I've had very little to do with any of them really, not since my much much younger years. Probably wouldn't recognise most of them.
Yeah it can be a bit odd that whole 'they are family' thing. When essentially they are just strangers.
That's all they are to me.. If we take out my childhood, i've actually spent very little time living in Sunderland... I'm like the Nomad, Pikey, Outcast of the family... They've all spent their lives here, and i thought, **** this, i'm outta here.
Not after condolences. The guy was a leg. ‘I’m not a violent man but I punched that bird so hard’ He was literally the most unlucky man ever. He got arrested as the cops thinking he was Ian Brady. He had more funny stories than anyone I’ve ever met.
Totally. Felt a lot worse during a minute’s silence last night for an ex-player of ours (42) and coach (31) than going to my great-uncle’s funeral when I’d known him for 25 years as just a miserable git who was sometimes about on Christmas Day.
I've lost a few good mates over the years and that's cut me up more than any family member who'd died tbh. That said I've still got my parents (just about with my dad) so I don't know what it's like to lose a parent. The thing that cut me the deepest though was losing my dog a few years ago, looking back I was probably suffering with depression for a good year after losing her.
I wouldn’t ever put it on a par with losing a child but it can be compared to a childhood friend or sibling IMO.
My dog died quite suddenly, so it was a massive shock too. She wasn't that old and it felt like she'd been ripped away from me. So I think I was probably going through a bit of trauma as well as bereavement at the time.
When I was a kid I had a dog, he was great and followed me everywhere. He died when I left home, literally a week later. That cut me up and I was devastated. We have a dog now as well, I’ve not really taken to her very well, I don’t think she likes me that much either so when she dies I won’t struggle too much.
The worst is when you have to have an animal put down. They go quietly with you not realising what’s going to happen. I’ve had to do it twice in my life and both times I burst into tears soon as I got outside. Heartbreaking!
I lost interest in everything that I was passionate about, music, surfing, etc. I'd find myself balling my eyes out over silly little things that would set me off. Sounds like a cliche, but my whole world just seemed to have lost it's colour and was muted shades of grey.
Have had to do that 4 times now, twice last year. At least you made it outside before blubbing uncontrollably ...
