Nothing soft about having stress or mental problems mate. It happens to millions. Do what’s best for your health. And if you need to see a Doc, go!
I've been that road several times in my life, you learn as the years go on it helps to be able to talk about it, and men are not very good at that. I think it was quite refreshing to read Comm being so open, sometimes in life you do have to put your health first, albeit i also understand paying the bills and a roof over your head is an important part of that.
Mate, the stress I used to be under when I was trading was relentless. Most of us used to resort to drink ( some to drugs) to cope with it. I probably should have had counselling, but that was for ****s and those that couldn’t stand the heat back then. And if you couldn’t stand the heat you were out! It was only later in my career that I learned to just take a ‘**** it’ attitude.
It's the difference between stress and depression, neither are healthy but depression will have far more reaching long term affects and a change of life style ie job, will not neccessarily be the cure such as it is in stress, but even so change still helps alleviate the affects. You can't diagnose over the internet but I'd put Comm in the latter category for the following reasons; lives alone, bills/money, phsycially tiring job rather than mentally, unsocial hours, misses kid, low mood and ex army etc.
It usually starts with stress, that develops into anxiety or depression. It’s the feeling of being trapped. You hate what you do, but you’ve got bills to pay and a family to look after, that rely on you. I can understand why he feels the need to escape, to change.
Yes it can start with stress, certainly not the primary cause but it can contribute towards the offset. I would imagine having been a Marine he could deal with stressful situations quite well, ie resolutions to problems. But the downside of that career is you will carry experiences most of us could never even imagine. ie lost comrades, death etc...which leads to the thoughts of the purpose of life.
Stress can be generated internally as well as from external sources. It builds up when you feel trapped. That there’s no way out of the life that you’re being forced to live. That develops and expresses itself in short temper, alcohol and drug abuse, and finally anxiety attacks and depression
That's why stress is so easy to differentiate from depression, exactly what you said, short temper seems to be more common, not to be confused with the outward affects of anxiety.
Obviously, I’m talking about the sort of depression that’s brought on by a person’s circumstances - perceived or real. Clinical depression, that seems to have no underlying cause but is a chemical imbalance in the brain is something else.
Ah, I see where you are coming from now. Yeah I realise I was more referring to clinical depression and getting my wires crossed, unusual that eh
Totally agree ! When I worked in site in a brickie gang we twice told companies they where ****ing arseholes and to shove it up their arse. One of them was a really angry heated argument ! We had a period out of work and couldn't go back and ask for work even though they had work available ! Don't get mad Comm it can backfire
Yes I work with somebody that has clinical depression ! Before I knew she had it she twice launched a verbal attack on me and I bit back ! Then after I found out and she had it. She had a go at me I just went and explained things a bit calmly to her! Defo a better option
As long as it gives notice with a leaving date, it doesn't really matter. But as others have said, best to leave on good terms just in case you need a favour later on.
Think a lot of companies only give the most basic of references these days as in We confirm X worked for us from 20.01.17 to 9.7.19. and was not dismissed. Purely to ensure they don't later get sued for someone not getting a job due to an "opinion" in their reference.
A reference is more about what they don't say than what they do. You're not allowed to say anything negative nowadays
