You must remember the **** I went through a good few years ago with my last wife. She put me through a mincer and financially I'm way way behind where I was. But there's more to life than money and bitterness. I've moved on and had a great life. Looks like its not going to last that much longer, and I had so many plans for me and my wife, but it ain't gonna be. But its been awesome. I'm going out with no negativity and no bitterness in my heart. We're meeting my first wife and her husband for lunch next week and her brother is gonna do my crem service. Life's too short for bitterness and recriminations mate. Gets you nowhere.
I never hold a grudge for long. It’s too life sapping. There are obviously some things that can never be forgiven, luckily nothing like that has ever happened to me or my family. So, if somebody wrongs me I may forgive, but I never forget!
You're right mate. There was. 100%. I was in a really bad place. Just as Sky will be now. But my mates got me through it. That and me burying my parents at a young age and being able to see the bigger picture. My biggest fear was losing my kids. But I'm closer to them than she is so she's lost out in the long term. I was able to deal with really well. Just as I hope Sky can do so as well . Friends. Don't ever take them for granted.
See I dig enough and truth is revealed. All this 'I've never held a grudge' stuff is bollox. Its in our nature to. The difference is how we handle them.
Honestly. I either let it go, or let that person go. Simpy cannot be bothered to give any energy to that sort of bullshine.
No, you're right mate. But I dealt with it. And it was a long time ago and I've forgotten what it felt like.
I try to avoid negative people. Like my sister-in-law. She actually used to be my best friend back in University... I used to find her negativity amusing... As I get older I find it irritating so avoid her. Not really a grudge though... Just don't like negative people. I don't hold grudges really. Now my wife... And her entire family... They will remember every little slight they ever received for the entirety of their days.
My old dear is the same. And all the women in her side of the family. If there's not a drama going on, then they will invent one. My Mum tries to tell me about why her sister has upset her over something she hasn't actually said, but may have inadvertantly intimated, and I'm like ... 'Yeah.. .. what ?...oh... ah okay then'
Yeahĝh . Sounds familiar. When I hear my wife or my sister complaining about someone and angry at something someone has done... I usually end up baffled why exactly it's a big deal. My wife's sister back in University was big friends with one of the fraternities (one I was a member of). She was invited by person instead of by mail to a party so through a fit and refused to talk to any of them again. She stayed friends with me though because we were both pretty close... But after that day, I was the only member of the frat she would talk to. I still don't know what the big deal of "only getting an in person invite" is.
Never held a proper grudge until management hr issued me with my final warning for my sick record , not sure I will ever get my own back , but like to think I will . Not sure you can hold a grudge against a whole department though
Women are mad. Every single one of them Any bloke who says that he has a perfect woman is: (a) newly in love, (b) having his very first shag, (c) looking to shag after a very long lay-off, or (d) a virgin who has a pretend woman.
Good thread Joe! Never spoke to my brother for 13 years but we brokered a peace pack now we are like two peas in a pod. (Good Old Mum ). As for here there’s no real grudges as it’s for ****s and giggles. Although baldy has held a bit of a grudge against me for banning him from the Chelsea board over seven years ago. One would have hoped he would have let it go but he had a too high opinion on himself and thought he was bullet proof (not against ninja bullets) But it’s nice to see he has dropped the snide insults and has vastly stopped bigging himself up.
I can be a right **** but not sure if it's a grudge Not one for starting **** but if I think someone has wrongly wronged me they could be on fire and I would walk past as if they didn't exist My philosophy is along the lines of if you can't be my friend don't be my enemy as you have to think about friends and enemies, whereas I'd rather not give you time of day Only people who currently are in that category are those I've helped and they were ****ish.
