She smacks for everything that gets her temper going. The kids don’t care, they’re used to it so it’s ineffective.
This is one of the dangers of smacking imo. When it starts to become ineffective, what do you do ? Hit them harder or start hitting them across the face ? If the idea of hitting them is to 'shock' them into good behaviour and it doesn't have that effect, then what are you left with ?
I offered, but you turning up at my house minutes later in those clothes was slightly odd to be honest.
Not sure if you’re being sarcastic here ? But if so, then are you saying the middle ground is just hitting them a bit harder than before ?
Never slapped either of mine. Was brought up by ****s who said ****y things and did ****y things so I feel like I would be acting like those ****y mccunty ****s if I slapped my kids. Not judging others just saying how it was for me. Used to make it clear there were some things that could be compromised on but others were non negotiable. They were polite and respectful and we were always told by their friends parents and teachers that they were good kids. Probably ****ed up endlessly but my uni kid texts me most days to say hi and my teen beast will often text me to ask if I fancy meeting after school for a coffee. They are the same with their mum who also never slapped them. Someone said earlier that verbally abusing your kids was worse than a slap on the hand or leg. ..completely agree. Have never felt the need to say anything to someone slapping a child on the hand or leg but always wanna beat the **** out of an adult calling a kid a little **** etc (not on about parents joking with older kids like teens but the ****ers who call tiny kids stuff like that.)
As for me, I 'smacked' my boy a handful of times between probably about 18 months and 3. Always on the hand/back of the legs and never hard, infact I would never use it when really angry as I feel then I would have been taking my anger out rather than punishing him. Still felt awful every time though. Haven't done it since then and found as he got older and more conversational then there's less need as he can understand the concept of punishment (though I use 'consequences'). I also would never need to as like others have mentioned a look is normally enough and then further will be taking toys away etc. which has more effect imo. Obviously you shouldn't beat your kids all the time and there's a huge difference between the two as long term it can be very damaging for the child by normalising the behaviour etc. Like I say though, there's a hell of a lot of middleground between Stan's example and the 'I don't do it cos it means you've lost control' brigade. Also hard to comment on if you're not a parent imo.
Obviously if you have to resort to smacking your child every week then you should start looking at other methods of discipline. A couple of times a year, saved for the more serious and dangerous offenses, should be acceptable.
I learned to buy my dad slippers for christmas after someone bought him some leather moccassins one year and being hit with them was like getting the belt. Thereafter they were always loud and sounded painful. Mum had the wooden spoon which was used against the closest piece of exposed flesh, she got 3 of us across the face at one go once. lol, I was lucky if I got only one a week.
I don't know what they were, but my old man's were hard both top and bottom. It was like I was in a fcking breakdance competition when he came at us with one of them.
