I had to do the same thing a few years ago when my Father had dementia it broke his heart but it had to be done. Its better if it comes from a doctor as they put the reasons why she has to give up
I would talk to her and ask her to stop driving, explain that she could kill an innocent child etc. Ask her to promise to you that she will no longer drive and tell her that you will be left with no choice but to get her licence revoked if she breaks the promise.
Being in the older group, not that old at the mo I hope, I think you know but try to bury it. After 45 years of driving I take it for granted and with it the indipendance and freedom it brings. I know myself that I drive slower now, not noticable maybe to others but known to me, reactions just a tad slower so I know the day will come. She wont want to know but she will, she will be angry and annoyed but more because of having to face the truth.
Hard as it may be, I would confront her and tell her in no uncertain terms that she either quits driving and gives up her licence immediately, or you will take the necessary action to get her off the roads. Explain to her your reasoning behind it, and that you will do your best to ensure that she still gets out to visit people etc. If you don't act now, and she killed a child it would be devestating for you.
well quick update fellas, Didn't go according to plan! She came to our house and we confronted her...... and then i kicked her out! conversation verbatim me: " deanna, you could have killed somebody" deanna " but i didnt" me " you could go to jail? its 5 years + for vehicular manslaughter, would you let me drive your daughter if i was drunk?" deanna " well im sure i could get out of it........." me " time to leave GET OUT!!! , never met anybody so selfish" wife"wah wah wah" deanna " u bastard, blah blah blah" That night on the couch. Next day straightened it out with the wife, but mother inlaw well good riddance. Down to the police station, and insurance. Police cant do anything as report filed , but insurance are going to investigate. Thanks for all the advise lads, i feel as if ive done the correct thing and im now washing my hands....
depends on your view... no more mother in law = winner lost baby sitter, and a night on the couch = loser, but still no more mother in law
You need to do what is best for everyone which is get her licence taken away. If you get **** for it just tell them to f-off. Make the call mate
I wrote earlier that I had been in a similar situation with my mother's totally-irresponsible attitude to her out-of-control diabetes and driving. I remember this story from the BBC website from a few years back http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/wales/south_east/7133285.stm I'm sure it's not the only one. This is what would have happened, sooner or later, if you hadn't acted. You're not being a **** mate, you're saving someone's life.
No you're not. I have fits & have rightly lost my licensne. Bugger is I have 2 brill vehicles in the garage. A 1978 Honda c90 & a 1964 Humber Super Snipe which I have just had sprayed from red to BRG. They will be going up for sale soon.
