When my boy was little, like a toddler, he used to find me getting angry the funniest thing in the world.
IMO spankings should be reserved for times when a child is being disrespectful I think the misuse of spanking as a means of chastisement has led to its condemnation by many sectors of society. The aim of it is not to hurt the child but to remind them that there are consequences for negative or socially unacceptable behavior. When a child resents the authority of a parent, they are seeking to know where the boundaries lie. And it does cause a shock to the system that children need sometimes.
Same here. Missus would smack him, although she only had to do it a few times. A glare from me was usually enough. Don't see the harm in it personally.
You can do the same thing by getting down to their level, looking them in the eye and using a stern voice. No need for hitting them imo.
Always talk to them first and taking it up in stages from there. Smacking isn't out of the question for me but it's nearer the last resort. A parent always need somewhere to go if the current level of punishment doesn't work.
I don’t have kids but if/ when I do, they’ll be getting smacked if they step out of line. Smacking teaches a discipline that words can’t do. I often ignored being shouted at but the moment I copped a smack that was it. Tells you when you’ve gone too far and I see that as something that helped me growing up as I learned my boundaries, toughened me up a little as well.
This issue always suggests to me that smacking and beating is often confused. Big difference between giving a kid a smack on the backside or back of legs and slapping a face I do think parents in town grabbing the kid by the arm and pulling them back harshly is worse than what I deem a smack When I was in school the cane or slipper was normal and I saw the toughest if kids looking scared Now they give prizes to the kid who managed to go a week without swearing at a teacher or hitting another kid
To each his own.. .however what people often forget is that children are different too. All some children need is a stern look and that's enough. I was one of such children and therefore often managed to escape just by not being defiant. I found it a lot less painful. Other children seem to lack the sense that sometime's its better to not say anything and they need to learn respect for rules and authority than only be taught to them through the application of proper, loving discipline. Many parents don't know the difference between beating and administration of discomfort in a way that momentarily stings, but later the child realized it was for their best interests. If your child was playing in the street in front of an oncoming truck, would you merely shout at them, plead with them nicely or would you bodily shove them out of the way before they get hit? Sometimes a metaphysical shove is required in order correct errant behavior (although it may hurt at the time). But the key is the heart behind it. Was your punishment administered in anger? Or was it administered in love? Many people don't know the different. Sorry for the longish paragraph.
I agree with everything you said. Slapping on the face is unacceptable IMO. As in any other kind of abuse. Belts, planks, etc are not required to administer discipline so I don't know why they are used. A firm hand to the behind is enough and causes no lasting damage, in spite of what people may say.
Always copped it on the back of the thigh, was never hit in the face. Though I think I’d rather have got it in the face, back of the thigh was a nightmare, at that age, it was a 10/10 on the pain scale.
I'd go with both of these as spot on. I've never done it (bar a clip round the back of the head which is gentle and half in jest) myself but I've no issue with those that do use a slap on the back of the legs. I'd be bothered about hurting my kids through, my slap could turn out to be too bloody hard. I wouldn't know.
