Do you realise the huge amount of good you are doing for others, just in the simple fact that you are prepared to listen to others and their problems. You are what many people, especially on here need. Surely thats something to feel good and proud of? We just need to work out how we or someone can repay the favour. You appear to have a good ability that people do with you what you struggle to do yourself, and that’s opening up. You certainly talk a lot of sense and i have to admit i do listen to what you have to say as well as what many others on here have to say (or i read and take in what you all say) Maybe the fact that you can write something down on here is a good start,
Its "normal" to feel bad at this time of year - everywhere you look you can see happy folk enjoying themselves, whether it's on the telly or in real life. Feels like the world is rubbing your nose in it. Hope you can find something else to take comfort in, and in the meantime, one day at a time. Every morning you wake up is a win.
Just wanted to wish everyone a good New Year, this year I turned 65 and technically ican retire but won’t be doing for a few years. I still love my job as a psychiatric nurse, I have been doing it for 40 years ,Did management jobs for short periods, but the bottom line is I prefer dealing with people. I know I can make a difference at times, that sounds a bit pretentious but like anything you enjoy you make an effort to improve. Threads like this are so useful as we build up trust with each other,that is crucial as I know it is difficult at times to find someone professionally who you can relate to. Stigma is slowly decreasing but there is still a long way to go. With myself as I previously mentioned I had a difficult couple of years after my divorce, had a minor stroke in mid 2016 .It was a good year I had a hip replacement,stroke,varicose veins done all in the same year,mind I did see City beat Bristol City 4-O I took stock of myself, cut out a lot of overtime etc, I sold my house this year got in before the down turn, currently renting but don’t need the pressure of a mortgage etc I got support from my daughters,4 of them!I still have hair! What I have found recently which has helped as well is Transcendental Meditation. TM helps me, and despite being in the psychiatric world I had never really looked into it.As my teacher said it is destiny that you saw the advert locally. Anyway take care of yourselves and hope our common love Hull City come through unscathed in 2019 and rebuild again.
Nicely put MT. Perfect time of the year to emphasize the need for we humans to support & understand others. Lots of difficult stuff can impact us in many ways, with many solutions and possible coping mechanisms coming into play. Best wishes to all for a happy, healthy and stable new year.
Sad to see that somebody in their twenties took their life yesterday in the early hours. You may have seen him as reported missing on the HDM after a night out down Newland Avenue. Sad loss of life of somebody suffering in silence. Looking at the Facebook condolences, many of those who knew him had no idea as he was described as such a happy and outgoing person. R.I.P It’s okay not to be okay. Speak out and seek help.
A men's mental health charity and supporters took to the Humber Bridge in an attempt to get people talking about their feelings, just a week after two men took their own lives by jumping off the bridge. https://www.hulldailymail.co.uk/new...ws/hull-charity-puts-emotional-humber-2392928
I think the 'black and white' approach definitely has an adverse effect on people who aren't depressed, just a bit down. If you tell someone that you're feeling a little down in the dumps, their immediate thought is to assume the worst and think you're trying to tell them that you're suicidal. All you're doing is letting off a bit of mental steam. Then they start going over the top, mollycoddling you and whatnot and making you feel emasculated (whether you should or not). You even start questioning yourself about the severity of your unhappiness - am I really depressed? Could I be? Have others noticed? etc, which in turn affects your mood and exacerbates how often or for how long you're merely glum, until eventually you're rarely anything but How do you have a serious discussion with Daz and Jay at the pub about your feelings of melancholy/apathy though? Can you really turn to your dear old mum and concern her with your worries? Will your girlfriend think you less of a man if you get a bit weepy? Very difficult
Good post, mate, all makes sense to me exept I try not to get weepy in front of the wifie so I don't put more **** onto her, watching undateables other night trying so hard not to crack up I was making little squeaking noises in my corner, I'm sure it would have been hilarious if I was on gogglebox. I think distraction is the key (Sheff Wed highlights have helped this week) and try to see the funny in everything
yeah, a part of the problem I think is the word 'depression' is very misleading. I haven't experienced this, but Family and friends have and describe really extreme physical symptoms as well as desperate mental health symptoms. It sounds like it is definitely NOT an extension of feeling a bit 'depressed' or 'fed up' or 'down'. I wonder if the old fashioned term ' breakdown' maybe describes it better? For those who have no real understanding of mental health issues, I feel it almost trivialises the issue and perpetuates the 'just pull yourself together' brigade.
Blimey Erik an excellent post from you. Too many jump straight to he's got depression when actually he's a bit sad a bit unhappy. Life isn't always a happy experience it's learning how to cope with the bad times
I don't think it would have to be dramatic, that's the bigger problem that people think someone is just a bit down because it isn't dramatic. 'Bit down' is something that comes and goes and is just temporary, something more serious is chronic.
This. I never let anyone know about how I felt and would just brush off any questioning, and I imagine to most I just seemed really tired (which tbh I was, due to insomnia) rather than in serious trouble, which nobody saw until I tried to take my own life. I feel like such a ****ing idiot now looking back, but hindsight is a wonderful thing.
You make some good points here. But then there's the other side of it. Where you are genuinely struggling, but say man up, get on with it etc. I've learnt to deal with the peaks and troughs of my own mind. I'm not sure if that has come from experience, maturity or self awareness. But I also know when there's something really wrong.
Feeling a bit strange at the moment. I'm not depressed, anxious or anything. Just uninspired. I've lost interest in the things I love. Guitar/music, politics and football. Had this feeling for about three weeks. I'm not really sure what to make of it.
I'm not trivialising how you feel casual but do you think it's the weather, its been unusually mild prompting an early spring like coming out of hibernation feeling. I'm shaking off my long dark winter interests in TV and reading easier than I'm ready too because I feel I need to get out and about in the sunshine, seasonal change effects mood.
I learnt many years ago that recognising where you are within yourself is key to reading your own mood. In other words knowing that you are not depressed, anxious or whatever but acknowledging that you’re not quite right is a good thing. It allows you to monitor where you are in terms of mental health, and where you’re going. Talk to people. Post on here. Post elsewhere. Keep thinking that this current time is ok, this is just part of who I am. Depression won’t have me and brighter times will soon return. Positive thinking. It won’t change the world but it can improve your world. And on your specifics. You’ve lost interest in politics! Well done. I’m in total despair about our current political situation. I’ll respect our board’s ban on the subject and say nowt but your feeling on the matter probably reflects most people in this country I’d guess. Football? It’s only a game you know! Having said that I’ve only cried in public twice in my adult life and one of those times was at the final whistle in a certain 1-0 win against Brizzle. Music? Listen to something new. New to you I mean. That will probably be something old. Don’t listen to new music, it’s ****.