my 16 Yr old in a head lock. The **** says I was trying to kill him. He didn't see that I was trying to stop him hitting my missus again. He's all ill get social services in and all that. Kids these days are a bunch of ****s?
My dad never smacked me neither, He only had to show his teeth and i knew i had done something wrong, My Mam did any smacking that needed to be done...
I always start with a jab because they know if the cross comes next it's lights out. I don't and won't smack mine. I was belted growing up and it taught me nothing but anger, aggression, resentment and a lust for revenge. Year by year that leaves me a little bit at a time. Not sure it ever fully will leave me but I'd hate for my blood to have the same feelings going into adulthood. There's a way to deal with a kid and lifting your hands to them isn't the way. A raised voice and stopping their hobbies, playing out and removal of toys/computers is more than enough.
If I didn't get smacked as a kid I probably wouldn't have got punished at all, as the smacking was usually the result of ignoring the previously set punishment. I pretty much always knew what I was allowed to do and what I wasn't, but it didn't really matter cos if I wanted to do something I'd do it anyway and pay the consequences later. If you want to punish kids you should do it with boredom, they ****ing hate that.
I judge my kids differently...I can tap into my kids and they respect me. Other people’s kids if they piss me off either need to remove themselves from the situation or it’s likely I might abuse them verbally possibly cussing their mother for having them and then if the situation allows probably a punch, kick or throwing of sharp object...not really bothered just **** off and die. I hate other people’s kids unless I can treat them like I treat my own. E.g my nephews and nieces...they thought they got mitigating circumstances and could behave contrary to the behaviour I expect of my own child. WRONG little bastards Don’t talk to half of them or their ****in ****y parents
Doesn't work. My son has had pretty much every punishment going. He's a determined stubborn little (not so little now, he's 6'4")bastard. Sadly, I've found the best way to deal with him is to ignore him and hope the penny drops some day. He's calmed down quite a bit lately since he punched through a window, lacerated his hand badly and ended up in a & e. I think also since he was having a paddy and dialled 999 then swiftly hung up. Plod have to follow up calls like this so we got a visit. My son legged it before the police turned up. And finally my daughter(who has been a model child) has left home to go to uni. ****in second child syndrome.
Whatever you ever happens, you should always have another level to go to when punishing children. If the level you're at doesn't work and you've no where else to go, you're ****ed! Smacking should be a last resort but not out if the question.
Yep, up until 6 or 7 smacking can be effective if used in extreme circumstances to show the level of naughtiness (not as the first response), after that it becomes useless and more like assault as reasoning is far more likely to work/sink in.
then by the time they are getting into their teens, it's likely to be a fight so you are correct, it's only effective in earlier years.
I have two older sisters and the old lady smacked us all up till the age of about six, after that she turned to the phrase "wait until you father gets home", this threw fear into all of us but we have since realised the old man never raised a hand against any of us and never even shouted at us. The fear of the unknown is amazing Our old lady had a tactic with me between 5 and around 8 which would be classed as mental torture these days but it worked. She made me a non-person when I had been bad, totally ignored me for hours no matter what I did, throw things on the floor, break things, make a noise or help with the house work. She just walked around me as though I wasn't there and ignored everything I said or did until I cried and said "mam please see me, I am sorry". After that she would give me a hug and say welcome home D.
this has been used for decades. my dad was a miner, (the mine is now gone, and the SOL, is built on top off it) He was always working **** shifts (seems familiar), last thing he wanted was hassle, i'm still yet to hear my dad swear or get angry. He was a hulk off a man, but now sadly not fairing to well, but one thing he has always had was my respect, even though we got to a stage early on where he was more scared off me, than i was off him. We've only ever came to loggerheads once, but not as kids, He always left this **** to my mum.
