Ok... I asked Mrs. I had forgotten this... She (the daughter) had been going through a lot of "Santa's fake", "Santa's Real", "Santa's fake" switching belief based on what kids at school were saying. The Mrs. got tired of it and so flat out told her he's not real.
This is what irratates me about Christmas and Santa; too many parents don't give a **** nowadays and therefore doubt put the effort in. We always have but my widest stopped believing when he was about 6/7yrs old because of his friends aiming things. Second born similarly but he was 8/9yrs old. I've lost my cool a few times with relatives and their kids recently when they've been around my youngest and Santa pops into the conversation!
Had a decent Christmas, went for a long two hour walk with my dad and had a nice meal and some drinks Still pretty crushed by what's gone on with my ex though if I'm honest ... so sick of it reoccurring in my head and turning it over when it does, trying to occupy myself but it's ****ing hard. Just writing this to vent here as there's not too many other options, sorry lads, it's fairly pathetic but kind of stops me getting upset. Spoke to family about it and they said just walk away, which is probably the best option and I've been holding to that for two weeks now since it ended. I was pretty cut up the day after but since then haven't done any crying over it, never proud to admit to that one as a man but it was like simultaneous blows to the head, heart and gut. I deleted my social media over Christmas so that I couldn't look at pics / her profile etc etc but put it back because I use FB to keep up with a few buddies, and why should I have to do that? All our stuff is still up on hers, although that doesn't really mean anything. I caved in and looked today and I suspect there's this guy she's interacting with on Instagram as he's at the top of her 'following' which indicates recent interaction. He looks like a single dad but I'm not sure, definitely older than me, and her. Again, not proud of doing the stalking thing. She's on tinder and this other dating site because I went back on myself just to try and distract myself, but nope can't even ****ing get away from it on there! Somewhat hilariously she's an 89% match on one of those! Not looking for a rebound or anything, just figure it's better than moping and use it as part of the process of starting to try and rebuild. Ironically that's how I met her. Haven't had any contact at all with her since we split up, there's a lot I'd like to say but she ended it so if she wants to communicate I figure it's up to her to reach out, but then I think maybe she thought I wasn't that interested in her and maybe showing some interest could be a way forward. I'm stubborn with things like that so know I won't crack or cave. At least I can acknowledge that I played my part in the end and know that I probably said a couple of things at various points in the relationship that were stupid looking back but also misconstrued since they were said as I was processing where I was with things. This probably led to her ending it, maybe not trusting me or seeing me as a good option anymore, but I'm not a huge talker and I didn't revisit things in that final conversation, just asked her where she was at ... the end ... accepted it, avoided talking about anything meaningful, then left. I know it's all ****ed and the chances of reconciling are probably around 0.0000000000001% but those what ifs eat away at you.
I can tell you right now.. anyone dares do thst to my kids they will get the **** beat out of them and then ghosted. I don't ****ing care who they are.
I had an uninvited hanger on yesterday. we had a few over who turned up an hour early right at the end of dinner. I can only conclude they had theirs made for them by thier inlaws early. I actually had the following sequence of disasters a) had all roasties, ham, veggies on and went to loo. missus took out roasties thinking they were done but I'd snuck one to test and they were not to i burned the hand getting then back in quick. as you do when you burn your hand you might say **** ask I was only gone 5 mins but they seem to get offended.... I was particularly wound up as the **** in part b wouldn't clear dining table or set it up despite me asking and said what's my problem... do I need to explain I need the kitchen counter cleared for the food being cooks so the table stiff, cake etc needs to move onto the actual table b) when others turned up of course the **** who was asking where's dinner every 10mins for 2 hours was never cleaning up so I sucked it up and let them have the chat and I cleaned up. so the missus assumes I'm unsocial. c) at about 6pm this **** who spent his Christmas with his kids turns up uninvited as he's dating the other **** who wanted her dinner for 2 hours... and proceeds to sit on my sofa and watch not one but two.movies which is in my spot so I never say a word to either of them. they are now firmly in ruining my Christmas territory. I told.the missus to shift them... so I'm the bad guy strike 3. so you can imagine I am now getting cold shoulder due to me being a right ****.. the one single hour I got to sit down last night and all day today she won't talk to me. next time I'm bringing out the axe. lesson they aint allowed in kitchen or dining area at all. the **** who was on about dinner and angry i dared ask her to set table was on the pc pissing about for 4 hours on her photos as well... but I'm the ****. apparently I don't communicate nicely... next time I'm going to explain why there's no such thing as a dm and that fabinho is slow as **** for 4 hours and then they'll regret it.
wait til I tell you about Christmas eve/morning. we did santa at midnight. i'll keep it simple.... a) the **** in point b was staying over and up the stairs she goes while we are paying out the stuff what does she do. goes to main bathroom beside my daughter's and flushes the toilet comes down and whispers oh I thought I heard her .... AS WE ARE DOING SANTA i nearly kill her and she said I had to flush **** me..... b) Christmas morning. oh I promised them I'd wake them.. she burst in our room at 7am. shall I wake them.... uuurgggh c) I do the santa **** down stairs.. all's ok right. time to head upstairs before the cooking starts have a **** etc. yeah.. . blood on the loo seat. yes shed had her period and when she said it had to be flushed it really had to be flushed but the **** never cleaned up. anyway... I fouled the ensuite instead
Sorry you're going through a breakup... I missed the details I was offline when that happened. As I'm sure you're aware though, you will bounce back. Time is your friend, you just have to get past the rough patch.
Sounds almost as fun as my Thanksgiving (didn't share details on here at time and won't go into now, about to go watch a show)... My wife was annoyed with me for a few weeks after that (even though I can't see how I was to blame)... Things back to good again now though.
Slightly more fun news... In trying to track down why Alexa said "goodbye" to me the other night when listing maladies I found out a neat trick. If I say "MyLegsAche" (as one word) Alexa thinks I'm saying her name. So I've been having fun saying "MyLegsAche" Everytime I need to trigger Alexa
Liverpool captain Jordan Henderson threw a Christmas party at Anfield on Sunday for underprivileged and disabled kids. He paid for the whole event, including food and drink. He bought every child a Christmas present, including iPads for the older children.
good on him. might even have spent a half weeks wages but it's the thought that counts here. many wouldn't think to do it.
