It's hard to put a finger on it tbh, I think with work etc. I've pushed her away without really realising. We've discussed things over the last couple of years but we always had hope we could easily fix things. This time it's different, I honestly think it's done. ****ing gutted. Not sure how I'm gonna cope without my son if I'm honest.
If you’re desperate to save it, then tell her exactly that mate, no pride or ego, just tell her you want to sort it. Good luck and no matter what happens you’ll not be without your son
Can you not get away for a bit, together? Even a couple of days just to rekindle or hash it out? In the end mate sometimes separating is best for all concerned. I've known people stay together for kids but end up messing up the kids. Better to be friends and separate than together festering hatred Easier said than done I know. All the best any way pal
☝️^^^^ Good idea Sky. Get away, just the two of you if you can, for a few days and hash out the problems, or at least end it on friendly terms.
@Skylarker talk it out mate, sometimes it's just changes you both need to make. We all change as we get older and if you don't change together it can be difficult.
I'm a gentleman, guys. I really like this girl. You'll have to wait until I get bored of her in a month or so before I release them
I left when my eldest was 5 ... but I saw her every other weekend and once every week for the next few years ... her and her half sisters couldn't be closer ... they have always referred to each other as "my sister" ... However dark it seems things can and do work out ... my ex-father-in-law came to the Royal Brompton to drive me home after my heart op last summer ... never expected that ... he refers to my daughter as "our girl" ... he should hate me for what I did to his daughter but I always tried to look after both the ex and my daughter to the best I could ... that's all you can do.
@Skylarker - If the sparks gone, it's gone mate. If you both try and force something that isn't there, that's nothing but destructive. I know your head must be in bits, 15 years is a long time, brother. Like every other major blow we get in life, time is a great healer and in time things do get easier. You'll be happy again and you'll start seeing life from a different, happier perspective. That will be hard to see now because you'll be blinded by love and heartache. Whatever happens, happens. You'll be fine either way. With regards to your son, it doesn't sound like there's any reason for you to stop seeing him. I think what you meant is the waking up and being there at bedtime? Been through that too and it's extremely difficult, the thought will be crushing you. Don't let it, that's something else you will adapt too over time. You can still speak to him every day and you'll see him every week. We can't go through life without huge emotional and difficult changes from time to time. None of us are exempt from that. It'll make you stronger again, though. It will be the next stage of your journey, that's all. Anyway, I hope you can still work it out if that's what you really want. My advice is to go slow with it and really listen to what she is saying. You'll know her better than anybody and if it's not truly reciprocated then it's time to go. You can't force somebody to love and be with you.
If it ends it will be on friendly terms. The having to leave my son is literally killing me, can't even type of think about it without crying. I'm extremely attached to him as I never had a proper family. **** knows what to do at the moment but it ain't looking good.
Might be sooner than that. But I have the patience of an oyster! Not a dying oyster ! So dont hang around
Work on it mate. I believe that if she sees that you really want to make a go of it, she’ll respond. So long as you’re sure there’s nobody else involved in this!?
@Skylarker is perfectly aware that he's sharing a lady with another man and so am I... this isn't news mate. What's mine is yours etc. On a serious note, fix it if there's even a tiny chance bro. I'd hate to break up my family and if that meant me making some sacrifices I would. On the other hand, it's not always the end of the world and sometimes the kids benefit from it. Only you will know the best way forward.
Just looked at a house refurb. Absolutely ****ing disgusting, possibly the worst I've ever viewed. There are two people living in it in total squalor. Don't think I could stomach the time it would take to strip it out. For that reason, I'm out.
Look outside those factors and at what the price is of the best house in the street costs mate, many a few quid lost in the ****.
It's overpriced. I know what it's worth and will let the vendor sweat it for a while. I might jump in later this year as if it's not sold by Dec, it's not getting sold til after Brexit. I'll just have to get someone else to strip it out. It would rent well.
